Legacy, Memory and Remembrance
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Legacy, Memory and Remembrance
parish October - December 2013 Th is FRmagazin EE e is The Magazine of St Mary’s and All Saints’, Putney Legacy, Memory and Remembrance: The Autumn Issue What if no one remembers you? The point of rituals Does who we are transcend our memories? The gospels: selective memories? Dealing with negative memories: can we rewrite the past? Olympic legacy: all it’s cracked up to be? Parental legacy: what are we leaving behind? Historical legacy: what did the Roman ever do for Putney 2 3 St Mary’s Church Key Dates Regular Services Remember October - December 2013 Sunday 10th November 10.30am Remembrance Sunday Sunday 8th December 10.00am Toy Service St Mary’s Church Saturday 16th November 7.30pm Parish Ball Sunday 22nd December 6.00pm Christmas Carols Saturday 23rd November 10.00am Christmas Fair Tuesday 24th December 4.00pm Crib Service Sundays at 10.00am: Main Family Eucharist Service with Sunday School groups for children aged 3 to 13 years Symbols of legacy surround us, be they fluffy white lines chasing airplanes, or the wake carved by boats on the Thames. The leaves on the ground make a comforting lush carpet, but they too shall be swept off on a windy day, and the seasons turn. Tuesdays at 9.30am: Jumping for Joy 2 What remains in our wake? Friday 29th November 3.00pm Christmas Market 4.00pm Choir 6.00pm Christmas Lights turned on All Saints’ Church Key Dates Sunday 20th October 4.00pm allsaints@4 Pet Blessing a service for children Sunday 3rd November 5.00pm All Saints Day a short All Age Service celebrating our patronal festival, followed by bonfire, fireworks & hotdogs. Wednesday 6th November 8.00pm All Souls Eucharist with choir Sunday 10th November 10.30am Remembrance Sunday Sunday 17th November 4.00pm allsaints@4 Candles & Carols service for children Sunday 8th December 10.30am St Nicholas-tide Toy Service we celebrate St Nicholas with the Sunday 22nd December 7.00pm Carols by Candlelight sung by the choir with readings & carols, followed by mulled wine and mince pies. This service is unsuitable for young children Tuesday 24th December 4.00pm Crib Service Children present the Christmas tableau with carols (this service is suitable for young children) 11.30pm Midnight Mass of the Nativity Wednesday 25th December 10.30am Christmas Eucharist sung by the choir with hymns and children’s presentation for Christmas During the week following Christmas, Thursday 26th December - Friday 3rd January inclusive, there will be no weekday services at All Saints’ Church traditional enthronement of the Child Bishop & we bring a new gift for a child who would otherwise not receive a present this Christmas The Church Mouse is here to help! Do you sometimes forget about events taking place in the Parish (or maybe not hear about them at all)? Well, the Church Mouse is here to make sure you never miss an important service, concert or picnic again! Simply sign up to our Parish email list (you can choose whether you want to hear from one Church or both) and the Church mouse will drop you a line telling you all the things we have going on that week. To sign up to receive Church Mouse emails, please visit either stmarysputney.co.uk or allsaintsputney.co.uk and click the link where you see the Church Mouse (on the right). Wednesdays at 12.30 - 12.55pm: Lunchtime Eucharist Sundays at 6.00pm: Caritas A Eucharistic service, the emphasis on prayerfulness and quiet reflection Sundays at 11.30am: Jumping for Joy & Emmaus Dates advertised All Saints’ Church Monday to Friday at 9.15am: Morning Prayer Thursday at 10.00am: Eucharist Service suitable for children, followed by playgroup & coffee. Sundays at 8.30am: Holy Communion: according to the Book of Common Prayer, 1662. Sundays at 10.30am: The Parish Eucharist, Main Family Service with Sunday School groups for children aged 3 to 10 years, and Crèche for under 3s. Contents What are we leaving behind? Beyond bricks, a bank account and descendants who may bear some of our physical traits, what is our individual signature? Artists, writers, architects, royals or politicians, will “go on” thanks to history, literature, museums or the occasional statue. Have they existed any more strongly than the rest of us? Memory makes who we are, or so the wisdom goes. Do we stop being when we forget our past? Is there life after death only when we are remembered? Sophy Jubb considers the legacy of the evangelists, appraising the objectivity of their - occasionally - contradictory narrative. Paul Donnelly looks at historical legacy, addressing the question “what did the Romans ever do for us” from a Putneyite’s point of view! Alex Bird discusses Parental Legacy, and Kirsty Wilkinson exposes both sides of the debate on the legacy of the Olympics. We hope that these articles will not only entertain, but also help us approach those days when we question the point of our endeavours, epic or small as they may be. Editor’s welcome 4Remembrance by Ailsa Newby 5 In our Media Review, Dr. Ashleigh Helm delves into “Still Alice” the account of a woman’s desire to cling to her identity after the onset of Alzheimer’s. Bad memories stick in the mind like splinters in the brain by Chris Eyden 6 Do this in remembrance of me by Sophy Jubb 7 Blessed Memory: how objective are the Gospels? by Sophy Jubb In this issue we look at the various legacies we can leave, or have left, behind. We look at the role of memory in our life and we look at remembrance. In her article Remembrance, Ailsa Newby questions the common wisdom that we stop being when we, or others, forget our lives. Chris Eyden looks at negative memories, while Gilly Pawson looks at the meaning of rituals in our lives today. 3 8 Historical Legacy: Friends, Romans and Putneyites… by Paul Donnelly Silvia Macchia Editor 9 Parental Legacy by Alex Bird 10 London 2012: The Olympic Legacy by Kirsty Wilkinson 11 Parish & Community 12 Parish Action Update 11 Media Review 13 Whom to contact 14 Something for Everyone 15 Classifieds Editorial Team Editor: Silvia Macchia Design: Lee Barnes, Chris Townsend Features: Alex Bird, Paul Donnelly, Belinda Eddington, Sophy Jubb, Gilly Pawson, Kirsty Wilkinson. Proofreader: Tamsin Barnes 4 8 6 5 Remembrance: does living-on mean being remembered by others? People forget, but God does not Lest we forget.... Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands; you are ever before me. I used that reading from Isaiah 49 at the first funeral I ever took. It was a funeral for a homeless man who had been taken into hospital in such a poor state that he could remember nothing about who he was, or where he lived. They eventually worked out his name but were never able to find out more about him. No one visited him in hospital; no one who should have remembered him did so. When he died there was no one to organise his funeral, except the Local Authority (who have a statutory duty in such circumstances). He died alone and, but for the funeral director and me, he was buried alone. So it seemed right at his funeral to declare that, whatever the failings of those who should have remembered him and, whatever the physical failing of his own mind, he was held in the everlasting, unfailing memory of God. People forget, but God does not. Our remembrance is dependent not on our having friends and family who do remember us when we are gone but on the eternal, faithful and unchanging God. Not only in our memories Yet there is a current view that life after death means being held in the memories of others. We live on, because we are remembered by those who knew us. This is summed up in a piece that people often like to have read at funerals, called ‘You can shed tears because she is gone or you can smile because she has lived.’ It’s good in its encouragement to strive to live positively after bereavement but it contains this line: You can remember her only that she is gone, or you can cherish her memory and let it live on. I want to say that whilst it is good and right and loyal to cherish the memory of those we have loved and is a part of what it is to be human, the person does not only live on in our memories. For a Christian the individual does not live on because we remember him, but because he is held in the everlasting love of God through Christ. cliff top between Pentire Point and The Rumps in North Cornwall, overlooking the ocean and grieving the incredible carnage of the first month of the war, did it seem to him inconceivable that people would not daily remember those who had died? His poem is entitled ‘For the Fallen’ though sometimes known as ‘Lest We Forget’. It was soon realised that there was a danger of not remembering, of the careless lack of compassion and recollection of the death of so many young. If we are held in the remembrance of God - come what may and whether or not people are loyal enough to remember us in this life or in death - there is an objective and immutable element to our identity that is beyond us. Our existence is remembered. All those fallen in the wars of the last century are remembered by God even if no one ever again observed Remembrance Day. Is our own self-image tied up in our memory? Am I only me because I can remember that I am me and can remember my history? Or do I have an objective existence as me? Christianity would say yes to that last question because I am held in the remembrance of God. Research undertaken by Alzheimer’s Research UK suggests that people fear dementia more than they fear cancer. Cancer causes fear but dementia brings with it the fear that the person ‘disappears’, overtaken by forgetfulness. There is a story of a woman with dementia who had moved into a care home. She endlessly wandered the corridors in distress repeating the same word over and over again and was inconsolable. The staff made efforts to understand what she was saying and realised the word she endlessly repeated was ‘God’. One member of staff tried to communicate with her about this and asked the woman in a flash of inspiration whether she was worried that she’d forget God. That was indeed the woman’s worry: she was forgetting so many things, but she didn’t want to forget God, so endlessly repeated God’s name lest she forget. Her anxieties were ended by this simple statement from the nurse. ‘You know that even if you forget God, he will not forget you. He has promised that.’ Lest we forget. In the season of Remembrance it is good to remember. To remember those we have loved but see no longer, in thankfulness for their lives. Good to remember in compassion those, not personally known to us, who have lived and died sacrificially for the sake of others. But if we forget them, or even forget ourselves, God will remember and hold us in lasting remembrance. And it is good that it is so because humans, when all is said and done, are not so very great at remembrance. Not just the old man I buried (and to my shame I cannot now remember his name) but all our loved ones. We say on Remembrance Day each year: They shall grow not old, as we that are left grow old: Age shall not weary them, nor the years condemn. At the going down of the sun and in the morning, We will remember them. But do we? Yes, on Remembrance Day, but not as the poet Laurence Binyon imagined, daily at the going down of the sun and in the morning. In September 1914, as he wrote sitting on a rock on a “Bad memories stick in the mind like splinters in the brain” We all carry bad memories around with us. Memories of past mistakes that at worst sadden or at best embarrass us. We remember wrongs done to us. Sins committed against us remain unforgiven. An unfaithful partner betrays us. A parent is cruel to us. An employer lies to us. A doctor misses a vital clue to a serious illness. We can carry memories and resentment for a life time. Memories don’t necessarily go away. We have to do something with bad memories if they trouble us unduly. At some point we have to face our past. In doing so, we might be tempted to ‘rewrite history’ or interpret it in a way that either ‘saves us pain’ or ‘saves us face’! “When I look back on my life, it’s not that I don’t want to see things exactly as they happened, it’s just that I prefer to remember them in an artistic way. And truthfully, the lie of it all is much more honest because I invented it.” Lady Gaga So very often, healing bad memories involves ‘gritty honesty’ and ‘grown up forgiveness’. “I forgive you” is hard to say, harder to do. When I look at my world I think I see 21st century human beings playing ‘The Blame Game’ a bit too often. If something goes wrong it always has to be someone’s fault. The hospital, the government, the police, the parents, the social worker, the husband, wife or partner. Blame. Blame. Blame. I’m not certain this is always helpful when we’re hoping to rid ourselves of bad memories. “Make sure you take the plank out of your own eye before you take the speck of dust out of your neighbours.” Jesus of Nazareth Revd Ailsa Newby Vicar of St Mary’s, Putney email: [email protected] OK, things go wrong because other people make mistakes, are selfish and tell lies, but things go wrong because I make mistakes and I’m selfish, spiteful and tell lies too. Before we blame others for the memories that have hurt us, we should take a long hard look at ourselves and ask what part did I play in the ‘gone wrongness’ of my life? a shadow of doubt, that we are wholly and totally forgiven and unconditionally loved by God. In that love we can have the courage to look at the past in order to find out what a new future might hold. We are still living life and we still have a) responsibility and b) opportunity. Both can work for our future wholeness. ‘Responsibility’ is needed to heal our own wounds after wrong has been endured or tragedy has happened. New life, after the death of sadness, anger, remorse and pain. Resurrection indeed! “It’s sort of like my past is an unfinished painting and as the artist of that painting, I must fill in all the ugly holes and make it beautiful again.” Lady Gaga “When I look back on my life, I see pain, mistakes and heart ache. When I look in the mirror, I see strength, learned lessons and pride in myself.” Lady Gaga We have ‘opportunity’ to use our experiences to build who we are and who we will become with our newly healed and reconciled selves, so that we can be free. Free for what? I think free to move on. We have to forgive and reconcile what has happened in our past before we can make a better future. Being stuck in ‘The Blame Game’ with or without cause, is to be held captive to what has gone before. If we allow bad memories to dominate us and we fail to forgive ourselves and others, we can’t move forward, we can’t let go and we deny ourselves a better future. We can take ‘radical responsibility for ourselves’ and as Christians we can do it knowing without Revd Chris Eyden Vicar of All Saints’, Putney email: [email protected] 8 6 9 7 “Do this in remembrance of me” Blessed Memory: how objective are the Gospels? The image of Jesus In the Gospels we are given a series of snippets and stories from Jesus’ life. Jesus was a historical figure, he existed, and the Gospels are in many ways his biographies. But how much of what we read in them is historically accurate, and how much is distorted to suit the biographers’ aims? Oral tradition When I was a child, birthdays were all about having a party with a cake, blowing out candles and often getting into trouble at school for talking too much from the excitement. It never occurred to me that it was a celebration of my birth, or my life! Only when my son had his first birthday did I realise what we were really celebrating and remembering. In the weeks leading up to his first birthday, I remembered the previous year, re-lived the experience, entering into it from a different perspective. Since then, on each of my children’s birthdays, I have been in the habit of retelling them the wondrous story of their birth. It has become a tradition. I never fail to marvel at the miracle; I hope they have a sense of that too as I recall details, re-engage with the feelings of that time and re-enter the story, re-contextualising it in the now. Every time I am changed once more by the wonder and drama of becoming a mother and I hope that they too are reminded of what precious beings they are. Remembering is not just a forgotten memory being called back into your mind. It is much more. It is about putting back together, re-membering, the pieces and reexperiencing the happening in this present moment of time. At the Last Supper, when after taking, blessing, breaking and sharing bread, Jesus said to his disciples, “Do this in remembrance of me”, I don’t think it was said lightly. It was said in a way that would change not only their lives and way of being, but countless others over the ages. In the Jewish tradition, the act of remembering is a religious imperative. Jews had an entire oral tradition that was passed down through memory. Even when, with the advent of writing things down, it was no longer necessary to remember, the Jewish people kept the oral tradition alive in memory rather than on parchment or papyrus. Ritual, of course, helps us to re-engage with collective memories. For example, the Seder meal (Passover), which is the meal that Jesus was celebrating in the upper room at the Last Supper, is still celebrated today. It is full of symbols that help those around the table to remember, and deeply enter into,what happened thousands of years ago to their ancestors after they were set free from slavery and led to freedom: the story of the exodus from Egypt. For example, the parsley dipped in salt water reminds them of the salty tears of the slaves, and the unleavened bread reminds them not to puffed up with pride but remain humble. Jesus continued this tradition using the same words, traditionally said at the Passover, but changed them, instead taking bread and saying “This is my body”, taking wine “This is my blood”. So as we celebrate the Eucharist, we are not simply calling to mind the story, we are entering into the collective memory going back thousands of years and re-living it for ourselves, in the context of who we are today. The present, constantly being informed by the collective memory. The very act of re-membering, putting back together whatever story it may be, whether it be a happy or sad occasion, shapes anew our perception, how we think about things and ultimately how we might respond in action today. Gilly Pawson Footnotes: Karpas – parsley or similar dipped in salt water, like the tears of the slaves zeroa – shank bone of lamb, a reminder of the tenth plague where the first-borns were killed, the blood from the lamb was marked on the door posts so the angel of death could “pass over”: baytzah – a hard boiled egg, traditionally the food of mourners; charoset - a brown, paste like mixture like the mortar slaves used to build for their masters; maror – bitter herbs recalling the harshness of servitude; hazeret – bitter vegetable, the bitterness of slavery; matzoh - unleavened bread, like the bread so hurriedly made that there was no time to include the leaven, before the slaves escaped. One of the most remarkable aspects of the life, ministry, and influence of Jesus is that he wrote nothing himself. As a carpenter from a small village in Galilee, he may even have been illiterate. All of the records we have of him are second-hand, interpreted and remembered by others, and until the Gospels were compiled Christians were dependent upon oral tradition for their knowledge of Jesus’ life and ministry. Ancient teachers had a tendency to leave the recording of their thoughts to their pupils; they themselves were too busy teaching to write. The Buddha, Confucius, the Prophet Mohammed, Socrates, and Jesus all left no written record of their thoughts. This, of course, leaves the door open to hagiography, debate and interpretation, all of which have been rife in Christianity for millennia. Hagiography or history? Hagiography is ‘a biography which treats its subject with undue reverence, or which is designed to serve a political agenda’. Historical biography seeks to provide an unbiased account of events. This is very difficult when one is only able to use secondary evidence, as was the case for all the Gospel writers. The letters of St Paul predate the Gospels, but were themselves written by someone who never knew the historical Jesus. St Paul, of course, had his own agenda to pursue in his letters, namely evangelism and encouragement of the early church. The Gospel writers also had their own agendas, and included or omitted stories to suit their own ends. St Luke and the Gentiles St Luke’s Gospel was written for a Gentile audience, as is evident from its opening words which address ‘Theophilus’ its reader. Theophilus is a Greek name, not Jewish, but it has wider significance in that it means, literally, ‘God-lover’, or ‘Believer’. So right from the beginning St Luke makes it clear that he believes that the Gospel message is for all people, not just Jews. In the Acts of the Apostles, which St Luke also wrote, he again addresses Theophilus in the opening sentence. Unfortunately for Jewish history, St Luke was also keen to placate the Romans, who were the occupying force in Israel, and therefore cast the Jews as the villains of the Crucifixion. not told what the result was. Did the moneychangers stop working in the Temple itself? Or did nothing change? For the Gospel writers, it didn’t matter. What mattered was Jesus’ message that we should love God more than worldly goods, and follow Jesus as ‘the Way, the Truth, and the Life’. Read with our ears open The Gospels were written by people who had never met the historical Jesus. Instead, they are based upon oral tradition, stories about him, what he did and why he did it. Each Gospel writer had his own agenda when he wrote his biography of Jesus, and because of that elements of hagiography crept in in places. When we read the Gospels, or hear them read aloud, we need to be aware that this is not primary evidence. We can never be certain what is accurate and what has been distorted by the writer. In this life we can only see Jesus through a glass darkly, not face to face. A leader who does no wrong The Jesus of the Gospels was undoubtedly a rather uncomfortable character to be around: he said what he thought; he challenged societal norms; he pushed people out of their comfort zones; and he made immense demands. Some of the things he did read as though they were done for dramatic purposes, without actually intending to effect change. For example, turning over the tables of the money-changers in the Temple at Jerusalem, a story which is told by St Mark and St Luke, was obviously going to annoy the priests and Pharisees and was unlikely to make them change their ways. However, in the Gospels this event is described as reasonable behaviour by the Son of God who found his father’s house misused. We are Sophy Jubb has a PhD in Philosophy & Theology from Durham University. She is especially interested in the changing status of women in the Church and in children’s perceptions of the Divine. Sophy is a regular member of the congregation at St Mary’s, where she also arranges weddings and baptisms. 8 9 Historical Legacy: Friends, Romans and Putneyites… The Romans were discerning when it came to choosing places to live. So it’s no surprise that they created a settlement in Putney and stayed here for almost 400 years. A thriving agricultural community grew around the fertile area that is now Putney Hill. It was also an important crossing point on the Fluvius Tamesis (River Thames). The Romans made a big impression on Putney and on the rest of their new province of Britannia. Much of it can still be seen today, even if we are unaware of it. Rome’s legacy is all around us. We can see it in our architecture, engineering, law, literature, mathematics, money, religion and writing. Many modern British roads follow the routes of Roman roads. Most of the cities founded by the Romans such as London, York and Lincoln are still cities today. Most modern English vineyards are on the sites originally used by the Romans because they knew where the vines would flourish. The English and Welsh languages have taken many words and phrases from Latin. Phrases that have gone into common usage include; ‘Amor vincit omnia’ (Love conquers all) from the poet Horace. ‘Nil desperandum’ (Never despair) also from Horace. ‘Tempus fugit’ (Time flies) from the poet Vergil and ‘Veni, vidi, vici’ (I came, I saw, I conquered) spoken by Julius Caesar when he had conquered Britain. A town or city of Roman origin will have ‘chester’, ‘caster’ or ‘cester’ in its name. These words derive from the Latin word ‘castra’ meaning camp. Colchester, Lancaster, Leicester and Winchester are just a few of the towns which show their Roman origins. Many theatres today still use the ‘proscenium stage’ found in ancient Roman theatres and often use a Roman style semi-circular auditorium. Roman style Triumphal arches were popular in the 19th century. This is evident at Marble Arch in London or the Arc de Triomphe in Paris. Since the 18th century, churches, banks and many important places of business have often been based on Roman temple designs. Part of the Bank of England is a copy of the Emperor Hadrian’s villa at Tivoli in Italy. Many modern sports arenas are modelled on the Roman amphitheatre as the oval shape allows everyone to get a good view. You can see this at Wembley Stadium or the Oval Cricket Ground in London. One explanation for the term ‘Great Britain’ is that the Romans called their new conquest ‘Britannia Major’ to distinguish it from Britannia in Gaul (modern Brittany) as they noticed that the people spoke a similar Celtic language. The Anglo Saxons (The English of today) did Parental Legacy I can now see that I was completely green to the eternal enigma that is parenting. not arrive in these islands until after the Romans had left. When Roman coins were found on an ancient site in Britain some time ago, someone on television commented that it was amazing that the Romans had coins just like ours today. This is looking at history through the wrong end of the telescope. The really amazing thing is that we still use coins like the ancient Romans. Jesus said to his questioner about whether the Jews should pay tax to the Romans (a tricky question, as both ‘yes’ and ‘no’ could get Him into trouble), ‘Whose image is on the coin?’ The answer, of course, was Caesar’s. And it was there for a purpose. To proclaim to the world just who was in charge, in Judea and Britannia. Coins are just one of the numerous rich legacies left to us by those innovative invaders of 2000 years ago. When we look at the Romans’ heritage, it’s almost as though they have never left. Paul Donnelly Churchwarden and member of St Mary’s congregation for over 20 years. Paul works in advertising and graphic design Parental legacy is comprised of many layers, for example, physical (I regularly curse my father’s tree trunk legs) material (particularly in the current economic climate financial assistance and inherited wealth play an increasing role for some individuals), skills (like my parents, I have absolutely no musical prowess whatsoever) and values. Some of these layers you can do little to alter, whereas others, such as values, lend themselves more easily to tailoring. My parents, now in their 60’s, regularly enquire about what they did well as parents and what they did not. This critique request may appear a feature to be avoided; however, acknowledging the impact of their influence helps me adjust my own parenting skills accordingly. Having been allowed by said parents to sign off school sports (viewed as less important than academic achievements), I now find myself vehemently focusing on sports from toddler rugby to swimming lessons to avoid what I consider my parents’ mistake and ensure my sons benefit from exercise and team sports. examined campaign manifestos but I suspect often we emulate our parents’ views simply trusting the judgement of those who raised us. Dr Phil (what can I say, I am on maternity leave) comments, ‘our parents have a powerful hold on us throughout our lives. You should embrace the good things you inherited from your parents and leave the negative influences behind’. Despite these difficulties, to avoid falling into the parent-trap espoused in Philip Larkin’s verse (you know the one!) it is worth taking time out to challenge our own views and then parenting techniques. Maybe in this context requesting critique isn’t so bad after all. Many amazing people do rise above huge parenting obstacles; take Dave Pelzer’s ‘I am David’. For others this is easier said than done. Dr. Phil’s statement fails to consider that some behaviours’ arise from nature not nurture (still a parental legacy). A further difficulty comes when you are unable to recognise subconsciously inherited traits and views. Politics is a prime example. Statistics suggest the majority of us mirror our parents’ politics; this may be the result of carefully Parental legacy defines who we are; it shapes who we want to be and who we want our children to be. We shouldn’t assume that a positive parental legacy follows in the footsteps of that which has gone before. Just as ancient history shows young Romans moaning about the older generation so we should brace ourselves for our children’s healthy rebellion. Alex Bird 10 11 9 London 2012: The Olympic Legacy Parish & Community Helping Homestart Wandsworth, 22nd September 2013 Cards for Good Causes opens its Christmas pop-up shop in Putney Twelve people from All Saints’ and St Mary’s went to a house in east Putney to help a lovely lady with her gardening. We all damaged our legs and arms by cutting down brambles but we cured ourselves with biscuits and sweets. In the end the improvement of the garden was outstanding and we hope to go back to improve the garden even more. Cards for Good Causes – which sells Christmas cards for more than 24 national and local charities – opens its latest popup shop on 1st November 2013 at St Mary’s Church, Putney. Grace Martin Volunteer Shop Manager, Angela Holman said: “Not only are Christmas cards an important source of funding for charities, they also help to raise awareness of their work. By popping into the Putney shop, you can choose from a fantastic array of charity cards and stock up on all your Christmas essentials, such as wrapping paper and gift tags. You’ll find us by following our distinctive triangular red Santa sign in Putney High Street.” What a difference a year makes. PreLondon 2012 the British celebrated their plucky losers and were quite content with their silver and bronzes thank you very much. Now its all about the win and first place – ask the British Lions, the England Cricket team, Andy Murray, Chris Froome, Justin Rose, Christina Uhurugu and the rowers – 2013 world champions Helen Glover & Polly Swann. As we waited beside the streets of Putney to watch the cyclists pass through, the atmosphere was one of fun and enjoyment as the crowd cheered the support cars and police on motorbikes through. As someone pointed out “This time last year crowds were rioting against the police – this year they are “high fiving “ them”. Beyond the euphoria, however, what is the real legacy of London 2012? Some concentrate on the positives, the increase in the country’s self esteem and reflect on what a fantastic and unique spectacle we produced. On the other hand, it is little wonder that the huge £9.3 billion cost has prompted others to analyse just what benefits exactly will the country reap post London 2012. Boris Johnson has frequently declared the Games “on time and on budget”. On time – yes, but the original budget in 2005 was £2.4 billion, over the next seven years it quadrupled to £9.3billion. If you had hired a builder for an agreed sum and his budget went up fourfold I doubt you would let him proclaim that he was on budget and on time – you would be more likely to take him to court. Residents of East London now have fabulous facilities but at what cost to venues across the country? The Don Valley stadium in Sheffield – home to Jessica Ennis-Hill is due to be demolished due to shortage of funds and held their last event on September 15th. Greg Rutherford and aforementioned Helen Glover are still struggling for sponsors so is the Olympic legacy waning already? The 180,000 attendees at the Sainsbury’s Anniversary Games at the Olympic park would wholeheartedly disagree as they roared on their heroes to further success this summer. One of the legacies was to “inspire a generation”; clearly it is too early to comment on that particular ambition and no doubt we will be bombarded with statistics and surveys on children participating in sport in the years to come. Baroness Sue Campbell, former Chair of UK Sport and now of the Youth Sport Trust feels work still needs to be done to maintain this aim and commented “The challenge now is to not Cards for Good Causes Limited (CFGC) pays the participating charities (or their trading subsidiaries) at least 70p in every pound from their card sales, less the VAT payable on the amount retained by CFGC. The retained amount covers CFGC’s costs of running the temporary charity Christmas card shops. In addition to these costs, the participants have to pay for the production and distribution of their cards. drop the baton, like the Government did by cutting £162million of funding for school sport before reinvesting £150m in a primary school system that refuses to see physical education as a pathway to achievement.” There is plenty of tangible economic benefit to applaud. The Games gave a huge boost to Britain’s international standing. Take the rankings of the International Congress and Convention Association. Thanks to the Games, London is up from 19th to sixth place. That unquestionably translates into serious business spending flowing into Britain from overseas. My opinion is that the paint is still a bit too fresh on those gold postboxes for my liking to really assess the legacy of London 2012 just yet. I prefer to revel in the memories of the Queen as a Bond girl, Super Saturday, Usain Bolt doing the Mobot, Boris on the zip wire, our joy for Jess, Chad le Clos, lining the streets of Putney to watch the cyclists in both rain and shine, the excitement of the velodrome and, best of all, the sheer excitement of being in the crowd and watching my children’s faces as we roared Mo to victory. We will always be able to say “We were there when the Olympics came to town”. Kirsty Wilkinson Staffed by local volunteers, the Putney pop-up shop is part of the Cards for Good Causes’ national network. It is open Friday 1st November to Wednesday 18th December from 10.00am to 5.00pm Kick off the Christmas season at the Parish Christmas Fair The Parish Christmas Fair returns to St. Mary’s Church from 10:30-1:30pm on Saturday, 23rd November. With festive fun for the whole family, little ones will delight in the games, toy tombola, crafts, face painting and more, while the grown-ups warm up with a coffee or mulled wine and shop the gift stalls or splash out on the ever-popular raffle! All proceeds from this year’s Christmas Fair go to Spires, a Streathambased charity which helps the homeless and disadvantaged throughout southwest London. Volunteers are needed to help on the day; contact [email protected]. All are welcome… come along and join the fun! 12 13 9 Parish Action Update Spotlight on Christian Aid Christian Aid is a Christian organisation that insists the world can and must be swiftly changed to one where everyone can live a full life, free from poverty. It works globally for profound change that eradicates the causes of poverty, striving to achieve equality, dignity and freedom for all, regardless of faith or nationality. Christian Aid argues that ‘There is more than enough food in the world for everyone, but one in eight people will go to bed hungry tonight. This is a scandal.’ To find out more about Christian Aid’s campaign to tackle extreme poverty please visit the Christian Aid website and read its ‘Hungry for Justice’ Report - www.christianaid.org.uk In Christian Aid week this year a group of young people led by Andy Bodley and some All Saints’ dads organised car washing in the grounds of All Saints’ Church. The event was very popular and gives us a model for future years which will help offset the decline in the street collections. We are still looking for a new representative for Christian Aid at St Mary’s to take over from Ann and Pete Tuppen, if you would like to find out more, please speak to Ann or Pete. Media Review Still Alice by Lisa Genoa Review by Dr. Ashleigh Helm “Coincidence is God’s way of remaining anonymous” Albert Einstein. The day Gilly asked me to write a review on the book ‘Still Alice’ by Lisa Genova, my inbox contained an email launching Wandsworth Clinical Commissioning Group (CCG) new dementia strategy. ‘Still Alice’ is a beautiful and powerful read. We are given a window into Alice’s brain, through which we witness Alzheimer’s disease reak havoc as her thoughts are cruelly plundered. Heart-breakingly we observe her withdrawal from family and work life. Brain “sink-holes” appear randomly and gradually steal Alice’s freedom; her freedom to run, to teach, to parent, to write, to speak, but ultimately can it steal Alice? Homestart Wandsworth Sue Winter at Homestart recently contacted Parish Action looking for help: “We have two Putney families, one of whom has a nightmarish scenario of garden clearing and a possible garden in Earlsfield where the mum is recovering from breast cancer, has 3 year old triplets and a 10 year old, and unsurprisingly, little energy for sorting out the garden! Is there any chance that Parish Action can help?” Lynda Hayllar has kindly agreed to coordinate volunteers to respond to this request. If you can help please let her know ([email protected]). In our Media Review, we review films, books, or musical pieces that have left a mark. If you would like to contribute, please contact the Editor. At the age of 50, Alice is a successful academic, a lecturer of neuroscience at Harvard. She is living in the fast lane, at the height of her career and she juggles her work, travelling the world to speak at International Conferences, living with her scientist husband and caring for her 3 successful grown-up children. Following a series of memory lapses and disorientation she is shocked to be told she has early onset Alzheimer’s disease. Fiercely independent, Alice struggles to maintain her lifestyle and courageously battles against her mind’s deletions to fight for her place as a wife, academic, mother and friend. “When will I no longer be me? Is my identity something that transcends neurons, proteins and defective molecules of DNA? Is my soul and spirit immune to the ravages of Alzheimer’s? I believe it is.” As her frustrations and fears build she seeks to empower herself and others by setting up an early onset dementia support group. Rather than decaying she seeks to learn to live better. In my work as a GP I have seen what life is like for a person caring for someone with Alzheimer’s. No doubt some have you have watched loved ones gradually loose their ability to perform simple tasks and interact with those around them. Scientists can tell us in minute detail about the brain degeneration and gene mutations that are accountable for peoples’ cognitive decline. It is a rare however to witness first-hand what it is really like to have Alzheimer’s disease. Early-onset Alzheimer’s disease is the term when diagnosis is made before the age of 65 years. It accounts for 5-10% of all cases. Wandsworth CCG has set increasing the rate of Alzheimer’s diagnosis as a healthcare priority. As of March 2013 only 49% of those with the disease in Wandsworth have been diagnosed formally, and a target of 55% has been set. In September a Memory Assessment Service is to be launched, alongside this a carer and information programme has been commissioned. Whom to contact Clergy Office Office Revd Ailsa Newby, Team Rector, St Mary’s Church 3 Wharf Terrace, SW15 2JZ Tel: 07527 451 035 Email: [email protected] St Mary’s Church Uzma Osinibi, Parish Administrator St Mary’s Church, Putney High Street SW15 1SN Tel: 0208 394 6061 Office Open Monday - Friday 9.00am-1.00pm Weddings and Baptisms for St Mary’s Mrs Sophy Jubb Tel: 020 8394 6067 Email: [email protected] Revd Chris Eyden, Team Vicar, All Saints’ Church The Vicarage, 115 Felsham Road, SW15 1BA From 12 Nov: 21 Landford Road, SW15 1AQ Tel: 07951 600 924 Email: [email protected] Assistant Priest Rev’d Gilly Pawson (Sundays, Tuesdays and Wednesdays ONLY) Tel: 07956 937 989 E-mail: [email protected] Pastoral Assistant David Adamson St Mary’s Church, Putney High Street Tel: 07841 908 382 Email: [email protected] Wardens Mr Gerald Allison, Parish Warden Tel: 020 8789 8487 26 Landford Road, SW15 1AG Mr Paul Donnelly, Parish Warden Tel: 07810 647 192 Email: [email protected] Ms Hayley Argles-Grant, St Mary’s Tel: 07941 461 930 Email: [email protected] Martin Watts, St Mary’s Tel: 0208 788 3515 Email: [email protected] Angela Attah, St Mary’s Deputy Warden Tel: 0208 780 5857 Email: [email protected] Mr Iain Cox, All Saints’ Tel: 020 8789 8690 14 Lower Common South, SW15 1BP Clemancy Gordon-Martin, All Saints’ Tel: 07974729180 Email: [email protected] The NHS approves self-testing as a quick, accurate and valid screening test for the detection of Alzheimer’s disease (93% diagnostic accuracy). One such test, available on-line, is Test Your Memory (www.tymtest.com). Putney Debates 1647 Exhibition 2,093 people currently live in Wandsworth with diagnosed dementia, of which 66 have early-onset disease. Telephone 020 8788 4414 for opening times. Message updated each week. Still Alice, still John, still Sue, still…our neighbours, friends and community. Still ours – a chance to act? Located at St Mary’s Church. Also see website relating to our permanent HLF funded exhibition: www.putneydebates.com A DVD is also available. Bookings for St Mary’s Mr Robert Dickinson (Verger & Bookings) Tel: 020 8394 6063 Email: [email protected] All Saints’ Church Carolyn Biddick, Administrator Bookings, weddings, & baptisms Tel: 020 3185 2013 Email: [email protected] Funerals for both churches Please contact Parish Administrator People Readers Mr Richard Holman Tel: 020 8789 0953 11 Genoa Avenue SW15 6DY Mrs Caroline Donne Contact through Parish Office Dr Ursula Hodges Contact through Parish Office Dr Richard Ghail, Contact through Parish Office Mr Ian Yearsley, Emeritus Reader New Details: 170 Huntingfield Road London SW15 5ES Tel: 020 8487 8476 Music Directors All Saints’ Church Peter Foggitt Tel: 07894 991 685 Email: [email protected] St Mary’s Church Mr Travis Baker Email: [email protected] Sacristans St Mary’s Church Sophy & Martin Jubb Contact through Parish Office All Saints’ Church Mrs Carolyn Biddick Hon. Treasurer to PCC Mr Richard Holman Contact through Parish Office Stewardship and Giving Mr Richard Holman Tel: 020 8789 0953 11 Genoa Avenue, SW15 6DY Bell Ringers Ms Sarah Tuppen, Tower Captain Contact through Parish Office Tel: 020 8788 4414 Miss Cherry Steward, Secretary, Tel: 020 8876 5352 Parish Safeguarding Officers St Mary’s Church Hilary Newth Tel: 07973 316 667 Email: [email protected] Isobel Vass Tel: 0208 789 1238 Email: [email protected] All Saints’ Church Victoria Prince Tel: 07582 034 909 Email: [email protected] Marigold Hayes Tel: 020 3185 2013 Email: [email protected] Parish Magazine Editor: Mrs Silvia Macchia Riley Tel: 020 8789 0590 Email: [email protected] Please send any post to Parish Office Design: Chris Townsend TA2 Tel: 020 8540 4030 Mob: 07973 506 034 Web: http://www.ta2.co.uk Email: [email protected] Lee Barnes Equate Tel: 08445 678 990 Web: http://www.equate.uk.com Email: [email protected] Advertising Sales: Mrs. Sophie Holdcroft Email: [email protected] Classifieds: Julia Hebblethwaite 020 87852198 14 15 9 Something for Everyone Sunday School Both churches run Sunday Schools catering for children from pre-school up to Year 8. They are run by volunteers on a rota basis. A guideline curriculum is provided, as are materials for arts and crafts as well as audio-visual aids and books. Training is provided on a regular basis. We are always looking for volunteers. St Mary’s contacts are Jo Mercer on 0774 7751676 or [email protected] or Charlotte Hallawell on 0208 789 8069 or [email protected] All Saints’ contact: Marianne Coates on 0208 785 4827 or 0783 776 7891 or [email protected] If you are interested in learning more about Godly Play, please contact Caroline Donne on 020 8785 6302. All Saints’ Baby & Toddler Group All Saints’ Church Putney Baby and Toddler Group is for the local community. The group is held in the church on Thursdays from 10.30am to 12 noon, immediately after the family-friendly Eucharist at 10.00am. The group is held weekly and all carers with pre-school children are welcome. A token contribution of £2 per family will be charged. St Mary’s Playgroup and Jumping for Joy Service The St Mary’s Playgroup meets every Tuesday during term-time between 10.00 and 11.00am, upstairs in the Brewer Building, St Mary’s Church. Suitable for babies, toddlers and preschoolers with free play, activities table and singing, with a £1 per child contribution. We also hold a family friendly “Jumping for Joy” service at 9.30am before the Playgroup to include child-friendly prayers, songs, and bible story. Please contact Louise Dent for further details at [email protected] St Mary’s Flowers We are a small team of five ‘arrangers’ but are keen to have additional helpers. You could do something as simple as watering mid-week, removing deadheads or working alongside one of us to learn the ropes. Contact Fiona Davis on 020 8871 0087. For All Saints’ Flowers please contact Nicky Taskis on 07967 596 245 St. Mary’s Creche Sunday Service There is a creche run by CRB checked volunteers every Sunday from 10am for parents in the congregation who would like to drop off their children and take part in the service without distraction! It is open to all young children from the age of 1 until they are ready to attend Sunday school (c. 3 years old). If you are interested in registering your child, then please contact creche leader, Sophie Holdcroft on ansell.st@btinternet. com or just turn up on the day and register your child then. If you would like to become a volunteer carer and to join our friendly rota team then please contact Sophie too. More helpers welcome! This service is completely free and is held in Ailsa’s office (upstairs behind the lift). Tea at Ten at All Saints’ The Putney Senior Social Group meets every Monday morning from 10.00am - 11.30am at All Saints’ Church. We are a friendly, welcoming group who enjoy each other’s company and conversation, as well as delicious homemade cakes, fresh coffee and tea. Please join us - we would love to meet you! The St Mary’s Choir Ever considered joining the choir at St Mary’s? We meet every Tuesday from 8.00 - 9.00pm. You do not need any experience, although an ability to read music would be helpful. If you are interested, please email: Travis Baker on [email protected] All Saints’ Choir The All Saints’ adult choir meets on Sundays at 9.45am for the 10.30am Parish Eucharist. Please contact Peter Foggitt for information on 07894 991 685 St Mary’s Harmonic Minors For children in years 4/5 and 6; meets Tuesdays 6.30-7.30pm Please contact Travis Baker for more information or the Parish Office. The Junior Singers For more information contact Lucinda Hitchings on 07799 067 911 The Junior Singers (Y1-Y6) rehearse on Thursday afternoons at All Saints’ from 3.40pm to 4.25pm. They usually sing on the first Sunday of the month at All Saints’ Church. Bible Study Groups For details, ring Alison Hunka on 020 8788 1031. The daytime Bible Study Groups each meet every two weeks in term-time only. The format is to follow a book which focuses either on a particular book of the Bible, or on a Biblical theme. There is also one evening Bible Study Group meeting fortnightly on Thursdays. We welcome people of all ages and from both churches. Contact Sarah Brearley on 020 8788 0592 or [email protected] Theology in the Pub This is an informal group for people in the Parish who are interested in socialising and chatting about what it means to be Christian whilst living and working in London. We meet weekly in the Bricklayer’s Arms on Mondays at 8.00pm. For more info please contact the Church Office on 020 8788 4414 or join the Yahoo Group. 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