MAY 2014 - Aiken Bella Magazine
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MAY 2014 - Aiken Bella Magazine
MAY 2014 contents • Intriguing • Empowering • Entertaining May Features Bella Favorites 10 Remembering My Mother 3 by Kathy Urban Huff 12 The Decline of Air Travel: From the Lack of Appropriate Dress To Paid Baggage Check By The Anonymous Traveler May 2014, Volume 11, No.4 Mailing Address 124 Trafalgar St., SW Aiken, SC 29801 Ciao Bella: Frivol! 4 Bella Buzz/May Community Calendar 8 Publisher Kathy Urban Huff [email protected] The Flying Foodie: When is a Pie NOT a Pie? Advertising Kathy Huff 803/439-4026 [email protected] by Chef Belinda 14 The Pit and the Perspiration: the History of Deodorant 24 Roots and Wings: Short-circuiting Sibling Rivalry by Phyllis Maclay 16 Passionate About Hydrangeas by Susan Elder by Betts Hunter Gatewood Staff Writers Anna Dangerfield, Phyllis Maclay, Susan Elder, Tony Baughman, Sally Bradley, Stephen Delaney Hale, Karen Guevara 26 The Art of Accessorizing 18 Merging Black and White High Schools in 1970-71 Part 1: The Right Men at the Right Time by Susan Victor by Anna Dangerfield 28 Good Sense Medicine: How Does Hormone Imbalance PutYou at Risk for Diabetes? 20 All About Gold! Part I: Tears of the Sun 30 Scene Around Town Graphic Design Jim Stafford by Zoom Heaton by Phyllis Maclay Bella is now online! www.aikenbellamagazine.com 22 Ah, Spring! Cleaning? by Karen Guevara 29 The Ones Daddy Left Behind ? by Debra Ann Halborn www.facebook.com/aikenbellamagazine Want Bella delivered to your mailbox Subscriptions (9 issues per year) are available via U.S. Mail for $30. Send checks payable to: Bella Magazine 124 Trafalgar Street SW, Aiken, SC 29801 May 2014 Ad Directory Aiken Artist Guild..............................................................28 Aiken Obstetrics and Gynecology Associates ................ 15 Aiken Vein...........................................................................9. Aiken Regional Medical Centers..................................3, 32 AllStar Tents and Events..................................................31 Auto Tech.......................................................................... 15. Barbara Sue Brodie Needleworks....................................29. Barbranne Clinton, Hair Stylist.........................................25 Celebrity Waiter Night, Children’s Place............................6 Cookin’ with Celebrity Chefs, Mental Health America-Aiken.............................................6. Chef Belinda Spices.........................................................25 City of Aiken-National Train Day......................................24. Cynthia Catts, RD, LD, Nutrition Therapist......................25 Daybreak Adult Services.................................................. 10. Doncaster—Lee Cavanaugh............................................25. Floyd & Green Jewelers................................................... 13. Guest Cottage...................................................................29. Janney Montgomery Smith-Ken Wiland, Sr.....................27. Mead Hall Strawberry Festival...........................................8 Nights of Horseplay anthology, Aiken Scribblers ............25 Nandina............................................................................. 11 Palmetto Ballroom ........................................................... 15. Palmetto Cakes.................................................................25. Palmetto Lane Cottage Rental.........................................25. Palmetto Package & Fine Wines......................................25. Ray Massey, Attorney.........................................................5. Richards Furriers..............................................................25. Rose Hill Estate ...............................................................25. Ruby Masters, Mark Taylor Insurance.............................25. Shellhouse Funeral Home..................................................4. Oh, Schmidt! Shelly Schmidt, Photographer................... 13. Shops on Hayne...............................................................29. Stables Restaurant at Rose Hill.........................................2. TLC Medical Centre..........................................................21. The Tailor Shop.................................................................25. Unique Expressions............................................................7. Wayne’s Automotive & Towing Center...............................9 WKSX-92.7 FM Radio.......................................................21. The Willcox-- Hotel, Restaurant, Spa...............................30 York Cottage Antiques......................................................29 Restaurant at Rose Hill H H H H “Fresh on the Menu”Indoor/Outdoor Seating Fabulous Food Cooked to Order Additional Bar/Patio Menu Available Weekly Live Music 803.648.1181 • www.rosehillestate.com Cover photo by Susan Elder 2 BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 Ciao Bella! Frivol! With the coming of Spring, thoughts turn more and more to the outdoors. With my wedding day in countdown mode, I have asked a legion of friends and family to pray for a beautiful day. I know that our wedding day will be beautiful despite any kind of weather, but all of our plans—ceremony and lawn party—are predicated on a balmy day. Of course there are contingency arrangements that include a tent, but the average recorded temperature that day is 77º, perfect! And I don’t mind clouds, but please, no rain! We want that afternoon to be perfect so we can frivol! Take time to frivol! Frivol is a new word to me. It came up as the word of the day on my iPhone dictionary app. We’re all familiar with “frivolous,” but I never suspected a verb associated with it. It means to behave frivolously; trifle; or to spend frivolously, as to frivol away one’s time. Isn’t that what we like to do outdoors? Remember when our parents sent us outside to play? In essence, we frivoled! Now that the Frivolous, Merry Month of May is upon us, I am enchanted with the metamorphosis of Aiken since the infamous Ice Storm of February 11. Gone are the total winter grayout of skies and BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 landscape, the ground littered with storm debris too terrible to imagine if we had not lived through it, the “dodgem car” exercises we went through on roadways until the major limbs and piles had been removed. Spring’s transformation has brought us blue skies, gentle sunshine and temperatures, azaleas in profusion (in time for a glorious Masters week), and nursery ads beckoning us to plant colorful flowers and healthy vegetables for summer dining. Now we can arrange our schedules to frivol, to bask in the sunshine, glory in nature’s bounty, breathe deeply of the fresh air, while suspending duty and worry. What a gift Spring is! you must punch in a security code on the door to gain access, just like in Prohibition. (Don’t worry; the code is posted on the chalkboard beside the door.) Servers sport garters on their shirts, and their hair styles looks suspiciously retro to that time period, perhaps with the aid of pomade? Well, sometimes my imagination runs wild while frivoling—that’s easy to do when experiencing a new place, well decorated, and offering an extensive, delicious menu and wine list for diners who want to feel “illegal” or “naughty,” as club-goers did in the 1920s. Movies depicting that time period showed frivoling at its best. (Think of The Thin Man.) Frivoling al fresco Annual frivolity at the Masters and elsewhere Most of Aiken’s restaurants that can possibly manage it have outdoor venues for dining these days. Later on, when it gets humid and buggy, we opt for indoor seating, but now dining al fresco is enormously appealing, even if only in our own yards. Rob and I have frivoled at and enjoyed the new restaurants recently opened downtown. Catch 231 in the Alley has the best of both indoor/outdoor worlds—a “regular” restaurant dining room plus an outside, shaded area that can be enclosed if the weather turns cool or rainy. With a menu covering many different catches and preparations of fish and seafood, it is a welcome addition to the downtown fraternity of places to dine. Good food, excellent service, and a pleasant atmosphere in which to frivol—what more could you ask for? Then there’s Speakeasy on Laurens Street, where Those of us lucky enough to have Masters tickets frivoled while under the spell of that unique tournament. We watched Bubba Watson make two birdies on 15 and on 16 during his five-hole birdie streak Masters Friday. Coming up are two May opportunities for excellent frivoling: the Lobster Race downtown on May 2 and the Bluegrass Festival at the Fairgrounds on May 9-10. (See Bella Buzz for details.) The possibilities for frivoling are endless. And the benefits are healthful and enjoyable, providing much-needed balance with the cares of the workaday world. So here is the Bella prescription for that annual condition called Spring Fever: Frivol! Frivol often and well! Spring is fleeting at best, so frivol while you may—in May! Kathy Huff 3 bella B U Z Z Z Z Z MAYcommunitycalendar Downtown Aiken May 4, 11, 18, 25 Aiken Polo Club’s Polo Sunday, 3 p.m., Historic Whitney Field. Admission to Sunday games is $5 per person at the gate, $25 for a ticket to the social tent. Social and playing members are admitted free all season long. May 2 2014 Lobster Races, Newberry Festival Site, Newberry Street and The Alley, 5-11 p.m. Lobster Race T-shirts are available for sale at Atlantic Broadband, Hitchcock Healthcare, AllStar Rents, Lionel Smith, Ltd., Ingate Pharmacy, Auten’s, and Screenprint Factory. T-shirt will count as your admission at the gate. Tickets are $10 at the gate, T-shirts are $20, students are $5, and children under 6 are free. For more details, visit lobsterrace.com. May 6 Aiken Center for the Arts May 22 www.aikencenterforthearts.org Hours: Monday through Saturday, 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Aiken County Historical Museum 122 Laurens St. SW 803-641-9094 433 Newberry St. SW 803-642-2015 May 1 Artist Reception, 6- 8 p.m. May 13 Aiken Youth Orchestra Spring Concert, 7 p.m. Admission is free of charge. May 1–19 Bottles and Brushes Art Parties, 6 p.m. A step-by-step fine painting for you and your friends. Bring your own snacks, glasses, and a bottle of wine or cocktails. No experience with painting necessary. May 1–31 Converse College Faculty Show The Fall Line, seminar at Birds and Butterflies, 117 Laurens St., Aiken, 7 p.m. The Fall Line is a geological, biological and cultural boundary separating two distinct regions, whose history helped shape the CSRA. The program will be presented by Dr. Walt Kubilius, environmental geologist at SRNS. May 1–June 6 May 10, 11 www.abbe-lib.org May 3 UNIVERSITY OF SOUTH CAROLINA AIKEN for Fine and Performing Arts Color Theory Workshop, 9:30 a.m.– 4 p.m. Sponsored by the Aiken Artist Guild. The cost is $35 and includes some supplies but participants are asked to bring supplies of their own. Registration includes food and drinks. Please visit aikenartistguild.org for more information. 471 University Parkway URS Center for the Performing Arts May 9 Aiken County Public Library 803-648-1438 Tickets and information: 803-641-3305 • www.usca.edu/ec May 3 Russian Landscapes, 7:30 p.m. Symphony Orchestra of Augusta in Aiken presents guest artist Rio Yanagatani. For ticket and event info, please call the box office. The Garcia Theatre Project, 12:30 p.m. A showcase of local high school drama. Tickets and information: May 1 314 Chesterfield St. SW 803-642-2020, David Osborne, “Pianist to the Presidents,” 7:30 p.m. May 11, 12 May 18 May 3 May 2, 9, 16, 23, 30 Aiken Choral Society collaborative concert with Bound to Sing boys’ choir from First Baptist Church, 3 p.m. at St. John’s Methodist Church. Tickets are $20 at the door. Movie, Mary Poppins, 1 p.m. Rated G. May 10 Lego Club, 4 p.m. Grades K- 5 can show off their incredible imaginations and super building skills every second Thursday of the month. LEGOs supplied. Aiken Community Playhouse Auditions for Nunsense. Auditions will be held May 18 at 3 p.m. and May 19 at 7 p.m. Nunsense will be perfomed July 18-9, 25-26 at 8 p.m., and July 20 at 3 p.m. Movie, Saving Mr. Banks, 3:30 p.m. Rated PG-13. May 8 May 10 Doin’ the Charleston: Origins of Jazz, 4 p.m. Mark Jones will discuss the origins of jazz music, as presented in his book, Doin’ the Charleston: Black Roots of American Popular Music and the Jenkins Orphanage Legacy. Literature and Medicine, talk and book discussion of Abraham Verghese’s Cutting for Stone, 7 p.m. Aiken Regional Medical Centers 302 University Parkway 803-641-5000 www.aikenregional.com Support Group Meetings: AA: Every Sunday and Wednesday evening, 7:15 p.m., Aurora Pavilion. May 23, 24 Bariatric: 2nd Wednesday, 6-7 p.m., ARMC, Bariatric Services, 2nd floor, room 209; register at 641-5751. DuPont Planetarium The Lunch Bunch–Bereavement-Grief Support for Adults: 1st Wednesday, noon to 1 p.m., ARMC, Cafeteria Dining Room A. 9 to 5 The Musical, 8 p.m. May 20 Shellhouse Funeral Home, Inc. The Etherredge Center 126 Newberry St. SW Story Time Friday. Ages 0- 24 months at 10:15 a.m., ages 2- 3 at 11 a.m., and ages 4- 5 at 11:45 a.m. National Train Day, Aiken Train Museum, 405 Park Ave. SE, Aiken, 10 a.m. There will be train rides for kids, balloon artist and crafts. Blown Away: Wild World of Weather, 9 p.m. Viewers will be blown away as they experience the fascinating world of weather in this planetarium show. Along with spectacular weather images, this program features a journey into space to explore the sun’s effect on weather. www.aikencountyhistoricalmuseum.org Hours: Tuesday-Saturday, 10 a.m. - 5 p.m.; Sunday, 2 - 5 p.m. Jeannette Shoemaker Exhibition Highfields Spring Festival, 118 Gaston St., Aiken, SC, 7:45 a.m. Part of Progressive Show Jumping, Inc.’s “Spring into Summer.” Visit psjshows.com/shows for more information. Mead Hall Strawberry Festival, 10 a.m.– 3 p.m. This fundraiser benefiting Mead Hall Episcopal School will feature games, food, a bake sale, entertainment, and plenty of fresh strawberries. Call (803) 644-1122 for more information. Summer Reading registration begins. Ruth Patrick Science Education Center 471 University Parkway http://rpsec.usca.edu/Planetarium/ pubshows.html Tickets and information: 803-641-3654 May 3, 10, 17, 24, 31 Solar System Adventure Tour, 8 p.m. Become a planet specialist, math expert, or flight engineer while your planetarium “spaceship” takes you on an education adventure past the sun, moon, and planets of our solar system. Appropriate for all ages. FAMILY OWNED & OPERATED Cancer: 3rd Wednesday, 3-4 p.m., First Baptist Church parlor. CSRA Dream Catchers -Traumatic Brain Injury and Disability, 1st Monday every month, 6-7 p.m., Walton Options for Independent Living, 325 Georgia Ave., North Augusta; register at 803-279-9611. Diabetes: 2nd Tuesday, 3-4 p.m., Odell Weeks Activity Center. Registration: 803293-0023. Lupus: 3rd Thursday of the month, 7-9 p.m., ARMC, Dining Room A Shellhouse-Rivers Funeral Home, Inc. JASON B. HUCKS Funeral Director JASON B. HUCKS Funeral Director 924 Hayne Ave., Aiken, SC 29801 642-3456 GRAHAM P. HALL Funeral Director ROBERT W. SHELLHOUSE, Jr Funeral Director CODY ANDERSON Funeral Director C. MITCHELL RIVERS Funeral Director Aiken’s Only On-site Crematory www.shellhousefuneralhome.com 4 715 E. Pine Log Rd., Aiken, SC 29803 641-4401 www.shellhouseriversfuneralhome.com BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 ZZZ Bella Magazine will run announcements for free for non-profit organizations, community events, and Bella advertisers. Space may be limited. Please email event information to [email protected] by the 15th of the month before the event. ZZZ Mended Hearts: 2nd Friday, 10:30 a.m. to 1:30 p.m., USCA Aiken Business Conference Center May 6 Pink Ribbonettes, the American Cancer Society Breast Cancer Self-Help Group for women diagnosed with breast cancer; guest speakers; 10:30 a.m. to noon at Millbrook Baptist Church. To register, call Irene Howley at 803-649-9267 or Diane Hadley at 803-644-3902. May 13 Zumba Toning, 5:30-6:30 p.m., Rooms 6 & 7, every Tuesday and Thursday. Zumba Toning combines targeted body sculpting exercises and high energy cardio work with Latin-infused Zumba moves. $35 for 10 tickets. Zumba Sentao, 5:30-6:30 p.m., Rooms 6 & 7, every Tuesday. Zumba Sentao workout takes the thrill of the fitness party and partners it with explosive, chair based choreography. $35 for 10 tickets. May 17- 19 Aiken Cares, Alzheimer’s Support Group, for family members and caregivers, 11 a.m. to noon, Cumberland Village Library, 2nd floor. Adult 40 & Over Tennis Tournament, 1700 Whiskey Rd., Aiken, 8 a.m. Call (803) 642-7631 for more information. May 21 Miscellaneous Venues and Events Look Good … Feel Better, free program for female cancer patients actively undergoing or about to start treatment, 1 to 2:30 p.m. at the Cancer Care Institute of Carolina at ARMC. To register, call 803-641-6044. May 26 Teens Under Fire, ARMC Dining Room, 4-6 p.m. This prevention/intervention program looks at youth drug abuse, violence and crime by exposing teens ages 12-18 to the harsh consequences of high-risk decisions. Odell Weeks Center 1700 Whiskey Road 803-642-7631 May 1–31 Fit 4 Ever, 10-11 a.m., Rooms 6 & 7, Monday, Wednesday and Friday. This lowimpact, moderate-paced fitness class is great for a total body workout. $27 for 10 tickets for residents and members. $56 for 10 tickets for non-residents. Yoga I, II, and Evening Yoga, Rooms 6 & 7. Yoga I: Tuesdays and Thursdays, 8:45 a.m. Yoga II: Fridays, 8:45 a.m. Evening yoga: Mondays and Wednesdays, 5:30 p.m. Cost is $31 for 10 tickets for residents and members. $56 for 10 tickets for non-residents. Zumba Gold, 2- 3 p.m., Rooms 6 & 7, Tuesday and Wednesday. Low-impact, high-energy, easy-to-follow, Latin-inspired Zumba fitness party. $35 for 10 tickets. Line Dance, 10-11 a.m., Weeks Center Rooms 6 & 7, every Tuesday. Learn country dances as well as those taught to jazz, big band and modern music in this moderately paced fitness class. $27 for 10 tickets for residents and members. $56 for 10 tickets for non-residents. Tax Planning Medicaid Planning Elder Law Estate Planning Revocable Trust Probate BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 May 3 The Brandisa Tour, Millbrook Baptist Church, 223 South Aiken Blvd., Aiken, 7 p.m. Two-time Gospel Music Association Male Vocalist of the Year Brandon Heath and two-time Grammy award winner Mandisa come together to combine their talents for an unforgettable evening of story and song. General admission is $23, VIP tickets are $45, priority seating is $35. Visit wafj.com for tickets and more information. Woofstock, Aiken SPCA, 333 Wire Rd., Aiken, 10:30 a.m. – 3 p.m. Woofstock, Dogs, Cats, and Music will be a day of fun for the whole family including demonstrations, contests, vendors, dogs, cats, and music. Entry to the event is free. Entry in the dog show is $10. Visit fotas.org for more information. Trolley Run, 9 a.m. Trolley Run is a 5K and Kids’ Fun Run held at the Family Y of Aiken County. Registration begins at 8 a.m. Aiken Horsepower Cruise-In, Home Depot parking lot, 1785 Whiskey Rd., Aiken, 6 p.m. This car show is the first Saturday of every month and is a great opportunity to see classic cars. May 4–31 Storytime in the Gardens, Hopelands Gardens (behind the Thoroughbred Racing Hall of Fame) 4 p.m. This free event, for children 8 years and under accompanied by an adult, will be held every Tuesday. In case of inclement weather, story time will be held inside the Weeks Activity Center. May 9, 10 May 6 Aiken Bluegrass Festival, Aiken Fairgrounds, 561 May Royal Drive, Aiken, SC, 5 p.m. 10th Annual Bluegrass Festival is gearing up for another stellar year of music, food, family fun, bike riding and camping. Proceeds from the festival benefit STAR Riding, a safe and effective therapeutic riding program for adults and children with mental and physical disabilities. Visit aikenbluegrassfestival.org for updates on the event schedule and to purchase tickets. General admission for Friday is $20, Saturday is $30 online and $35 at the gate. Savannah River Site Public Tour, Applied Research Center, Hwy 278 near the northern boundary of the site, 12:30 p.m. Call (803) 952-8994 for more information. Tours are free of charge and visitors must be at least 18 years of age. Must provide two forms of identification. May 10 LIFE Healthy Lifestyle Expo, USCA Convocation Center, 471 University Parkway, Aiken, SC, 9 a.m. – 2 p.m. This event will have fitness information, demonstrations and health screenings for all who attend provided by Aiken Regional. Call (803) 641-2860 for more information. May 12 Celebrity Waiter Night, various locations. This is an annual fundraiser benefiting The Children’s Place, Inc. Local “celebrities” serve dinner at Aiken’s finest restaurants. $25/ticket. Please call ( 803) 641-4114 for more information. May 20 Critters of the Night, Birds and Butterflies seminar at Silver Bluff Audubon Center, 4542 Silver Bluff Rd., Aiken, 7:30 p.m. Director Paul Koehler will teach us to listen for the calls of the whip-poor-will, Chuckwill’s-widow, owls, frogs and other night dwellers. Rain date will be May 22. Call (803) 649-7999 for more information. Outside Aiken May 2-3-4 3rd Annual Heritage Trail Pottery Tour featuring a reception at the Museum in Greenwood and weekend demonstrations and kiln openings at five host studios. Free. Visit www.facebook.com/ HeritageTrailPotteryTourSale or [email protected] for more information. May 3 Run for the Nations, North Augusta Greenway, 100 Georgia Ave., 8:30 a.m. North Augusta’s Greenway race with a mission. There are three different races: a 1 mile Family Fun Run (great for younger kids), a 5K and an 8K. All races start and finish on the Greenway Trail at the Brick Pond Park. Call (803) 279-6370. Wm. Ray Massey Tax Attorney Smith, Massey, Brodie, Guynn & Mayes, P.A. May 16 Savannah River Classic Fishing Tournament, Lower Savannah River Alliance, 12049 Burton’s Ferry Hwy, Allendale, SC, 29810. This is a two-day event that promotes youth and adult fishing. Friday night is a barbeque dinner and entertainment. The tournament is on Saturday with fishing beginning at 6 a.m. and weigh-in from 4 to 6 p.m. May 16, 17 Blackville Music and Arts Festival, 4717 Legion Rd., Blackville, 4 p.m. For more information, visit bmafestival.com. May 31 Last Saturday at the Park, The Living History Park, 299 W. Spring Grove Ave, North Augusta, 10 a.m.- 4 p.m. Perry Hill, the Backwoods Cabin, will be bustling with activities of the 18th century. Coming in June June 1 Gravatt’s Fishing Tournament, Gravatt Camp and Conference Center, 1006 Camp Gravatt Rd., 7:30 a.m. This 5th Annual Bass Fishing Tournament benefits the Camp Scholarship Fund and the Gravatt Environment Education Fund. Preregistration is required with a deadline of May 26. For more information, or to register, call (803) 648-1817. June 14 Beach Blast, Newberry Festival Site, 11 a.m.- 10 p.m. There will be food, and retail vendors, kids activity area, two water slides, and a dunking booth. Shag lessons and cornhole for adults. For more information, please call the Aiken Downtown Development Association at (803) 649-2221. June 20, 21 Aiken Jazz Festival, Newberry Street, Aiken. This annual event is ticketed on Friday followed by a free event on Saturday. Call (803) 648-1438 for more information. June 21 Business and Industrial Showcase, hosted by the City of Aiken, 10 a.m. – 2 p.m., USCA Convocation Center, 375 Robert M. Bell Parkway. Phone 803-643-4110 Facsimile 803-644-9057 [email protected] www.smbgm.com 5 Aiken Choral Society Collaborates with Bound to Sing in Spring Concert The Aiken Choral Society and Bound to Sing, the newly formed auditioned boys’ choir at First Baptist Church, are collaborating to present a spring concert on May 18 at St. John’s Methodist Church at 3 p.m. Tickets are $20 at the door. The boys, most of whom are shown in the photo, will begin the program with selections that highlight their treble voices. Both groups will sing the Mass of the Children by British composer John Rutter. Following this will be a composition by jazz artist Dave Brubeck sung by the 6 Aiken Choral Society, featuring I Have a Little Shadow by famous children’s literature author R. L. Stevenson. The final selection will be Prayer from the opera Hansel and Gretel, sung by both groups. The Aiken Choral Society is led by Maureen Simpson, Director of Music at St. Mary’s Help of Christians Catholic Church. The Bound to Sing choir is directed by James Bennett, Minister of Music at First Baptist Church. Accompanists are Kathleen Cartledge and Diane Mangiante. BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 New Ways to Snap it Up at Unique Expressions. New: Over 150 Snaps, Handbags, Jewelry, Sandals, and More Ginger Snaps is taking interchangeable fashion to the next level with bold new accessories like our sandals with charity tie-in. There’s also new apparel, over 150 new Snaps, jewelry, and handbag styles galore. No other interchangeable fashion line today offers this level of style, selection, and affordability. TM Unique Expressions Gifts and More 1521 Whiskey Road, Aiken • 803-641-7906 M–F: 9-6 • Sat: 9-5 BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 7 The Flyin g Fo ie od by Chef Belinda When Is a Pie NOT a Pie? Last month the Flying Foodie attended the annual cheffie conference of IACP (International Association of Culinary Professionals) in Chicago. The conference consisted of four 12-hour days, session after session of food and industry-related topics, trends, best practices and a plethora of expert guest speakers. The days ended with additional “culinary research” in the bar. That was where and when we solved the major culinary issues of the world! And it is one of those revelations that I bring to you. We had just come out of a 90-minute session discussing the correct way to prepare cornbread. Whether to add sugar or not; buttermilk or whole milk; yellow or white corn meal; cast iron skillet or glass casserole dish, and lard or oil. There were 40 participants in that session, which means there were 40-plus different opinions. Nothing was resolved - there are some things even chefs can’t agree on! So on to our research.... After having received our first research beverage of the evening, someone asked the question, “What is pie?” The room went quiet as we all looked around hoping there were baking and pastry chefs among us - surely they would be able to answer this question quickly so we could get back to our research efforts. I have to admit I didn’t see that [question] coming! So I pulled out my iPad because I wanted to capture the wisdom of all the food writers and cookbook gurus in the room to share with Bella readers. 8 A Pie by Any Other Name When we use the term “pie,” most of the time we use it incorrectly without knowing it. Like cornbread, there is no right or wrong way to prepare it, but depending on the techniques used and the outcomes realized, the name changes. What follows are the names and descriptions for the different variations of these pie-like pastries. All of these have two things in common - fruit filling and dough; but that is where the similarities end. Why is it important to understand the differences and make the effort to use the names correctly? Because these are techniques and outcomes that are steeped in tradition, and they deserve to have their integrity maintained. Otherwise we may as well just call it “food.” Never underestimate the importance of good research! Pie Pastry crust on the bottom, fruit in the middle, and pastry on the top - either fully covering the pie, or in strips, woven together in a lattice. The latter is almost always misrepresented as a “cobbler,” which it is not. Cobbler Fruit on the bottom and biscuit dough in pieces on top. The rounds of dough resemble cobblestones when baked. Thus, a cobbler. Crisp Fruit on the bottom, and a crispy layer on top. Unlike a crumble, a crisp usually has oatmeal and/or nuts in the topping. Crumble Fruit on the bottom, with a crumbly layer of streusel, usually made from only sugar, flour and butter (unlike the crisp, which contains oats and nuts). BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 Grunt or Slump Buckle Placed in the pan with cakelike batter on the bottom, and fruit on the top. As it bakes, the fruit settles toward the bottom and is suspended in the cake/dough. Like a cobbler, but made on the stovetop in a skillet, with fruit on the bottom and spooned biscuit-style dough on top. Pandowdy Betty or Brown Betty Fruit on the bottom, and rolled pastry on the top. Once out of the oven, the pastry is broken into pieces, allowing the edges to absorb the juices. Alternating layers of fruit and bread pieces or crumbs. Tart Pastry on the bottom only, with filling on top. Examples are Boston Cream, cheesecake, pecan or pumpkin. Belinda Smith-Sullivan is a food writer, personal chef, and pilot who enjoys exploring the “off the beaten path” culinary world. Her love of cooking and entertaining motivated her to give up a corporate career to pursue a degree in Culinary Arts from Johnson & Wales University. Now living in Aiken, she currently markets her own spice line called Chef Belinda Spices. Recently she was named “Artisan of the Month” by Augusta Magazine. Unveil Your Legs DR. ARTHUR DR. PENNINGTON Shorter Wait Times (803) 641-4874 BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 • AIKENVEIN.COM 9 Remembering My Mother by Kathy Urban Huff For a Mother’s Day gift in the early 1990s, when my mother’s health was failing, I bought a beautiful, large journal with blank pages. Then I set about writing (in third person) many of my favorite memories of her during my childhood years in Oakland, Nebraska, and in Aiken. In honor of Marian Paden Stewart Urban on this Mother’s Day, and in honor of all mothers, an excerpt from that journal is reprinted. One of the most fun occasions any child can spend with her/his mother is baking cookies. The earliest recollection I have of baking cookies is at the little house in Morningside [a neighborhood in Oakland, Nebraska]. What my role was in this tradition I have no idea, but it was always my job to lick the beaters … and the bowl… and the rubber scraper. To this day, I still lick them and enjoy the dough as much as— if not more than— the finished baked product. [Please understand that in later years, I dutifully offered them to my sons first, who traditionally refused that singular honor. Their refusal has always confounded me. I mean, it is just plain un-American not to lick the beaters!] Shampoo as an Art Form Now, having started me on my way to a later career in catering, Mom taught me how to perform various chores in the kitchen. In our various abodes, many domestic chores were performed in the kitchen, that were not at all food-related. For instance, when I was very young, probably less than five, Mom always washed my hair in the kitchen sink. I feel sure this was to 10 another function performed in the kitchen. In recollecting these things, it occurs to me that kitchens are always the chief “living” room of the house. Why is that party guests always congregate in the kitchen? Perhaps because the socializing of everyday life centered around kitchen activities: cooking, preparation for the next meal, cleanup—and even laundry and ironing in the days when the kitchen fire or water were required for these. And what about Saturday night baths? But I digress. Back to ironing. Ye Olde Ironing Board Kathy Urban Huff and Marian Paden Urban save her back, bending over the tub. It was great, glorious fun to see what work of art she could create out of my bubblehead! When she had enough shampoo to make me white-headed with suds, up went the horns, in all directions! Or curls! Or fearsome shapes, or wig-like, Martha Washington resemblances! And with every new “hairdo,” she carried me into the living room so I could appreciate my new image in the big mirror. Screams of laughter! Endless giggles! Shampooing has never been fun like that again. Too bad! Ironing, that odious household chore, was In the “olden days,” our ironing board was nearly always set up in the kitchen. In fact, I can’t remember setting up the ironing board in any other room, ever! The ironing board was very important for teenagers who had to look their crisp best. This look required “sprinkling” with water. (Nowadays we use spray bottles, with options marked “spray” and “stream.”) Or the garment might require starch, which, coming out of then-newfangled aerosol cans, might gum up the bottom of the iron. Most of the household’s fabric items crossed the ironing board: sheets, underwear, handkerchiefs, shirts, pants, dresses, skirts, blouses; even, I think, tea towels! Unfortunately, because of its position of importance in the dominant household room, it also gathered many non-related items: books, mail, dishes, toys, etc. Poor Mom! I am sure she yelled at us constantly to take care of things instead of depositing them on the ironing board. BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 Celebrations When I was a little girl, the most special dinners we ever had occurred on Sunday nights in front of the TV set. Mom called them “celebrations.” Why they were called celebrations I don’t know. Perhaps we celebrated that fact that Mom didn’t have to cook. Our celebrations generally consisted of a series of spreads, crackers, and canapés, made ingeniously out of leftovers and things like Vienna sausages. All menu items were served on a lazy susan where egg salad, roast beef spread, and Vienna sausages with chunks of sweet pickle speared with a toothpick alternated with crackers or party rye and slices of cheese. Yummy! [Editor’s note: I included the Celebration as a “recipe” in the Aiken Historical Cookbook because it was so meaningful to me.] In later years, when Mom became a dyed-inthe-wool college football fan, the celebrations grew more elaborate and were served to guests invited to watch football. Then came chipped beef dip, various cheese balls, and even hot hors d’oeuvres. One Christmas Mom gave me my very own lazy susan, which I actually wore out in my catering BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 business. The sight of a lazy susan still takes me back to those Sunday night celebrations on the coffee table. What a great way to eat! The Beloved Typewriter Mom has always been a typing whiz. Along with pots and pans, dishes and glasses, a typewriter has long been a kitchen staple. Set up on the end of the kitchen dinette, the typewriter came in handy for copies of recipes, high school reports and letters to a large family. When Ann and I went off to college (Florida State University), Mom never missed writing us letters from home—twice a week!!! This remarkable gift of love inspired in us both a love for the mailbox which is active to this day. Imagine getting a letter from someone you love two times every week for four years?!? Mom’s efforts at filling the front and back sides of her typing paper were sometimes laborious. I mean, twice a week meant we had to hear the neighbors’ news too. We loved it all: what last night’s menu was, how she and Daddy felt about the interim minister and his sermons, Daddy’s latest woodworking project, new recipes, and who was winning this week at their nightly after-dinner games of Yahtzee or Scrabble or Cribbage. Our friends at college loved the news too. It was a link for all of us with the stable life we missed at home. The letters didn’t stop coming either. They “slowed” to once a week to both of us. Mom used carbon paper since the news was identical, and sometimes enclosing original (no carbon) notes dealing with gift ideas for another family member or concerns over some recent or dreaded future happening. In fact, those letters kept coming for 27 years, surely a record! And even though phone calls started taking the place of some of those letters, I still get an occasional letter from Mom and I am grateful for the typewriter on the kitchen table and her love for us expressed through that typewriter for so many, many years. Kathy Urban Huff 1992 Happy Mother’s Day! 11 The Decline of Air Travel: From the Lack of Appropriate Dress to Paid Baggage Check by The Anonymous Traveler The way we were charge me $7 for a sandwich, why not just include it in the price of the ticket and serve it to me? No one wants to listen to the flight attendant announce the various “choices of the day” over the P.A. system! It makes you feel as if you’re in a downtown deli, not on your way to a very important business meeting or a romantic getaway. I still believe this does not warrant bringing a loaded hamburger or burrito onboard and eating it while seated next to your fellow passenger. How rude! Dressing Up, then Undressing I am sitting in the ATL (Atlanta Hartsfield) airport drafting a letter to the airlines asking them to ban, jeans, sneakers, flip-flops —oh hell, for that matter, ALL open-toed shoes— more than one piece of carry-on luggage, ugly people (I will supply them with this standard) and babies (okay, I am the wicked witch of the west on this one)!!!!!!! And while they are at it, they should block all cell phone usage until the federal government implements mandatory cell phone etiquette training and issues a certificate that all users must carry with them verifying successful completion. Most importantly, there should be a “sniff” machine, so anyone who has not had a bath or shower within the last 24 hours is not allowed to board. I also think—although I probably won’t get this one—that IQ’s should be a criteria for who gets to buy a ticket in the first place. I am ready to give up my business to go “lobby” Washington ... Now I will admit, it is difficult to dress your best knowing that when you get to the airport, you are going to have to practically strip down to your skivvies and/or be subjected to a “pat down.” Not even your six-year-old kid is exempt from this humiliation. The worst of it is removing your shoes and walk around on a nasty floor in your bare feet. I wonder how many people have contracted “who knows what” fungi because of this? Have you ever noticed that the person or people who are scrutinizing you all are wearing latex gloves? If you are required to remove your shoes, shouldn’t you at least be given a pair of disposable socks? (What am I thinking? - there goes another $25 charge.) According to USA Today, “The floor at The way we are The Glory Days I would like to restore air travel to its original glory days, when it was considered an event, not a cattle call. The Anonymous Traveler started her career as what was then called a “stewardess.” Yes, that was many years ago. That was when there was an unwritten code of travel dress and etiquette. Somewhere along the way, we settled into the idea that it was acceptable to dress inappropriately and behave in a manner more consistent with riding Greyhound (or a less desirable form of travel). And it disheartens me that modern day flight attendants have also fallen victim to these more “relaxed” travel rules. Back in the day, we served hot, tasty meals on any flight over an hour long. I remember serving 120 passengers a full dinner with cocktail service between Detroit and New York City. And we did it without the help of those fancy push carts that are on board now. And yes (for you Ginger Rogers fans) we did it in high heels! I have watched the decline of airline meal service and food over the years - from full meals to sandwiches to peanuts to nothing - especially on flights between Augusta or Columbia and Atlanta. If you are going to 12 security is the second germiest place in the airport. As you stroll barefooted through the security checkpoint, have you considered the millions who have gone before you? Athlete’s foot and other fungal infections can easily be left behind, just waiting for their next host.” The antidote: Wear or bring socks when traveling to avoid going barefoot. Period! What’s up with — • Charging for checked luggage; then providing “free” valet luggage checking at the gate? • People bringing on more luggage than the carry-on limit, then asking you if they can put their extra baggage under your seat? • Stuffing oversized bags in the overhead bin and damaging others’ computers, hats and coats, etc.? • Overweight people asking you if you “mind leaving up the armrest” so they can take up half of your already too-small seat? (If you need a seatbelt extension, you probably need to purchase two seats.) • People asking you, while you are obviously enjoying your magazine or book, “So you’re going to Chicago too?” Hell no, I am purposefully taking the wrong plane to Phoenix! Unless I invite conversation, assume silence is what I want. • Flight attendants who could benefit from a year’s worth of Nutri-System? • Allowing food to be brought onto the airplane? The smells! Eat before you leave home or allow enough time for a leisurely meal in the airport. Good air quality on the long flight is much more important. Why do you think in-flight smoking was banned? • Trying to board the airplane before your row is called? On-time departure is based on everyone following the rules. Just do it! • Lack of compassion for the elderly and families traveling with small children? Run them over, why don’t ya? • Everyone needing three seats in the waiting area?—One to sit in and the other two for bags and briefcases, so no one else can sit near them. • Canceling flights at the last minute? Okay, so only 10 people bought tickets. The airline is just figuring that out when we are close to boarding? And now we have to miss connections because somebody in charge wasn’t smart enough to cancel the flight ahead of time and rebook us so we don’t miss our events or appointments? • Mishandling and ruining my luggage while it is in the airline’s protective custody in the luggage area? Or making them disappear altogether? Not to mention cutting off my TSA-approved lock and tossing my clothing around. Now I have to iron everything (again) when I get to my destination!! • Airlines charging different prices for the same seat on the airplane based on when it was purchased? Unfortunately, my emergencies aren’t scheduled, and you want to add monetary insult to the injury I am suffering over the death of a loved one. One last thought. During peak seasons, holidays and weekends, flights get overbooked (I still haven’t been able to figure this one out!). Often there are still empty seats in First Class. On such occasions, the agents must upgrade passengers to First Class seats in an attempt to accommodate as many inconvenienced passengers as possible. Guess who gets upgraded? Not the jeans-wearing, McDonald’s bag-toting, lookinglike-you-just-rolled-out-of-bed passenger. Keep this in mind! Well, The Anonymous Traveler will be taking several air trips over the course of the summer; and will be watching, photographing and writing about your traveling faux pas. This summer, as you plan your vacation, if your plans call for air travel, think about more than just getting there in the sloppiest way possible. Remember what your mama always told you. “If you are unfortunate enough to get into an accident, what would you want to be wearing, other than clean underwear?” Bon voyage! BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 13 The Pit and the Perspiration Weapons for protection in the battle against body odor Do you lose your charm When ya raise your arm? –Ray Stevens Everdry followed as the first effective antiperspirant and was dabbed on with a cotton pad. It took a long time to dry, stung the armpits, and made holes in clothing. By the 1950s the ballpoint pen inspired marketers to create a roll-on deodorant called Ban. The early ‘60s brought the first aerosol can named Right Guard, and a million-dollar industry was born. In 1977 the Environmental Protection Agency restricted the use of chlorofluorocarbon propellants and the Food and Drug Administration prohibited using aluminum zirconium, both ingredients in aerosol antiperspirants. Sprays’ popularity tanked and companies scrambled to create alternative ingredients. Stick antiperspirants became, and remain, the most popular kind of deodorant and antiperspirant today. by Phyllis Maclay • Fragrance. They mask bad odors and make the user feel clean. • Alcohol. It feels cool on the skin and helps the deodorant to dry quickly. • Talcum powder. Absorbing oil and moisture, it reduces friction and chafing, and helps the underarm to feel dry. • Emollient oil. Castor, mineral, or sunflower oils can be used as moisturizers to help stick antiperspirants glide on easily. Emollients also keep the antiperspirant from flaking off. • PEG Distearates. Polyethylene glycol is an emulsifying agent that allows easy washing off of the product. • Butylated hydroxytoluene (BHT). Slows down the deterioration of the product as it is exposed to oxygen. Back when humans were hanging around caves and carrying fire, there was no doubt about it; they stank. Their foul smell helped protect them from hungry predators that preferred better aromatic dinners than a rank caveman. Ancient Egyptians invented the forerunner of deodorant by masking their body odor with concoctions of cinnamon and citrus in their baths and direct application on their underarms. Carob and incense were also rubbed on their bodies to battle the bad body stench. Egyptian ladies liberally lathered layers of scented wax on their heads so it would melt in the desert sun, spreading a pleasant Risk or Rumor? scent that slid down their The effects of sweaty skin. antiperspirants on the body The Greeks were have been debated for decades. constantly bathing in Health issues are often disputed, but after sifting scented waters and liberally splashed perfumes on through rumors and questions, scientists seem to their bodies. Good (and more probably wise) hosts agree on these findings: A small percentage of users gave their guests baths and bottle of aromatic oils. In the battle against bad body odor, there is a Ancient Romans not only bathed in scented baths, develop contact dermatitis from aluminum-based vast selection of deodorants and antiperspirants to products. Alcohol can also cause irritation, along but they also soaked their togas in vats of oilwage the war on funky body aromas. Whether you with propylene glycol. doused water. The household pets and horses were swipe it, roll it, or spray it, nobody said it better Rumors persist on the Internet about a drenched in perfumes. than Ray Stevens in this song: connection between the use of antiperspirants and Things got really funky in the Middle Ages breast cancer. The American Cancer Society and when the Church deemed it a sin to be naked— the National Cancer Institute Perspiration Zone even in the bath. It was state there is no evidence easier for the populace Alfred McKelvy, owner of a linking the two. Do you want your love life to bloom? to simply skip bath time deodorant named Sea-Forth, sold Do you lose your charm and instead use perfume his product in ceramic whiskey When ya raise your arm? How Does It Do That? jugs because he “couldn’t think of to disguise the rank Antiperspirants have anything more manly than whiskey.” smells of their bodies. Then run out and buy some agents that are classified by Those with not enough Tear out and get some the FDA as drugs that reduce money to buy perfumes Search around and find some or stop sweat, which help to eliminate bacteria, and scented oils simply … stank. You gotta have some which in turn eliminates body odor. Aluminumbased ingredients interact with electrolytes in the Mum’s the Word Worry free, sweet smelling, easy to apply body to create a type of gel plug in the sweat gland, In 1888 the first trademarked deodorant Hours of protection, keeps you dry which inhibits the secretion of sweat. Aluminum named Mum was marketed out of Philadelphia Spray it on, roll it on, spit it on, wipe it on salts also make a plug in the ducts that blocks using zinc chloride and a wax paste that was Rub it on, splash it on, put it on, get it on perspiration. applied to the underarms. It was sticky and tacky, Your perspiration zone Here are some ingredients found in many but it killed bacteria which decreased body odor. [Continued on next page] antiperspirants: 14 BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 When you exercise, do you draw flies? Then run out and buy some Tear out and get some Search around and find some You gotta have some Worry free, sweet smelling, easy to apply Hours of protection, keeps you dry Spray it on, roll it on, spit it on, wipe it on Rub it on, splash it on, put it on, get it on Your perspiration zone! Worry free, sweet smelling, easy to apply Hours of protection, keeps you dry Spray it on, roll it on, spit it on, wipe it on Rub it on, splash it on, put it on, get it on Your perspiration zone Do you want your love life to bloom? Then you’ve got to put a stop to all those fumes Natural Deodorant Crystals have become a popular alternative to commercial deodorants, especially in the Far East, Thailand, and Mexico. Phyllis MacLay is a published writer of articles in Country Woman Magazine, Parent Magazine, Easy Street Magazine, and Lancaster, Pennsylvania, newspapers. Originally from Pennsylvania, Phyllis moved to Aiken from Texas. She has published children’s plays and is now selling online and at Booklovers Store in Aiken her latest novel, A Bone for the Dog, the chilling story of a father trying to rescue his little girl. (Visit www.PhyllisMaclay.com) Her latest published work Sweet Brew and a Cherry Cane appears in the anthology Nights of Horseplay by the Aiken Scribblers. Do you offend, all of your friends? Then run out and buy some Tear out and get some Search around and find some You gotta have some Palmetto Ballroom Get Fit. Sizzling 2 Left Feet? No Rhythm? Have Fun. Summer Special! Learn No Problem! to Dance! Swing, Latin, andand Swing, Latin, Ballroom Dancing Ballroom Dancing No Partner Necessary! Swing, No Partner Necessary! 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Hydrangeas are cool and reliable, and no Southern garden is complete without at least one. Hydrangeas are easy to grow, there are dozens and dozens of kinds of hydrangeas, and many of those are available nearby. Nurseries Caroliniana, located in North Augusta, lists about 60 hydrangeas in its online catalog, subdivided into different species, with many cultivars listed under each species, complete with photos. Cold Creek Nursery, Palmetto Nursery, and Woodlanders carry them as well, and so do all the big stores. Many grocery stores even carry them in the floral department. Some hydrangeas are more sun tolerant than others, and different species have different pruning demands, but overall the demands are the same: morning sun, afternoon shade and plenty of water, but good drainage. Mopheads and Lacecaps The mophead, in the species H. macrophylla is the most popular of the Hydrangeas. Soon they’ll be in bloom around town and they do make quite a show. Also in the species H. macrophylla are the lacecap hydrangeas (Hydrangea macrophylla normalis). They are identical in nearly every way, except in appearance. Up close you can see that H. macrophylla — Photo by Susan Elder the mopheads have tiny fertile flowers, hidden beside large, snowball-shaped clusters of sterile flowers. Lacecaps display a ring of showy, sterile flowers around a disc of tiny fertile flowers. “Ayesha” is a slightly fragrant mophead with a large “mop” composed of dainty, cupped lilac16 like petals in many shades of pink, blue and mauve. Another macrophylla, “Fuji Waterfall,” is an irregularly shaped lacecap with double florets of white with the slightest blush of pink. “Lemon Wave” has variegated foliage in shades of green and yellow. “Blushing Bride” has the palest pink florets and claims to bloom all summer long. “Penny Mac,” named for the late Penny McHenry of Atlanta, who founded the American Hydrangea Society, is a popular pink/blue mophead that is said to bloom all summer also. Repeat bloomers appear to have been a boon to hydrangea popularity, promising us a hint of that beautiful blast of blue well into October. The “Endless Summer” group has gotten a lot of press, but some of our nearby experts say that there are other repeat bloomers that are as good. One called “Eva Lyon Holmes” is offered at Nurseries Caroliniana. New cultivars of H. macrophylla appear every year, and if you’ve decided to plant a hydrangea garden, you will be thankful that your nursery of choice doesn’t offer every one, because then you could never decide which plant to take home. First consider, how large is your space? Most hydrangeas grow 4-6 feet tall, though there are some compact cultivars. Do you prefer mophead or lacecap? Blue, pink, red, or white flowers? Don’t get too hung up on red around here – those brilliant colors usually don’t stand up in our heat. There are so many choices, but you can change your mind! How many plants let you do that? If you plant a hydrangea that’s pink, you can in many cases turn it to blue, according to Ted Stephens of Nurseries Caroliniana. He reminds us that if we want really blue hydrangeas, we can put aluminum sulfate around them. Aluminum sulfate can be found at most garden centers, and it works pretty fast. If you see early stages of flower bud formation, you can still put out the aluminum sulfate and get the “bluing” effect a month later. Be careful not to overdo or the aluminum sulfate can burn your plant. Turning from blue to pink, or keeping a pink hydrangea pink, is a bit more difficult around here. Our soils are typically acidic and so, left alone, most pink/ blue hydrangeas will go to blue. You want to block the aluminum from the plant to keep it pink, and, according to the website www.hydrangeashydrangeas, which claims to be “all about the enjoyment and care of hydrangeas,” you might try using a high phosphate fertilizer, applying dolomitic lime several times a year, or by just keeping your plant in a separate pot. by Susan Elder Hydrangea serrata is considered by some to be a subspecies of H. macrophylla and by others to be its own species. In any case, reviews on it are mixed. Michael Dirr declares he hasn’t been able to open his garden heart to it. Nurseries Caroliniana Hydrangea serrata — Photo by Susan Elder lists 12 different Hydrangeas serrata in its online catalog, so Ted Stephens must be a fan. Most are lacecaps (save a cultivar called “Maiko”) and appear to be more cold hardy than H. macrophylla. The flowers of H. serrata are somewhat more subdued. Woodlanders Nursery here in Aiken lists a cultivar of serrata called “Woodlander” that was grown from seed obtained from a Korean arboretum. All of these are certainly worth a look. Oakleaf Probably the next most popular in this huge clan is the Hydrangea quercifolia, or “Oakleaf Hydrangea.” Dirr calls it “this most beautiful native shrub.” And it is indeed. With leaves shaped like those of an oak tree that change from green to deep red over the summer and fall, interesting bark, and grand flowers, it’s a winner. Though it’s a bit tricky to find the right place for your Serrata Perhaps you have packed your garden full of mopheads and you want to try something else. Hydrangea quercifolia — Photo by Susan Elder BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 white in July. There are many other cultivars in this group, among them “Lime Light” which is promoted as having lime-green flowers. Annette Weese at Cold Creek Nursery told me she waited three years to get “Strawberry Vanilla” paniculatas in stock. This is a winsome shrub that produces large, pointed flowerheads in midsummer that begin green, turn creamy white, then blushing pink and finally to a rich shade of rose. New flowerheads continue to come up so that different shades are present all at once. I want one. Arborescence Hydrangea quercifolia - Snowflake Photo by Susan Elder Oakleaf, you will be happy when it is happy. After trying unsuccessfully to grow “Snowflake,” I finally put out an S.O.S. to Bob McCartney from Woodlanders Nursery, where I’d bought the plant, and he suggested I pull up something else that he considered unworthy of the place it was holding in my small garden, to make room. Once ensconced on the west side of my house, where it got no morning sun and blasting late afternoon sun, my “Snowflake” and “Snow Queen” have thrived. Go figure. Sometimes there’s just no substitute for expertise, no matter how well you can google. Next to last, but not least, is the Hydrangea arborescence. Dirr tells us that the natives in the Paniculata Hydrangea paniculatas, so called because the flowers grow on long, cone shaped panicles, grow well in a variety of climates, and tolerate pruning, if size is an issue, or if your spouse has a heavy hand with the clippers. H. Paniculatas need more sun than macrophyllas. “Chantilly Lace” is a popular cultivar with large, well-balanced flower heads. Flowers open in mid-June and are still Hydrangea arborescence species “meld into the shadows of the eastern North American forests,” though nothing jumps out and screams, “LOOK AT ME, LOOK AT ME!” like a border of “Annabelles.” Mopheads “Annabelle” and “Grandiflora” are certainly the most outgoing members of the clan, often producing such large heads that they need to be propped up so as not to drag in the dirt. In the wild, H. arborescence gets plenty of shade. In the home garden, plant it as you would a H. macrophylla – morning sun, afternoon shade. It may be cut back in winter to tidy up. And the last to mention, though there are other hydrangeas not so well known, is the climbing hydrangea. It is a climbing vine which seems to me to be difficult to grow in these parts, though I hear it can be done. To Prune or Not to Prune? Arborescence and paniculatas can be pruned nearly any time except right before they bloom. For macrophyllas, regular pruning is seldom necessary. However, Ted Stephens says, “All hydrangeas benefit from some rejuvenation pruning sooner or later. If you need to cut them back, I would also suggest using something other than 10-1010 fertilizer. This has way too much phosphorus and phosphorus tends to build up in the soil since it doesn’t leach. I much suggest a much higher nitrogen rate and a slow release fertilizer. We (Nurseries Caroliniana) sell a 12-6-6 which has trace elements and is slow release for three to four months. “I would also suggest a liberal application of lime, for the calcium needed for plants to rejuvenate. If you were to apply a cup of a fertilizer, then apply four cups of lime. Use the highest quality lime that you can get, which means that it has a high screen test. That means you will get the effects of the lime in three to four weeks rather than months. The lime might make your hydrangeas pink rather than blue, because it might raise the pH just enough to tie up the aluminum in the soil. And it is the aluminum which makes hydrangeas blue, not the pH, even though they are connected.” In my garden, the macrophyllas seem to have suffered the most over the winter. Even the old established bushes have new growth at the bottom, and the old branches above are either bare or have sparse growth on the top and sides. It seems best to wait and see if the bare branches fill in. If they don’t, remove them. If they do fill in, celebrate. Then, after the bloom time is past, it might be time for that rejuvenation pruning Ted Stephens mentioned. Speaking further of pruning, my friend and fellow Bulldog, Don Connelly, went to hear a talk given by our favorite coach, Vince Dooley, also a hydrangea lover, and Dr. Michael Dirr, who literally wrote the book on hydrangeas for American gardens (Hydrangeas for American Gardens). Don asked Dr. Dirr about the “Vince Dooley” hydrangea that drapes onto the pathway through his garden and asked whether he should tie it back or trim it. Dirr looked at him and said, “Can you walk around it?” Don said, “Well ... yes.” Dirr said, “Well, then, walk around it.” Don’s wife, my old friend Kay, pointed out that she’d been telling him that for years. Susan Elder is a former elementary school teacher and garden writer. These days she spends her time babysitting for her adorable granddaughter. Hydrangea paniculatas BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 17 Merging Black and White High Schools On May 17, 1954, the United States Supreme Court handed down Brown vs. Board of Education, the decision that outlawed segregated public schools. But it was not until the 1960s that South Carolina schools began to integrate, with a few black students attending previously all-white schools. Harvey Gantt integrated Clemson College (now Clemson University) in 1963, and Henrie Monteith Treadwell, Robert Anderson and James Solomon followed suit at the University of South Carolina a few months later. Two federal laws helped South Carolina’s desegregation process. One was the 1964 Civil Rights Act which banned segregation. The other was the 1965 Elementary and Secondary Educational Act which offered millions of dollars in federal aid to school districts that increased their AfricanAmerican enrollment. South Carolina’s governor from 1965-1971, Robert E. McNair, was instrumental in seeking peaceful solutions to comply with federal court rulings. Compared to that in other Southern states, South Carolina’s desegregation was not as violent. McNair’s handling of the process was praised by ABC television commentator Howard K. Smith, Massachusetts Senator Edward Kennedy and others. While the voices of musicians Jimi Hendrix and Janis Joplin became silent in 1970, the voices of antiVietnam War protestors could be heard throughout the United States. In May of that year, four Kent State University students were killed in an anti-war rally, and nine more were injured. It was an intense and turbulent time for the country. The Right Men at the Right Time: The Leadership of J.O. Willis and James A. Taylor by Anna Dangerfield Schofield High School, soon to be called Aiken High School-Schofield Campus. Aiken High School would house the 11th and 12th grade black and white students. Many credited two leaders with the peaceful transition of the 1970-1971 school year. They were J.O. Willis, principal of Aiken High School, and James A. Taylor, principal of Aiken High SchoolSchofield Campus. Mr. James Otis “J.O.” Willis Dr. Evan Flynn agreed about Mr. Willis’s focus on academics. “J.O. was very supportive of academics and was an academician. He got along well with those teaching in the higher academic area such as Mrs. Bobo and Miss Barlow. We were usually number one in the state for National Merit finalists, due to the academic focus and the outstanding teachers,” Dr. Flynn said. “My brother worked in the State Department of Education and helped me with places to apply when I graduated from college,” Dr. Flynn continued. “The draw for me to Aiken High School was that it was the third largest high school in South Carolina at that time, and it ranked high in academics. That ranking was attributed to the students’ performances and to J.O.’s leadership. He understood what Aiken High School should be. I was hired as an assistant principal in the early 1970s.” Dr. Flynn found Mr. Willis to be an open and understanding person who guided his staff. “As an assistant principal, I disciplined the students. Once I had to appear before the school board for something about which the board did not support us. J.O. went with me and could tell I was antsy. He simply reached his arm around me and told me to settle down. I figured if my quiet, supportive boss wasn’t upset, then I wasn’t either. I always later thought of him as my quiet boss,” he said. “My dad and mom moved me and my brother Jim to Aiken in the late ‘40s from Bishopville, South Carolina,” said daughter Carolyn Willis Williams. “Dad had been the high school principal and football coach in Bishopville and came to serve as principal at Aiken High School. “His passions were his family, St. John’s Methodist Church, and Aiken High School. He also liked to garden, walk his dogs, watch USC sports, and play the piano while at home. However, he spent the majority of his time on the weekends doing school work,” she said. Carolyn and Jim remembered their father as a soft-spoken man who ran a tight ship at Aiken High. “Behind his back, some of the students would affectionately refer to him as ‘J.O.,’” Carolyn said. “He spent a great deal of Closer to Home time in his office listening In the 1960s, Notice of Transfer Opportunito students, saying that he ties for Desegregation began appearing in the Aiken received the most satisfaction He Knew His Faculty Standard newspaper. These were student opportuniJ.O. Willis, principal of Aiken High School from working with the Mr. Willis also knew how ties to transfer to schools where they could obtain a troubled ones. His door was always open to students, to find the right person on campus to get the job desegregated education. Though compliance prepafaculty members, and parents.” done. “When older teachers retired, J.O. tried to ration had begun long before, all South Carolina bring in good, young teachers who wanted to come public schools were desegregated beginning with the to Aiken High School. He’d talk about his policies, 1970-1971 school year. Pushing Higher but couldn’t get some to consider Aiken High School because they thought he was the ‘old guard,’” Dr. Academics Flynn said. “He would call me into his office and Mr. Willis pushed for high tell me to talk with them. I was the same age as they academics at Aiken High School, and could often gain their confidence to see him which was known for its large in a different light. He knew which faculty or staff number of yearly National Merit member could handle which situation on campus. Scholars. Students also received “J.O. delegated responsibility to assistant scholarships to some of the top principals and department heads, and then subtly colleges in the country. held them accountable. You knew he was there, and you knew what he wanted. You’d go talk and ask for something and if he said no, he would encourage you to go back and rethink and strengthen your request. But after a third request with no as a response, there Aiken High School – 1970-1971 would be no fourth.” Mr. Willis must have enjoyed spending time One of the many changes with his faculty because Dr. Flynn remembered that to Aiken’s Area One school he always ate lunch in the lounge with his teachers. district would be the integration “He’d walk in with a brown paper bag, always eating of Aiken’s previously all-white the same things,” Dr. Flynn said. “First he would eat Aiken High School and the his banana, and then share stories with the faculty. previously all-black Martha He was a thin man with slender fingers and when Schofield High School. Both he was upset, he would go to C wing into the small races of 9th and 10th grade Martha Schofield High School – 1970-1971 auditorium and play the piano. He was a good students would attend Martha 18 BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 organist and pianist and his music was enjoyable. I would eventually have to go down to find him and see what was bothering him.” AHS Becomes Comprehensive He was key in making Aiken High School a comprehensive high school by fighting for the vocational wing to be used for vocational skills and horticulture. “He fought hard and forcefully,” Dr. Flynn said. “They named the wing after him. “He was a strong leader who was ahead of his time with some of his beliefs about how things should go. When some of the decisions were out of his control, he dealt with them. He got what he wanted, and he always wanted what was good for the kids,” Dr. Flynn said. They must have been aware of this support, because the Key Club organized a tribute to honor him and express appreciation for “his constant interest and concern for those under his supervision,” and the Eight-Fifteen Club presented an award for his devotion to the school. Carolyn remembers there were many meetings in preparation for the 1970 school year. “My father and Mr. Taylor worked closely together and became strong allies,” she said. “They wanted to make each student’s education their top priority. In this endeavor, they developed a deep respect and friendship. “It was a trying time for all to make sure it worked. Dad was determined that Aiken High would remain a top school in the state. With the changes, new people, and turmoil that accompanied the Savannah River Plant’s arrival in Aiken in the ‘50s, he was well-prepared for the changes that came in the late ‘60s and early ‘70s,” she said. Mr. Willis’s 29 years of service as principal of Aiken High School and 40-year career as an educator ended when he retired at the end of the 1975-1976 school year. Mr. James A. Taylor “This time was stressful for my dad,” said daughter Dr. Dorothea Taylor. “He was a religious man and went to Cumberland AME church every day and prayed before school. He believed that God was the head of his life. “Dad was a disciplined man and a strong disciplinarian: he said what he meant and meant what he said. There was no wavering, no gray area. He raised me to believe that as long as I studied, I could achieve anything. He always said to be a person of your word, and expected others to be the same,” she said. “Education was important to him, believing it to be the key to success. His dad died when he was young, and he worked since he was seven years old. His grandfather and grandmother instilled in him that for a black family, the key in life was to get an education. They told him that would be his only way out,” Dr. Taylor said. He was always a hard worker, working every day except Saturday. That was the day he went fishing. On Sunday, Mr. Taylor even worked before he attended church. Mentoring Students “Some of my dental patients today credit my father for putting them back on the right track. Though he had a degree in chemistry, he BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 was also a coach,” Dr. Taylor continued. “He made sure that his players were well-rounded, including taking them to Smith Hazel Center to swim. On game day, he expected his players to wear shirts and ties—even if he had to buy some—because he said they represented the school and needed to dress accordingly,” she said. “He’d scold his athletes, but they knew he was there for them. Perhaps God knew Dad had many kids to care for, so that’s why He sent him only one biological child.” She remembers that he worried about everyone, especially about her. “Paint was thrown on his new car at home,” she said. “And there were death threats at our home and at school. Around the time of integration, when I was in the 7th or 8th grade, someone called our house and told me that my mother was dead. Dad was at work, and I went ballistic. It turned out to be a prank. I was usually shielded because Mom always answered the phone. “Dad was concerned about the transition in 1970, and he wanted to make it smooth. Whether it was the parents, staff, or students, he wanted to try to make certain that blacks and whites were treated fairly. He was fair and he compromised, but when he made a decision, that was it. He was not one to delegate but wanted to see things through. He talked to people how he wanted to be talked to. “On reflection, he was proud of Aiken and how easy the transition was without all of the violence. On TV there were riots, but we did not have that behavior. The tension here was kept under wraps,” she said. “After my father died, Mr. Taylor became a surrogate to us,” Martha Schofield High School graduate Ernestine Pressly Thompson said. “We were neighbors. He took us to games and expected us to be at his car afterwards with NO boyfriends along. Once my boyfriend and I were walking down Richland Avenue, and we were holding hands. Mr. Taylor passed by in his car. The next day at school, he called us into the office and told us never to hold hands in public. He was such a disciplinarian. He gave people a choice when they were in trouble— three days or three licks.” Points Well Taken William Price knew Mr. Taylor well. “He was a character and a cut above,” said Mr. Price, principal of Second Baptist Preparatory School. “He did not play. When I was in the 7th grade at Schofield, Mr. Taylor taught PE. I was in his class, and I was a mouthy student. There were about 45 boys in our class, and Mr. Taylor was holding a football and going over the fundamentals of the game. I sat in the back of the class, and all of a sudden, I realized everything had grown quiet. I saw the football coming directly at me. I ducked, and it hit the wall. He never said a word, and I never opened my mouth in his class again. “He coached me in basketball and track in the late ’50s. We won state championships in basketball under him, though football was his forté. One night, we played against a rival out of Orangeburg, and we lost. Mr. Taylor didn’t say a word as we later put our stuff up in the gym locker rooms back in Aiken. As we passed his office on our way out of the gym, he simply said, ‘Practice in the morning at 8:30.’ At 8:15 the next morning, unplanned, we players met on the street corner and entered the locker room together. Football equipment sat everywhere. James A. Taylor, principal of Shoulder pads were in one area, Aiken High School - Schofield Campus shoes in another. Mr. Taylor said, ‘Find something that fits you, and put it on.’ We didn’t play football, we played basketball! But we did as we were told. “After we were dressed, he made us jog behind his Pontiac car—which everybody around the Schofield community knew. We jogged behind as he drove down Sumter Street, past Smith Hazel and on. He wanted to embarrass us for our sluggish performances the night before. He knew we could do better. After that experience, we averaged 105 points per game and went through people like water,” he said. Saturday Fishing Mr. Taylor’s relaxation was fishing. “After I was married and had come back to work for him in 1968, Mr. Taylor would arrive at my house unannounced early on Saturday mornings. He was there with his boat, wanting me to go fishing. And I would go,” Mr. Price said. “We bonded over fishing, work, coaching and athletics. Not only was he my principal and boss, but he was also my mentor. When he later moved to Aiken High School as principal over both campuses in 1976, he invited me to follow him. I became his assistant principal and stayed until he retired. Though it was hard, I made remarks at his funeral. It was something I wanted to do.” The Challenges Both former students and teachers credited Mr. Taylor and Mr. Willis for their leadership during this turbulent time. Both men were veteran educators, both well-educated—with bachelor’s and master’s degrees. Mr. Willis earned his undergraduate and master’s degrees from the University of South Carolina while Mr. Taylor earned his bachelor’s from Shaw University and his master’s from New York’s Columbia University. They also both had the support of their wives. They were held in high esteem by those with whom they worked and are still remembered by students and faculty who had been under their leadership. The vocational wing at Aiken High School was named for Mr. Willis, and The James A. Taylor Student Activities Center sits on the Aiken High campus. The accolades and honors would come later. But in 1970-1971, they faced a challenging school year. With differing leadership skills, they needed to bring their schools through important changes. In the Summer issue of Bella: Merging Black and White High Schools, Part II: Second to None in ‘71—The Transition for Teachers and Students Anna Dangerfield is a freelance writer whom readers will recognize from her long association with BELLA Magazine. She has also been published in other secular and religious magazines. Anna has a BA in English, a BS in Pharmacy, and is a volunteer with Mental Health America of Aiken County. She and her husband have three sons, two daughters-in-law and two grandsons with whom they enjoy travelling and spending time at their beach home on the South Carolina coast. 19 AU Atomic #79 Gleaming, Glistening Gold Part I: Tears of the Sun by Phyllis Maclay Are you looking for gold, friend? Look around you; anything useful to you is pure gold, pure silver! — Mehmet Murat ildan Since 3000 BCE it has been beaten, twisted, embossed, soldered, and melted into jewelry, idols, coins, and dental fillings. The most malleable metal, gold gleams and glistens as nuggets and bars, or settings for precious gems. This chemical element, atomic number 79 (symbol AU), can be hammered to the point of transparency. Alloys are often added because of its softness. Gold content is measured in carats, with 25k gold being the purest. Ka-ching! The first gold coins were probably used in Asia Minor around 600 BCE in Lydia, with images of their King Croesus stamped on them. Lydian gold for coins was refined by using high furnace temperatures and salt mixed with silver. The use of gold coins spread to other civilizations, and soon joined silver as currency in parts of Greece and Rome. You Had to Be Special To ancient Egyptians, the sun god Ra was their highest and most holy god. They equated the brilliance of gold to sunlight, even believing the precious metal was the skin of the gods. In the earliest periods of Egyptian history, only kings could wear gold. As years passed, others wore gold as a status symbol, and demand for the treasured metal led to mining done by slaves who labored in oppressive conditions. A panning and processing camp was discovered along the Nile in 2007 where grindstones were unearthed. These twofoot high rocks were used to crush ore for processing gold. The Egyptians crafted funeral masks that were King Tut to be permanent substitutes for the pharaohs’ faces for eternity. King Tutankhamen’s tomb was said to contain more than a ton of gold. His mummy rested inside sarcophagi nested inside each other; each one was 20 crucifixes, and other religious artifacts were almost exclusive in their usage of gold. The light of God is symbolized by golden icons and mosaic backgrounds. During the 12th century, the Zeno Chapel in Rome was designed with walls and ceilings adorned in golden mosaics. The gold leaf was a common decoration during the Middle Ages. solid gold, engraved and adorned with gemstones. These ancients were also the first to become experts in crafting gold. They created idols, jewelry, and vases used in religious ceremonies. Because gold was considered to be divine, it was not made into coins nor used in daily life. Rams and Mines Ever wonder why Jason and his Argonauts were chasing the golden fleece? Greek miners took the hide of a sheep to use as a sieve to trap the heavier flecks of gold while sand would pass through when mixed with propelled water. When saturated, the “golden fleece” was hung to dry then gently hit to remove the gold that would then be gathered from the ground. Ancient Greece used gold for money, and mined it in the Middle East and Mediterranean regions. Since most of it was discovered in streams, gold was believed to be a dense form of combined sunlight and water. It was the Romans who used massive mining techniques to obtain gold. In the Spanish mine of Las Medullas, this civilization built gigantic aqueducts in the mountains to mine more than 30 million ounces of gold, equivalent to 1,218 tons. The Roman economy relied on the acquisition of gold, and it became the heart of the monetary system. Roman emperors designed coins with their own images minted on them, giving them a sense of importance knowing their picture was in their subjects’ purses, pockets, and palms. The Imperial Treasury had a monopoly on gold mining, and the treasury was run by the Senate. The Empire’s salaries were paid with this gold, as were the funds for imported goods for the State’s pleasure. Romans were not interested in artistic or decorative uses of gold. Smithies did craft jewelry for women who adorned themselves with gold bracelets, earrings, and pendants. During the Middle Ages gold was equated with the brilliance of heaven and used for creating images of God. Church buildings, furniture, Asian Treasures In the center of Beijing lies the Forbidden City with a palace built using gold leaf motifs and decorations. The Chinese rulers who lived there used gold in creating their furniture, decorations, draperies, and clothing. The majestic palace was used during the Ming and Qing Dynasties, when the emperors spent almost their entire lives inside its walls. Housing 8,704 rooms, this palace had courtyards, pavilions, workrooms, and apartments for the imperial families. Gold was used liberally to adorn this luxurious structure. The largest statue made of gold is the Golden Buddha in Bangkok. Weighing 5.5 tons, this creation was produced between 1600 and 1750 and encased in wood to disguise its value. Many years later, during an attempt to move the statue, the casing cracked open and movers discovered the Buddha was solid gold. El Dorado The Aztecs of Latin America scorned the Spaniards for their obsession with gold; they preferred the beauty of jade. While gold jewelry was sometimes worn as nose and lip ornaments, the Aztecs liked their ornamental face masks, bracelets, and necklaces made with jade. Only royalty could wear headdresses decorated with gold since gold was believed to hold the sun’s rays, earning it the phrase tears of the sun. Aztec chiefs ordered that their images be created in gold, along with idols of their gods. Some of the temples used gold coins as decoration. Like the Aztecs, Mayans used gold primarily for religious purposes and funeral relics. In Peru, the Incas worshiped the sun, stars, and nature, and created temples adorned with gold; some were filled with jars of gold and silver. In the Temple of the Sun in BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 Cuzco, Peru, a golden circle representing the sun looks over a sacred garden where each element of nature is symbolized by a pure gold statue. In a few Incan tribes the warriors wore gold necklaces, bracelets, earrings, and headbands. When the Spaniards learned gold artifacts were buried with the dead, they looted the graves and bragged of their riches. This sparked the rumor that a land of gold (El Dorado) existed somewhere in South America, which was one of the main catalysts for colonization in Latin America. Look for Part II of AU Atomic #79 Gold in the Summer issue of Bella. Phyllis MacLay is a published writer of articles in Country Woman Magazine, Parent Magazine, Easy Street Magazine, and Lancaster, Pennsylvania, newspapers. Originally from Pennsylvania, Phyllis moved to Aiken from Texas. She has published children’s plays and is now selling online and at Booklovers Store in Aiken her latest novel, A Bone for the Dog, the chilling story of a father trying to rescue his little girl. (Visit www.PhyllisMaclay.com) Her latest published work Sweet Brew and a Cherry Cane appears in the anthology Nights of Horseplay by the Aiken Scribblers. Frank Davis In The Morning Tony B In The Afternoon ...and Carolina Beach Music All Weekend Long! DIABETES SELF-MANAGEMENT TRAINING Medicare Approved and Billable as well as most insurance companies From a pharmacist’s perspective and a nationally recognized Diabetes Educator, ZOOM H. HEATON RPh • CDE Clinical Nutritionist TLC Medical Centre, Inc. 190 Crepe Myrtle Drive • Aiken, SC 29803 Call Jackie for appointment 803.648.7800 BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 21 Ah, Spring! Cleaning? by Karen Guevara What is it about the arrival of Spring that evokes the primal need to clean our nests? There are theories about the healthfulness of airing out our “caves” to eliminate illness-carrying filth and staleness accumulated during the long cold winter. But even without that less-than-lovely image, there’s something about Spring that evokes new beginnings. Don’t we all just want to throw open our doors and windows to let in a spring breeze? (Now that the pines have spewed their pollen plumes into the air, we can breathe again. Rivers running red is a sign of the apocalypse; rivers running yellow-green is a sign of Masters Week!) And once we let all of that light in, we often discover the need to purge some of the clutter we’ve accumulated. I got an early start with our February snow/ice event. With my normal daily functions all canceled or postponed, I looked around the house and thought it a wonderful time to embark on cleaning out the back bedroom – you know the one – the “I need to sort through this but I don’t have time so I’ll just put it here until I get around to it” room. Guilt and Decision Making The dilemma, of course, is to determine what to keep and what to discard. I realized that: 1. Some things deserve to be saved and cherished 2. Some things deserve to have an example or two saved, and the remainder discarded 3. Some things are perfectly useful items that I don’t use and deserve a new home 4. Some things are just junk and deserve to be trashed The greatest dilemma of all, though, is to make decisions on individual items, and to make them without guilt! For me, the secret of purging items that were “emotionally packed” was to give them each a few dedicated minutes. I would hold it and examine it, allowing myself a few minutes to relive the happy or painful memories it evoked. (I actually set a timer for two minutes, just to keep me moving through the process.) I sat with the memory for a few minutes, and then held my thoughts and let go of the physical object. I realized that allowing myself those moments of reflection allowed me to let it go of things I’d been hanging onto for years. Strategies Here are some of my purging strategies for your consideration. Old family photos For my favorite photos of family ancestors, I snapped Smart Phone digital images of them and shared them with family members. If no one expressed interest in having the originals, I threw them out. My logic – these photos were destined to continue collecting dust bunnies under my bed, unseen and unappreciated. I gave them digital life, and they will live on in that format. No guilt. 22 Childhood memorabilia For my son’s youth, sports, and academic achievements, I created shadow boxes (glassfronted wooden boxes that sit on shelves or hang on the wall). In one, I mounted each of my son’s Cub Scout Pinewood Derby vehicles along with various pins and patches. In another, I mounted the personalized nameplates stripped from his multiple sports trophies, along with one actual trophy figure from each of the sports he played (baseball, soccer, lacrosse and football) and a few special game balls he’d earned. (I donated the blank trophies to a local non-profit children’s club for their use.) In another, I mounted my son’s high school graduation announcement, mortarboard and stole, varsity patches, homecoming court sash, and a few other mementos. He treasures these displays – tangible memories from his childhood versus forgotten boxes in mom’s garage. Childhood clothing I have kept various favorite T-shirts from my son’s childhood to make into a quilt. Hobby stores sell materials to stabilize the T-shirt fabrics and provide easy-to-follow guides for making a quilt top to display the shirt logos. There are even quilters who can quilt the entire thing for you. This project is on my “to do” list, and I think it would be wonderful to make this quilt for a grandchild using the parent’s childhood clothing. I’ve seen some who have mounted a favorite baby outfit into a shadow box, along with photos capturing the child wearing the item. This is perfect for those lovely smocked outfits that babies so quickly outgrow but are so beautifully detailed. Adult clothing Okay, so I may never fit into my bell bottoms from 1976 again. My strategy for dealing with clothing that I no longer wear is first to ask myself whether I would wear it if I could wear it. Styles change, and my tastes change. Every Spring, I do a very quick swipe through my closet to identify “maybes” and move them to a spare closet. If I never go retrieve an item in the ensuing year, it gets dropped into a bag for donation. If I still can’t let something go, it stays in the closet another year. Family letters I have taken Smart Phone digital images of many old letters and shared them with family members. I have also scheduled time with my son to read through old letters. When my son was in college, we pulled out a box of my mother’s old letters, written to her parents when she was away at college. My son was only eight months old when my Mama died, so he never had the opportunity to know her. But through these letters, he met her. He was delighted to “hear” her talk about hating some of her classes, having to keep up her grades to maintain her scholarship, worries about getting a job, troubles with friends, and dating. I loved sharing my Mama with him this way. For me, keeping those letters all those years was about this one sharing moment with my son. Childhood art and schoolwork I have taken Smart Phone digital images of many favorite pieces of art, where they will live on digitally forever. Some friends have mounted hooks, about three feet apart along a wall, with a wire running between. They then insert their children’s masterpieces into clear plastic sleeves and clothes pin them along the wire. As the children and their portfolios grow, the wire displays the best of a child’s early and more recent pieces. I kept digital images of the haiku poetry my son wrote about the family dog and his self-assured fame as a football superstar. I kept a digital image of the note from my son’s teacher telling me he’d had to go to see the school nurse because he’d picked his nose until it bled… Ahh, now that one has some serious blackmail potential when he eventually brings home the girl of his dreams! Knickknacks I was surprised at how many nice but useless items I had accumulated over time. I ended up placing unused or very gently used items into a box for charity donation. One of my favorite destinations for these items is Sand River Woman’s Club for its two-day holiday store in December, where children from Children’s Place, Brothers and Sisters, and Habitat for Humanity homes can come shop for gifts for their family. What to me is just another unused Christmas mug is, to those who shop in their “store,” a wonderful gift to give to a loved one. BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 There are many worthy, local charities that accept donated items. Many of them even pick up from your home. The November 2013 edition of Bella listed local charities and their “Wish Lists” (an archived copy can be found at www. aikenbellamagazine.com). Call the numbers below or look at the archived issue to best match your items with interested organizations. • Aiken Area Council on Aging (803) 649-100 • Aiken Boxing Youth Development Pal (803) 645-6338 • Aiken Center for the Arts (803)641-9094 • Aiken Churches Together Serving (ACTS) (803)649-3800 • Aiken County Habitat for Humanity (803) 642-9295 • Aiken County Historical Museum (803) 642-2015 • Aiken County Public Library (803) 642-2020 • American Red Cross – Aiken Area Chapter (803) 641-4152 • Brothers and Sisters of Aiken County (803) 641-3888 • Child Advocacy Center of Aiken County (803) 644-5100 • Children’s Place, Inc. (803) 641-4145 • Community Medical Clinic of Aiken County (803) 226-0630 • Cumbee Center to Assist Abused Persons (803) 649-0480 • Formula for Life (803) 644-9624 • Golden Harvest Food Bank (803) 640-6793 • Goodwill Industries of Middle Georgia and the CSRA (803) 659-7694 • Helping Hands (803) 648-3456 • Hitchcock Healthcare (803) 293-4322 • Medication Assistance Program Lower Savannah (803) 649-7981 • Nurture Home (MHA Aiken County) 803-641-4164 • Ronald McDonald House Charities of Augusta (706) 724-5901 • Rural Health Services (803) 380-7013 • Tri-Development Center of Aiken County (803) 642-8811 • The Family Y of Aiken County (803) 349-8102 • The Salvation Army (803) 641-4141 Can’t bear to think of donating items that still have good monetary value? Consider options to sell your unwanted treasures. Those of you who are technically savvy may consider selling items online through eBay or Craigslist. eBay is one of the largest online market places, reaching over 100 million users globally. The eBay.com website offers easy advice on how to describe items, price them, ship them and pocket the proceeds. Craigslist is a regional online classified ad service, with hubs in Augusta and Columbia to reach a broad audience. Of course you can always pursue printed classified ads in local and regional newspapers. There are multiple consignment shops in the local area, where you can have a retailer sell your merchandise and return a portion of the proceeds to you. Here are a few located in Aiken: • Audrea’s Consignment Formal Wear – (803) 642-3169 • Found Treasures – (803) 226-0203 • Upscale Resale – (803) 641-6404 • Aiken Consignment Gallery – (803) 226-0203 • Centsibly Chic Consignment Boutique – (803) 641-3100 • Kid To Kid – (803) 648-0063 • Closet Collection – (803) 641-3100 You may also decide to have a yard sale to sell your items. Consider joining neighbors to host a collective event, since the bigger the sale, the larger the customer draw. The CSRA hosts one of the largest community yard sale events on the first Saturday in June each year. The Peach Tree 23 Yard Sale is a 44-mile-long yard sale along SC Highway 23, between Batesburg-Leesville and Modoc, South Carolina. Their website at Peachtree23.com provides details on how to get a vendor space, or you can contact them at (803) 275-0010. Important papers This was a hard one for me! After all, what papers are important, and which ones can be thrown out? And oh my, what about all those old papers that have my social security number printed on them – even old checks! The www.USA.gov website offers some excellent guidelines on “Managing Household Records.” They recommend Many offer strategies and coaching, and many can be hired on a “by room” basis. Their services are offered as “Professional Organizers” and include some in Aiken, Columbia, and Augusta. Here are just a few local companies who offer this service: • All About Organizing – Augusta (706) 513-8912 • At Your Service – Aiken (803) 292-8081 • Clutter Fairies – Grovetown (706) 373-3739 • Organizing with a Personal Touch – Columbia (803) 202-0204 In addition, Shred360, offers a free-to-thepublic Shred Day on Saturday, May 17, 2014 at Security Federal Bank, 2587 Whiskey Road in Aiken from 10 a.m. – 1 p.m. Shred360 regularly organizes free Shred Days within the community in an effort to raise awareness to the ongoing issues of identity fraud. You may drop off personal items for immediate, secure destruction. Happy Spring! Happy cleaning! Document Bank statements Birth certificates, marriage licenses, divorce decrees, passports, education records, military service records Contracts Credit card records Home purchase and improvement records Household Inventory Insurance, life Insurance, car, home, etc. How Long to Keep It 1 year, unless needed to support tax filings Forever Until updated Until paid, unless needed to support tax filings As long as you own the property Forever; update as needed Forever Until you renew the policy Investment statements Shred monthly statements; keep annual statements until you sell the investments Investment certificates Until you cash or sell the item Loan documents Until you sell the item the loan was for Real estate deeds As long as you own the property Receipts for large purchases Until you sell or discard the item Service contracts and warranties Until you sell or discard the item Social Security card Social Security statement Forever When you get your new statement online, shred the old one Tax records 7 years from the filing date Vehicle titles Until you sell or dispose of the car Will Bank statements what to keep in Active Files, what constitutes Dead Storage (most things older than three years), what Items to Discard, and How Long to Keep various documents (see table). They offer great guidance on creating a filing system, and what documents should be in a “Grab and Go” kit for emergencies. Papers with Personal Identification Information: One of the hardest areas for many of us is what to do with those reams of old papers we’d love to just throw away but which boldly display Social Security Numbers or other sensitive information. I do not have a paper shredder, so for these, I stand at the sink, with a stopper in the bottom and start a small trickle of warm water from the tap. Then I look at each paper to see how much of the page I need to “destroy.” I tear off the sensitive parts and throw them into the water, and throw the rest of the page into a recycle bin. After about 30 pages or so, I slurry the wet paper pieces into a sort of papier maché gunk, then squeeze the pulp into fistfuls and throw them into a trash bag for disposal. It goes surprisingly quickly as an alternative to shredding the documents. Until updated 1 year, unless needed to support tax filings Karen Guevara is a recently retired executive from the Department of Energy, where she most recently served as a Savannah River Site senior manager. She spent much of her federal career in Washington, D.C., including a stint in the White House Office of Management and Budget. She has wisely decided to remain in Aiken where she is an active Rotarian, recreational golfer, choir singer, and budding writer. Professional Assistance Because for many of us, the need to free ourselves from “stuff” can be so overwhelming, there are actually companies who offer this service. BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 23 by Betts Hunter Gatewood Short-circuiting Sibling Rivalry If you have more than one child, you have probably faced the issues of sibling bickering, rivalry, jealousy, and other unpleasant emotions felt by otherwise loving family members. The first thing we all need to know is that these interactions are normal even in the healthiest of families and are felt by all brothers and sisters whether they are the youngest, oldest, or middle child. These feelings are felt by children as young as two when the newest family member comes home from the hospital and also by the preteen as she watches her older sister get all the attention when she goes to her first prom. So if these feelings are normal, then why do some of us outgrow them and others carry them into adulthood, sometimes poisoning an otherwise beneficial relationship? How can we raise our children through these emotionally immature years to give them the best chance of getting along with their siblings? If we are able to do this, we can watch them mature and evolve into adults who enjoy the wonderful relationships adult siblings can have with each other. Here are three ideas to consider that will help your children act like they are glad they have brothers and/or sisters every now and then: 24 Divide and conquer From time to time plan special time with one child at a time. This could be an outing, an hour or two, or a weekend if you are fortunate enough to have someone close by to help with the care of the other child(ren). Focus on this child’s individuality and interests without talking about the brother or sister. This undivided time with you will go far in establishing each child’s sense of your love, interest, and fairness the next time you are perceived siding with or favoring the brother or sister. Stay out of it “It” refers to squabbling, arguing, and other scenes that you hear from the other room. So often one child is very good at setting the stage for the issue, then plays the innocent one whom we rush to rescue. This will certainly fan the fires of sibling resentment. Of course you need to be aware of serious belittling and physical abuse and administer serious consequences if it occurs. Have no assumptions and make no comparisons If your older child likes broccoli, action movies, and the color purple, be open to the younger one hating all green foods, loving Disney, and the color aqua. Try not to say, “Well, your sister always eats her veggies ...” The more we can help each child have a sense of self without being compared to siblings, the more he or she will feel secure in his or her own skin and not need to put down anyone else. Families see our best and our worst sides, but the more we can help our children appreciate and respect themselves and each other, the more we will see their “best” sides. Betts Hunter Gatewood is a National Board Certified school counselor with 28 years’ experience in elementary and middle school counseling. She holds an EdS degree from USC and has authored or co-authored four books on school counseling strategies and activities. She and her husband are the proud parents of three adult children and have four granddaughters and a grandson. BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 Celebrate the Year of the Horse with Aiken’s own collection of horse tales.. BUSINESS DIRECTORY Nights of Horseplay is available locally and at Amazon.com. See www.stevethewriter.com/Nights-of-Horseplay.html FUR STORAGE TIME MARK TAYLOR A N D A S S O C I AT E S , L L C Ruby Masters FURRIERS Ask me about aging into Medicare 620 ELLIS ST. AUGUSTA, GA (706) 722-5138 803-349-7468 CLEANING & GLAZING EXPERT REPAIRS Barbranne Clinton Call Barbranne Clinton for a New Spring Look! 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Catts, RD Nutrition Therapist • Weight Reduction • Menopause Issues • Cholesterol & Blood Pressure Lowering • Eating Disorders • One-on-One Counseling Call today for more information or to schedule an appointment! 803-642-9360 • [email protected] Lee Cavanaugh Wardrobe Consultant 803.649.1583 [email protected] 5 Burgundy Road SW, Aiken SC 29801 5160 Woodside Executive Court in Aiken, SC Palmetto Package & Fine Wine Shop “It’s our pleasure to serve you!” 803.649.6961 [email protected] Downtown Aiken Cottage for Rent 230 Park Ave SW • Downtown Aiken BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 531 Palmetto Lane Call 803-645-9917 for details 25 The Art of Home Accessorizing by Susan Victor, Guest Writer Every city has iconic landmarks that may draw tourists to visit, but if you ask locals of that city what to see or do, many do not name things like the Eiffel Tower in Paris or Times Square in New York. In fact, many will describe to you the smaller details—the café tucked away that always smells of coffee beans and fresh croissants or the red door on the townhouse across the street. When you return home, you find yourself describing your favorite little café or side street too. Oftentimes, the best part of the city you visit, the meal you eat, the outfit you wear, or your favorite room in the house is in the details. The final stages of a home design project are often the most frustrating for clients. After investing money, time, energy, and emotion, the home owner will say, “It just doesn’t look pulled together,” or “It isn’t what I envisioned.” The art of successful accessorizing is not rocket science. Just follow these quick and easy six steps and you will find that your home will not only be beautiful, but it will also have soul. 2. Consider the scale and composition of the room you are accessorizing. If a furniture piece is large, consider one or two small accessories for balance. Create groupings of things, like bowls or picture frames, to keep your eye moving around the room. A good rule of thumb is that the largest accessory item should be no more than two times the size of the smallest item. 4. Mix texture and colors to create contrasts. Many clients are often similarly wedded to one texture or color scheme in a room. Instead, consider the unexpectedness of different textures and color contrasts in a space. Vary accessories from surface glass, metal, and ceramic on wood. Introduce tactile warmth by adding a soft rug under a metal coffee table. Combining glass, shell, granite and mirror can make your bathroom shine! Similarly, on a mirrored table, use natural wood, copper and silver to make the surface pop! This antique chest functions as a bar and the scale and composition of the accessories provide a beautiful still life. 1. Edit, Edit, Edit. Coco Chanel warned women, “When you accessorize, always take off the last thing you put on.” Similarly, when accessorizing a room, less is always more. This well-edited dining room has a simple center table scape and plenty of white space around the china and silver in the cases. 3. Balance symmetry and asymmetry. One design faux pas that homeowners often make is relying on constant symmetry when accessorizing. A home should have a balance of symmetry (e.g., the same nightstand and lamp on both sides of a bed) and asymmetry (e.g., a mantel with a group of candles on one side and a large vase on the other). Similarly, when combining accessories in an asymmetrical fashion, consider varying heights by using books as risers on a table. In this way, you can create groups of small, but interesting, still lifes. In this master bathroom there is a perfect mix of symmetry (paired vanities, sconces, mirrors and rolled towels) and asymmetry (vase of tulips on one side and a freestanding mirror on the other side.) Depth of design is achieved in this sunny den with a metal wall hanging and side table, a woven basket full of colorful glass balls on a wooden table, and a mix of textured fabrics on the blue sofa. 5. Showcase collections. Collections of things show our personality and are great conversation starters with guests! Do you have a collection of antique jewelry boxes? How about ceramics or antique hats? These items should be on display, as they help to create a space that feels inviting and warm because it is personal and unique. This homeowner artfully showcased her collection of antique hats in the master bathroom. 26 BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 6. Develop an expressive design. This step is the most difficult to describe to a client because it is very personal to the homeowner. In many ways, expressive design is just another way evoking a “Wow! That’s you!” response from your guests. These surprising accessories can often end up being the centerpiece of a space. For instance, a red painting in a muted black and white room, a zebra print rug, or a blown up black and white photograph above a flowery chair can transform a room. The bottom line ... be brave, show the world or at least the guests you invite into your home, your wonderful personality and style. Susan Victor is co-owner and a lead designer for Nandina Home & Design with locations in Aiken and Atlanta. Susan believes that memorable home interiors are defined as much by emotion as they are by beauty. They make us feel happy, comfortable, inspired, and alive. A successful design project in her opinion is one that reflects her client’s personal style and delivers both emotion and beauty. Susan loves every aspect of the interior design business and feels fortunate to have had the opportunity to be the lead designer on projects ranging from simple paint and furniture selection to full-scale renovation and ground-up construction. Honor Our Military on Memorial Day with a Flag A personal collection of pottery plates are expressively displayed above a simple vignette on a hall table. BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 27 Good Sense Medicine by Zoom Heaton How Does Hormone Imbalance Put You at Risk for Diabetes? When we think of hormonal imbalance we often think of hot flashes, night sweats, moodiness, brain fog, and low libido. What if you’re experiencing fatigue, anxiety, irritability and sleepiness, and these symptoms worsen after a meal? These symptoms could be diabetes related. Blood sugar disorders can range from low blood sugar (hypoglycemia) to high blood sugar (hyperglycemia and diabetes). These conditions should be taken seriously. What many people don’t realize is these problems may be hormone related. Let’s begin with basic physiology. When we eat, insulin—a hormone secreted by the pancreas— is released to carry the sugar that was made from the breakdown of our foods into our cells in the form of glucose for energy. Insulin also promotes sugar and fat storage for long-term energy reserve. The balancing act is a very delicate one and many factors can interfere with it. Years of eating too much of processed foods can vex the pancreas so much that it stops producing insulin properly. This can cause a very serious debilitating disease called diabetes. Diabetes is a life-threatening disease affecting all major organ systems, nerves and tissues. Complications of diabetes include: heart disease; blindness; kidney disease/failure; nerve damage (neuropathy) and pain; foot ulcers, leading to lower limb amputations; skin problems such as infections, sores, and itching; and dental disease involving teeth and gums. 2014 Aiken Artist Guild Member Show June 8th—July 3rd Hypothyroidism Low thyroid function affects blood sugar. When you’re hypothyroid, your cells aren’t very sensitive to glucose. So even though you may have normal levels of glucose in your blood, you’ll have symptoms of hypoglycemia (fatigue, headache, irritability, etc.). Also, since your cells aren’t getting the glucose they need, your adrenals will release cortisol (your stress hormone) to increase the amount of glucose available to them. This causes a chronic stress response that suppresses thyroid function. Adrenal Dysfunction The adrenal glands are responsible for many functions in the body including blood sugar regulation, producing and maintaining the body’s energy levels in conjunction with the thyroid, and producing stress-monitoring hormones like adrenaline and cortisol. High cortisol due to prolonged stress can create weight gain (particularly around the mid-section), muscle wasting, high blood pressure, and blood sugar imbalances that can lead to diabetes. Overworked adrenals eventually crash, leading to adrenal exhaustion where the body is unable to maintain adequate adrenal hormone production. Symptoms of overtaxed adrenals include extreme fatigue, irritability, inability to concentrate, insomnia, addictions to either sweet or salty foods, anxiety, depression, sensitivity to cold, allergies and diabetes. Location: Aiken Center for the Arts Reception—June 12, 6-8 pm awards announced at 7:00 Free and open to the public— wine and music Public will vote at the reception on the Van Zile People’s Choice Award Further information visit: www.aikenartistguild.org 2013 Best of Show Award by Deborah Tidwell-Holzcheiter 28 Every aspect of our lifestyle can affect hormone balance and, just as importantly, hormone balance can profoundly influence every aspect of our lives. Sex Hormone Imbalances Decreased estrogen and excessive testosterone levels in women may contribute to abnormal sugar and insulin resistance (when cells are not able to take in glucose, amino acids and fatty acid). Estrogen is responsible for 400 different functions in the female body. One important function is improving blood sugar metabolism and decreasing the risk of developing diabetes. On the other hand, excessive amounts of testosterone levels in women can result in insulin resistance with increased glucose and insulin levels. This may contribute to increased obesity, risk of heart disease and diabetes. On the flip side, testosterone levels in men generally decline with age. But this decrease in testosterone can also result in insulin resistance. Unfortunately, men make more estrogen as their testosterone levels decrease. This promotes fat storage in men, interferes with the actions of testosterone and increases their risk for insulin resistance and diabetes. In conclusion, hormonal imbalances have an impact on your health putting you at risk for a lifelong devastating disease that can kill. Next month: Dry eye sufferers, look for the Good Sense Medicine column on how hormones affect dry eyes in the Summer issue of Bella. If you or someone you know who may be experiencing hormonal imbalance putting them at risk for diabetes, please call TLC Medical Centre Pharmacy for a hormone and nutritional evaluation by our compounding pharmacist specially trained in integrative medicine to help you get your health back before it’s too late. If you are newly diagnosed with diabetes or just needing a refresher course, please call to make an appointment with our nationally Certified Diabetes Educator for education and management sessions. We are an AADE accredited diabetes self-management facility taking all insurances. Zoom Heaton is the owner of TLC Medical Centre Inc., an Independent Community Pharmacy and Medical Equipment facility located at 190 Crepe Myrtle Drive off Silver Bluff Road. A pharmacist, she is a graduate of the University of South Carolina. She is a Certified Diabetes Educator and is certified in Immunization; she is also the chief compounding pharmacist at Custom Prescription Compounders, LLC, inside TLC Medical Centre, Inc., specializing in Bio-Identical Hormone Replacement Therapy and Women’s Health. Saliva testing is available at TLC/CPC. Call 803.648.7800 or visit nooneshoerx.com for more information. BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 © Debra Ann Halborn The Ones Daddy Left Behind In 2008, while living in Bath, Maine, I attended a Memorial Day ceremony at one of the local cemeteries. After the morning’s program of heartfelt speeches by veterans and tributes by local politicos, the crowd slowly dispersed. I lingered, walking sedately along the pathways amid the graves and the flags, thinking of my Dad (a WWII vet) and of all soldiers who’ve stood tall in defense of our freedom. A winding path led to shady respite under a grove of trees at the far end of the cemetery. A soft breeze and the twittering of birds gentled the air. My camera was still slung around my neck in hopes that a pretty butterfly or bird might find its way into my viewfinder. And then I heard it: a hushed whispering off to the left. From under my leafy canopy, I peered out to the source of the sound – and beheld the tableau you see in the photograph: a mother and her three young children sitting on a concrete bench amid a sea of American flags. And my heart clutched in my chest. To have come upon so poignant a scene, I felt like an intruder – would I dare steal this moment from them, in a sense, by capturing them in millions of pixels? To photograph would be to trespass – however, to delay or to deny this moment would become a rueful regret. I slowly raised my camera, zoomed in, snapped a single image, and silently retreated. Back in town, I resumed taking photos of families, kids with their Daddies, folks out enjoying the sunny holiday. That evening I downloaded a plethora of images into iPhoto. Scrolling past the pictures of happy revelers, I clicked on this image to enlarge it. And my heart ached anew. Out of respect to this anonymous mother and her beautiful children, and out of respect for their Daddy, I deleted all the pictures except this one, as my eyes stung with tears. This is the first time in six years that I have publicly shared this image; for, somehow, this forlorn family became dear to me, and I could not part with them, until now. Debra Ann Halborn Memorial Day 2014 The Shops on Hayne at Pendleton Guest Cottage 345 Hayne Avenue SW • 803-644-0990 [email protected] Linens & Gifts 405 Hayne Avenue SW • 803-649-4565 Antiques & Accessories • Sterling Silver & Old Plate 409 Hayne Avenue SW • 803-642-9524 [email protected] BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 29 Strawberries and Cream Tea Following the St. Thaddeus Home & Garden Tour Benefiting various Aiken charities St. Thaddeus Episcopal Church April 5, 2014 Babs de Palermo, Irene Hawley, Susan Leith and Nancy Gardzina Nancy Thorne and Pam Kolb Sandra Thomas and Philomena Guerin Grayson and Ashley Warren Skipper and Anne Perry Sally Bradley and Jo Anne Leopold Patty McEachern, Lin Sweeten, and Kathy Glaser Mary Frances McGill Anne Owen and Grace Chadwick Seated: Ellen Burroughs and Irene Whyte; back: Paige Whyte and Ashley Boyd TOP 50 HOTELS IN THE WORLD — Travel + Leisure 100 COLLETON AVENUE SW • AIKEN SC 30 Pam and Morris Deason TOP 100 HOTELS IN THE WORLD — Condé Nast Traveler The Quintessential Southern Experience THEWILLCOX.COM • 803.648.1898 BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 The 98th annual Aiken Horse Show in the Hitchcock Woods April 4–6, 2014 Palmer Rowan and Luna Hallie Anderson and Aurora Audrey Dietzel on U Missed a Spot as Bubble Bath Hannah King and Gail Balding King in Leadline class Jenna Weiner on Nevada, Josh Corriveau on Ben Venin, and Eric McCarthy on Cleopatra Foxhunter Teams Karen Dempsey on Casual Friday Linda Knox McLean and Namon Corley McCall Massey and pony Loved by the Buffalo The Burns family – Cawtha Burns, Paddy Ann Burns, Aisley Burns, and Isobel Burns Tommy Fenwick on Bonjour BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014 Chris Powers and Olive Molly Springer on Knosey Photos by Shelly Marshall Schmidt 31 32 BELLA MAGAZINE MAY 2014
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