Spring/Summer 2012 - Options - Domestic and Sexual Violence

Options and FHSU
2012 Spring/Summer
From The Director
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2012 5-K
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Sponsors
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Mary Kay Report
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Wish List
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Board of Directors
Kenton Olliff, President
Hays, KS
Debbie Sander, Vice-President
Phillipsburg, KS
Nancy Gladin, Treasurer,
Oakley, KS
Karly Rogers, Secretary
Hays, KS
Collaborate for Advocacy on Campus
In the fall of 2010, Charlotte Linsner, Options Executive Director, and FHSU 310 Leadership
team, Nichole Rohleder, Sun Tong, Elin Cin and Levi Unruh began discussions on a project to develop
an on-campus advocate position at FHSU. The project would allow an advocate to be situated
on-campus for students, faculty or other FHSU staff, who were experiencing or have experienced
domestic or sexual violence, to have easier access to direct advocacy services.
Vice President, Joe Biden and numerous federal agencies were also emphasizing the need for colleges
and universities to improve efforts which address violence against women. The Vice President revealed
his “1 is 2 Many” campaign in April 2011. About the same time the U.S. Department of Education’s
Office for Civil Rights, issued the new Title IX guidance document and the Department of Justice
Office on Violence Against Women’s held the National Summit on Campus Safety. These initiatives
encouraged the team to move forward with the on-campus advocacy project.
The 310 team members worked with campus leaders and eventually a collaborative team comprised
of Kelly Klaus (Spring 2011-310 Leadership Team), Dr. Tisa Mason (Vice-President of Student Affairs),
Dr. Kenton Olliff (Assistant Vice-President of Student Affairs/Director of Kelly Center), Dr. Christie
Brungardt (Senior Fellow Women’s Leadership Project/Instructor of Leadership Studies) and Charlotte
Linsner (Options) was formed to further explore the feasibility of the project. Discussion and
negotiations culminated with Options writing a grant through the Violence Against Women Act
(VAWA) in fall of 2011.
Juanita Denning,
Goodland, KS
In January 2012, Options was notified they received the VAWA grant for the project. To bring the
project to fruition, FHSU and Options signed a memorandum of understanding and Ms. Jessica
Carrasco was hired in February 2012 as the on-campus advocate.
Connie Harrison
Sharon Springs, KS
Jessica is available for direct services advocacy at FHSU and can be reached at 628-4629or 625-3055.
Harry, Dave
Russell, KS
Tiffany Pakkebier
Norton , KS
Curt Pfannenstiel
Hays, KS
BRAYDEN
Debra Prideaux
Hays, KS
OPTIONS All-Star 2012
Nine (9) year old Brayden asked his birthday
party guests instead of bringing a gift for him
to his party, to bring a gift for a survivor of
domestic violence. Brayden then presented
the gifts he received to Options in March
2012. When asked why he choose to do this,
Brayden replied, “My Mom told me about
them (the victims) and I knew they needed
help!”
THANK YOU BRAYDEN!
-Brayden’s gifts were distributed to victims-
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Options: Domestic & Sexual Violence Services
From the Director… Charlotte Linsner
I am foregoing my column this edition to introduce you to the keynote speaker for the “2012
Confronting Violence in Our Communities Summit.”
INTRODUCING :
“Kind Hearts are the Gardens,
Kind Thoughts are the Roots,
Kind Words are the Flowers,
Kind Deeds are the Fruits.”
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Lundy Bancroft is an author, workshop leader, and consultant on domestic abuse
and child maltreatment. His work focuses on three areas:
1) Training professionals on best practices for intervening with male perpetrators
of violence against women, toward the goal of promoting accountability and
requiring change,
2) Training professionals on the dynamics of emotional injury and recovery in
children who are exposed to a man who abuses their mother, to prepare
participants to offer the most effective and safe assistance possible to children and
their mothers, and
3) Supporting healing and empowerment for abused women, with an emphasis on
advocating for the human rights of mothers and their children.
Lundy is the author of four books in the field, including;
Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
When Dad Hurts Mom: Helping Your Children Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse
The national prize-winner The Batterer as Parent: Addressing the Impact of
Domestic Violence on Family Dynamics (with Dr. Jay Silverman).
Should I Stay or Should I Go (with JAC Patrissi)
Lundy has twenty years of experience specializing in interventions for abusive men
and their families. He has also authored many other book chapters and scholarly
articles. Lundy is a former Co-Director of Emerge, the nation’s first counseling
program for men who batter. He has worked with over a thousand abusers directly
as an intervention counselor, and has served as clinical supervisor on another
thousand cases. He has also served extensively as a custody evaluator, child abuse
investigator, and expert witness in domestic violence and child abuse cases. Lundy
appears across the United States as a presenter for judges and other court
personnel, child protective workers, therapists, law enforcement officials, and
other audiences.
FOR MORE INFORMATION ON THE SUMMIT CONTACT CHARLOTTE OR MELANIE AT
785-625-3055
Thank You for all you do
to support
victims/survivors
of domestic, dating or
sexual violence
Co-sponsors of the Summit are Options, LINK, SKIL, Jana’s Campaign, FHSU Women’s
Leadership Studies Dept., Strategies For Change, City of Hays Police Dept. (Hays,
Kansas) Family Crisis Center (Great Bend, Kansas) and Family Crisis Services
(Garden City, Kansas).
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Options: Domestic & Sexual Violence Services
The 5th annual 5-K was held on
May 12, 2012. Options thanks all
the walkers, runners and rollers
for making the event a HUGE
success.
RACE WINNERS
TEAM
Sweet Soles
Bos Motorsports
Kuhn’s Diamond Jewelers
Walmart
Nex-Tech Wireless
Impressions Everlasting
Culligan
Salon Diva
Eagle Communications
Dillons
Centennial Lanes
Tri-Central Supply
T-Bones
Simply Charmed
HRC Fitness
McDonald’s
Semolino
Northglen Antiques
Sip-N-Spin
The Home Depot
Gella’s Diner
Road ID
Becky’s School of Dance
The Chiropractic Centers
Redz
United Way of Ellis County
A collaborative effort between Options, SKIL and LINK which
addresses the needs of persons with disabilities who are
experiencing or have experienced domestic, dating, sexual or
interpersonal violence in their lives. The collaborative’s mission
is to address the safety, quality of life and services for survivors
with disabilities through increasing knowledge and awareness,
focus on the community and other service provides; promote
equality in the community by advocating for the rights and
choices of survivors.
If you are a person with disabilities and wish to talk with one of
the Just Ask representatives contact one of the agencies:
Options phone- 785-625-3055 or toll free in Kansas 800-794-4624
SKIL phone -785-6288019 or 800-316-8019
FEMALE
Under 15……….Taylor Gabel
16-30…………….Susan Dumler
31-45…………….Kenda Johnson
46–Up…………..Marian Lindberg
MALE
Under 15……….Adam Pena
16-30…………….Travis Flax
31-45…………….Peter Euler
46–Up…………..Doug Williams
Kansas Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault
Executive Directors standing in solidarity behind
KCSDV’s Executive Director, Joyce Grover, at the
Newton, Kansas press conference explaining the
problems encountered during contract negotiations
with SRS offices in Topeka, for the OARS program
which has resulted in the end of the 13-year
program. OARS provided victim advocacy services
for domestic/sexual violence survivors when
requested at SRS offices across Kansas.
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Make Plans for the
2012 BIRDIES
Our Donors make all the difference...
AGAINST VIOLENCE
Golf Tournament
July 15, 2012
4-person scramble
Shotgun Start
9 am CST
Fort Hays Municipal
Golf Course
Sponsorships available:
Platinum: $500 and over;
Gold: $300 to $499;
Purple: $200 to $299;
Teal: $100 to $199;
Donation: $1 to $99
Contact
Charlotte at
785-625-3055
for more
information
To all those who donated time,
supplies, or money…We could
not function without you!
If we missed you on this list
please accept our sincere
apologies and contact us so that
we can correct our error.
“Life's most persistent and
urgent question is, 'What
are you doing for others?”
Cathleen Abell
Shirley Adams
Jan Bachar
Patty Baconrind
Jim Baird
Carol Baker
Marilyn Barrett
Michal Bernasconi
Harold & Margaret Bettis
Marcia Bieker
Marsha Bieker
Mary Braden
Barb Brandyberry
Cynthia Brashear
Kasandra Brown
Joslyn Brungardt, Paisley Pear
Jeanette Budig
Sandra & Robert Budke
Louis & Harriet Caplan
Colette Carrasco
Rita Carswell
Darlene Cauthon
Michelle Chesney
Terry & Linda Claycamp
Barbara Clinkscales
Theron & Carolyn Culwell
Karla Davignon
Toby Dougherty
Michele Eiland
Michelle Flax, Bildschon Haus of Windows
Laura Foss
Ashlee Fox
Tracey Hartzog
David Harding
Gerry Heil
Shirley Herman
Richard A. Jensen
Caysha Johnson
Chalyndra Kerr
Connie Kinderknecht
Becky Kiser
Melea Kraemer
Tom & Mary Meiers
Tommy Meyers
William & Carolyn Miller
Nicole Moore
Becca Muirhead
Sue Noll
Linda Olson
Patrice Ostmeyer
Juanita Perez
Shiela Plante
Michelle Plumeri
Debra Prideaux
Lisa Reed
Lisa Rhodes
Kari Schulte, Project Linus
Stacey Schulte
Marjorie Schumacher
Marjie Schumacher
Ila Siemers
Lori Solze
Sally Spina
Casey Staab
Pat Turner
Shirley Weilert
Melba Witt
Flora Zerfas
Juanita & Thomas Zerfas
Beta Sigma Phi
City of Bird City
City of Hill City
City of Hoxie
City of Norton
City of Oakley
City of Osborne
City of Phillipsburg
City of Plainville
City of St. Francis
Freddie's Frozen Custard
Gove County
Graham County
Happy Home Makers
Kirwin United Methodist Women
Logan County
Natoma United Methodist Church
Otterbein United Methodist Women
Ransom VFW Post 7972
Russell County
Sherman County
Smith Center
Soroptimists International of Hays
Thomas County
Trinity Lutheran Church
UMC Second Chances
Zion and Immanuel Lutheran Ladies
In memory of Leanne Olsen & Jana Mackey
Continuing Supporters
Eagle Radio
Flipse Construction, Hays
Heartland Building, Hays
Keller Furniture Galleries, Hays
Nex-Tech, Hays
Nex-Tech Wireless, Hays
Northwestern Printers, Hays
Thank You!
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2012 Mary Kay Truth About Abuse
Survey Report
Mary Kay Inc. World Headquarters
Addison, Texas 75001
972-687-4355
Contact: Kathrina McAfee
www.marykay.com
[email protected]
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
Please contact Charlotte
At Options 785-625-3055 if
you would like to volunteer
While Signs of Economic Recovery Persist, Domestic Violence is on the Rise Nationwide
Mary Kay Inc. Identifies: Demand for Help is Up – Services, Funding and Prevention Programs are Down. The
report represents more than staggering numbers — it signifies lives in the balance. On average, three women a
day are murdered at the hands of someone who claims to love them. Domestic violence shelters across the
country can mean the difference between life and death, yet the economy continues to plague shelters and the
women and children they serve.
DALLAS (May 1, 2012) – Though many areas of life are recovering from the economic downturn, domestic
violence shelters throughout the United States report that the economy continues to significantly affect battered
women and children. While shelters shine a spotlight on the widespread increase in domestic violence survivors
seeking help nationwide, they also highlight a substantial decrease in shelter services, funding sources and
prevention efforts to assist victims. In addition, shelters report that the abuse is getting more severe, survivors
are staying in abusive relationships longer and shelters expect the situation will only stay the same or get worse
in light of the economy – according to the fourth national “Mary Kay Truth About Abuse Survey.” (http://
content2.marykayintouch.com/public/PWS_US/PDFs/company/2012Survey.pdf)
More than 730 domestic violence shelters across the country were recently surveyed. Detailed national findings
from the 2012 “Mary Kay Truth About Abuse Survey” reveal alarming trends in light of the economy’s decline
since 2008, including:
• 78 percent of domestic violence shelters nationwide (nearly eight out of ten) report an increase in women
seeking assistance from abuse.
• 74 percent of survivors stayed with an abusive partner longer because of financial issues.
• 58 percent of shelters reported that the abuse is more violent now than before 2008.
• 87 percent of domestic violence shelters (nearly nine out of ten) expect their overall situation during the next
12 months will be worse than now, or the same as now, due to the economy.
• 95 percent reported that survivors needed to stay in shelters for longer durations of time.
• Of shelters that were forced to reduce services, 47 percent decreased childcare efforts, which meant that they
were not able to help one in four children.
• 86 percent of shelters witnessed negative social effects on children such as bullying or withdrawal.
• 62 percent reported that young women (age 12-24) are requesting help in greater numbers.
• 92 percent of shelters had to end or scale back specific programs and services.
The survey’s overwhelming trends are remarkably similar in each region of the United States –
Northeast, Midwest, South and West. Detailed regional findings are available upon request.
Sue Else, president of the National Network to End Domestic Violence said, “Society has come a long way in the
past few decades, creating more comprehensive services and ultimately reducing the rates of domestic violence.
But clearly, the ‘Mary Kay Truth About Abuse Survey’ shows that much more work needs to be done.”
Katie Ray-Jones, president of the National Domestic Violence Hotline added, “Over the last four years, the
National Domestic Violence Hotline has received nearly 10,000 more calls for help from survivors of domestic
violence and their loved ones. The most requested service from callers is a referral to a shelter in their local
community. Unfortunately, the economy has had a devastating impact on local domestic violence shelters. Many
have had to reduce their capacity, reduce services and, in some instances, have closed their doors.”
Anne Crews, Mary Kay Inc. Vice President and The Mary Kay Foundation SM Board Member noted, “The ‘Mary
Kay Truth About Abuse Survey’ represents more than staggering numbers. It signifies lives in the balance. The
truth about abuse is that survivors and their children continue to feel the negative effects of the economy in
profound ways. This crime is a community issue. Individuals and businesses must get involved in efforts to
educate, prevent, and eventually end, domestic violence.”
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experience domestic, sexual, interpersonal or stalking violence through individual support while educating
our communities to identify and confront the causes of violence in society."
Shelter House Wish List
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Non-perishable food
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Toilet Paper
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Paper towels
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Laundry soap
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Monetary donations
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Dishwasher detergent
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Dillons or Walmart
gift cards
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Dishwashing soap
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Bath towels
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Stamps
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Kitchen sponges /
scratch pads
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Disinfectant wipes
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Cleaners
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Dusting spray
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Trash bags
(13 gal. or 30 gal.)