Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc. VALLEY OF THE SUN CHAPTER

Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc.
VALLEY OF THE SUN CHAPTER
“For the Families & Friends of those who have died by violence”
19620 North 38th Avenue, Glendale AZ 85308-2215
Chapter Phone: (602) 254-8818 Chapter E-mail: [email protected]
* National Organization of Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc. (POMC)
4960 Ridge Ave. Suite 2, Cincinnati, OH, 45209 (513-721-5683) Fax (513-345-4489)
http://www.pomc.com/phoenix/index.html
Toll Free Number (888) 818-7662
Volume 22: No. 8 August 2013
MONTHLY MEETING
LOCATIONS
4th Tuesday Grief support meetings
EAST VALLEY SUPPORT
Tuesday, August 27, 2013 7 PM
4th TUESDAYS
Special Note: For the Eastside Support Group
Meeting, please consider bringing nonperishable/canned food items to donate to the
church.
Mountain View Lutheran Church
11002 S. 48th Street, Phoenix
(1/2 mile West of I-10 at 48th Street & Elliot)
Room 8
Facilitator: Mari Bailey
(602) 405-7401
[email protected]
Co-facilitator: Mark & Sandy LeGault
(480) 242-0038
WEST VALLEY SUPPORT
Tuesday, August 27, 2013 7 PM
4th TUESDAYS
Antioch Church of God in Christ
9600 West Peoria Avenue
(NW Corner of 96th Ave/W Peoria Ave)
West of Loop 101
Facilitator: Beckie Miller
(623) 582-2406
Co-facilitator: Kathy Hernandez
(623) 707-6825
CRIME VICTIMS LEGAL ASSISTANCE
PROJECT
Free legal aid to help assert victims' rights
through Arizona Voice for Crime Victims @
(602) 258-1812, P.O. Box 875920, Tempe, AZ
85287-5920 or contact Mary Wallace at
[email protected]
SPEAKER/INFORMATION MEETING
(2nd Tuesday Meeting)
Tuesday, August 13, 2013 7:00 p.m.
(PLEASE NOTE NEW LOCATION)
*** Mountain View Precinct
2075 East Maryland Phoenix AZ
(off AZ 51 at 20th Street between Glendale and
Maryland)
Our meeting this month will feature our Maricopa
County Attorney, Bill Montgomery, who will speak
about the role of his office as it relates to the
prosecution and answer your questions. Mr.
Montgomery has been involved with crime victims'
rights issues for many years and worked with the
Crime Victims Legal Assistance Project at one time.
He serves on the board of Arizona Voice for Crime
Victims as well and has spoken at several of our
chapter events.
NEWSLETTER EDITOR
Mail Memorial Page items for “The Journey”, by
the 10th of the month prior to publication to:
POMC Newsletter
19620 North 38th Ave Glendale AZ 85308
Please use order form on Page 11
You can also email items to [email protected]
Be sure to place any article or picture in an
attachment, otherwise it can’t be accessed
properly (especially pictures) and may not be
used. Also, be sure to put POMC Newsletter in
the subject line of the email.
“Death leaves a heartache no one can heal. Love leaves a memory no one can steal.”
Sara Donaldson
August 2008
Chris Marshall
August 7, 1991
Dana Wells
August 16, 1996
Eric Clements
August 1, 2003
Stephanie Dupee
August 8, 1995
Kerry & George Hild
August 16, 1997
Lorenzo Jimenez, Jr.
August 1, 2006
Jose Jesus Arampula
August 8, 1998
Megan June Moline
August 16, 2011
Jan Houldek
August 2, 2002
Joe Lucero
August 8, 2008
Jose Louis Gonzales
August 17, 1980
Joe & Elaine Tannehill
August 4, 1995
William Douglas Pickering
August 9, 1980
Jim Reed
August 17, 1995
Fiona Yu
August 4, 1997
Ricky Barba
August 9, 1996
Steve Metel
August 18, 2011
David Blackwell
August 4, 1999
Joshua Brewer
August 9, 1997
Joshua Irwin Carter
August 19, 2001
Thomas Ronald Garrett
August 5, 1995
Gordon Dywan
August 9, 2005
Lorenzo Aguilar
August 19, 2012
Waylon Walsh
August 5, 2003
Sheri Lee Martin
August 12, 1971
Chad Campbell
August 19, 2008
Gabriel Claywell
August 5, 2007
Steve Acejo
August 13, 1995
Joshua Deem
August 20, 1995
John Louis Call
August 5, 2010
Albert Chavez
August 13, 2011
Lisa Grondin
August 20, 2009
Lonny Gordell
August 6, 1986
Cory Lynn Cook
August 14, 1995
Wayne Southerland
August 21, 1995
Bruce Steven Blanton
August 6, 1992
Javier Pereida
August 15, 2011
Michael Adam Hampson
August 21, 2004
Jeremy Hughes
August 6, 2001
Jim Reed
August 16, 1985
Todd Michael Strickland
August 22, 1993
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Continued. . . . .
Michael Jencsok
August 22, 2006
Jeffrey K. Martin
August 27, 1997
Greg Blevins
August 31, 1993
Shane Guedes
August 22, 2006
Tammbra Lynn Timko
August 27, 2003
Cheryl O’Malley
August 31, 1996
Anthony Maplethorpe
August 22, 2007
William “Billy” Mosher
August 28, 2004
Melissa Wright &
Chris Lance Foote
August 31, 1997
Raina Campos
August 23, 1994
Tiffany Jo Lien
August 28, 2005
Robert A. Medina
August 23, 2003
Robert Nathaniel Kirk
August 28, 2006
Anthony Spangler
August 23, 2005
Aaron Tierno
August 28, 2008
Brad Eaton
August 23, 2006
Christopher Michael Chavez
August 28, 2011
Kim Briese
August 24, 2003
Bradford Wallen
August 29, 1997
Jonathon Jose Corbelo
August 25, 1999
Jeff Martin
August 29, 1997
Don Stanciel
August 25, 2005
Joshua J. Eberle-Martinson
August 29, 2004
Tiffany Lien
August 25, 2005
Jesus “Blake” Salazar
August 29, 2004
Abigail Minor
August 26, 2005
Christopher Corona
August 29, 2012
Kelly Lynn Cooper
August 27, 1984
Brian Hansen
August 30, 1996
Bobi Lynn Riley
August 27, 1986
Eddie McQuown
August 30, 1998
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Gayland Jones
August 31, 1998
Ben Perkins-Link
August 31, 2007
*Every effort is made to ensure accuracy
on these pages. Please notify us if
changes need to be made.
VALLEY OF THE SUN CHAPTER NEWS
TRIAL - JUDICIAL & ARREST UPDATES
● The trial for the killer of Zach Balogh, son of Jan and Charlie Balogh ended disappointedly with a verdict of
not-guilty. We are so sorry for Zach's family and friends.
“Our hearts, thoughts and prayers are with each and every family member as they endure this necessary but
difficult process.”
IN LOVING MEMORY GIFT DONATIONS (THANK YOU!)
(*All donations are tax deductible: Our chapter exists on the generosity of others and grants) If you would like to
have your loved one’s name listed here each and every month like some are, all you need do is contribute a small
amount monthly to the chapter in their loving memory. Some below do in-kind contributions such as working in
the POMC Office or donating the fax-line, etc. Some give their restitution checks to POMC, so there are many
ways to help.
♥ Don & Beckie Miller in very loving memory of their son, Brian Ray Miller.
♥ Carolee Holbrook in very loving memory of her son, Brett Holbrook.
* Margaret Hsiao in memory of Jane Li Moxey, The Chinese Over-Fifty Women's Club.
CORPORATE & OTHER DONATIONS THANK YOU!
UNITED WAY (Note: the write in number to designate funds to our chapter through your employee
contributions is 0772) You must use this number for designating any funds to go to our chapter. Our chapter
name is not listed except by number.
THUNDERBIRD CHARITIES (a grant for our grief retreats)
MARICOPA COUNTY ATTORNEY'S OFFICE (RICO Funds for printing, copier costs)
AMERICAN EXPRESS EMPLOYEE GIVING: Norma Yanez in loving memory of her husband, Edward
Aguirire.
Tara Elizabeth Williams in memory of Kirk G. Best Klinger and his mother Sally Dimmick Best Klinger
Whitney who died without resolution.
ANONYMOUS DONATOR
Lindison Y. Webb in honor of Del Edward Webb
COLD CASE REGISTRY FOR HOMICIDES
The Phoenix Police Department now has a Cold Case Registry on line. The link is
http://phoenix.gov/police/investigations/coldcase/index.html. The second phase of this website project will
eventually include a searchable listing of cold cases with a brief synopsis of each case. Interested persons can
then send us information on the case or be routed to Silent Witness should they want to do so. Hopefully, this
will generate more tips and leads and move more cases to successful resolution. Many family members just
need to know their loved one's case is still open, and hopefully, give them solace that the case is not forgotten.
SPEAKER INFORMATION MEETING -- HOMICDE AFTERMATH
Our speaker meeting this month featured a presentation on Homicide: A Compounded and Complicated
Grief Process, to help our members learn more about traumatic grief, coping skills to utilize on this long and
difficult journey in the aftermath of murder and what it leaves behind for the families dealing with it. Also
provided were tips on self care during the stress of this trauma on our health and overall well being.
We also had someone from the Maricopa County Attorney's Office Victim Services as well as US Attorney's
Office Victim Services at the meeting to learn more about the issues survivors face to assist them in their jobs
serving crime victims.
Our speaker at the next meeting (August 13) will be Maricopa County Attorney Bill Montgomery. Please
note on the front of the newsletter a new speaker meeting location: Mountain View Police Precinct, 2075 East
Maryland, Phoenix. We feel the added security of being in a police station will be a better choice for our
meetings.
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MESSAGES FROM MEMBERS & OTHERS
Dear Beckie, Don and all of the valley of the sun POMC:
Thank you so much for the beautiful gift basket you brought to my retirement event and a special thank you for
your very kind words.
It has truly been "my" privilege to know and work with you.
Sherry Kiyler, Chief of Police of Chandler
Dear Mrs. Miller
I would like to personally thank you for your June 28 victim impact presentation to the youth at Adobe
Mountain School. We appreciate your continued support and the support of your volunteers. Your
presentations help our youth to understand the various ways and the multiple levels of impact that crime has on
victims. You raise their awareness about the immediate, as well as short-and long-term impacts of crime on
victims and communities.
We value your partnership with Parents Of Murdered Children and look forward to many years of continued
service together. Thank you, again, for your ongoing efforts and contributions.
Charles Flanagan, Director Arizona Juvenile Department of Corrections
NATIONAL POMC INFORMATION
☺ CINCINNATI OHIO OFFICE☺
● NATIONAL CONFERENCE: The 27th National Conference will be held in Cincinnati, Ohio on August
15-18, 2013. The theme is “Open Hearts, Sharing Hope with Trusted Friends… We Remember Them.” It will
be at the Hilton Cincinnati Netherland Plaza Hotel. The cost of the conference is $230.00. More information is
on the website along with registration forms. If anyone is planning on coming to Cincinnati on days before the
conference, the hotel is sold out and does not have extra rooms. Please contact Bev at [email protected] so
she can work with you to make arrangements at another hotel in the area who have overflow rooms.
●2014 POMC NATIONAL CONFERENCE: National is currently in the planning stages for next year's
conference which is going to be held in Rochester, Minnesota. If you would like to volunteer and be part of the
national committee, please contact Dan Levey or Bev Warnock.
● COLD CASE WEBSITE FOR UNSOLVED CASES: Bill Jensen is working to develop a new website for
cold cases. There are an estimated 5,000 murders that go unsolved in the United States each year. It seems like
I have written a lot of unsolved crime stories but when I was writing full time, I could maybe get to 40 a year,
maybe 4 in depth. That was before social media and web 2.0 and everyone carrying around a smart phone with
a camera, everyone having access to millions of bits of data.
This new site will be the clearing house information on unsolved murders and missing persons. It will be a
place for law enforcement, families and concerned citizens to gather, trade information and stories and more
importantly, solve crimes. It will be the nation's first unsolved murders and missing persons database. There
are 200,000 unsolved murders in the US since 1980. And there is no central database available to the publicuntil now. We are developing new software to crawl the web and capture every mention of the murder online,
from a random comment on a blog to a post on social network.
We are currently building the site and the app. Having worked for close to 10 years with POMC, I wanted to
reach out to people who have been waiting for the technology to catch up in this area. The reason no one has
built something like this is frankly, it is not a money making venture. I am using my own personal savings to
launch this. The goal is not to only solve crimes but also to keep the conversation going - to not have to wait
for a five year anniversary of a murder for people to talk about it again. What we are looking for right now is
feedback from family members of what they would like to see on the site.
If you would like to provide input to Bill please contact him directly at [email protected]
● ACTS OF SIMPLE KINDNESS SCHOLARSHIPS: Acts of Simple Kindness, Inc., ("ASK") provides
financial assistance for dependent children of widows and widowers under the age of 18. The financial
assistance must be used to fund a program or class within the areas of education, sports, music or the arts.
Applications that are for purposes other than these four will be discarded. For more information, please go to
http://actsofsimplekindness.org/grant-program/
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● AUTO DONATIONS: We are encouraging all chapters and contact persons to get involved with POMC
Debit Authorization. You can now donate to NATIONAL POMC by setting up an automatic withdrawal from
your bank account to National. Contact National for a debit authorization form. This is a fast and easy way to
make a donation to National to help us help others. Your donation is withdrawn at the same time of the month
each month and no amount is too small. We appreciate your help during these difficult economic times.
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AFTER-LOSS CREED
By: Jill Englar – Westminister, Maryland
Please be gentle with me for I am grieving.
The sea I swim in is a lonely one,
And the shore seems miles away.
Waves of despair numb my soul as I struggle through each day.
My heart is heavy with sorrow.
I want to shout and scream and repeatedly ask, “Why?”
At times, my grief overwhelms me, and I weep bitterly,
So great is my loss.
Please don’t turn away or tell me to move on with my life.
I must embrace my pain before I can learn to heal.
Companion me through my tears and sit with me in loving silence.
Honor where I am in my journey, not where you think I should be.
Listen patiently to my story. I may need to tell it over and over again.
It’s how I begin to grasp the enormity of my loss.
Nurture me through the weeks and months ahead.
Forgive me when I am distant and inconsolable.
A small flame still burns within my heart,
And shared memories may trigger both laughter and tears.
I need your support and understanding.
There is no right or wrong way to grieve.
I must find my own path.
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Megan June Moline
Age 19 Murdered
August 16, 2011
We miss you and love you always, your family
THE COURAGE TO GRIEVE 2013
(A Weekend Retreat of Hope and Healing in the Pines)
October 18 - 20 in beautiful PINE, ARIZONA
Our chapter is hosting our twentieth, self-help, rewarding weekend of The Courage To Grieve,
to face the many overwhelming and difficult emotions that are the aftermath of murder and are
often compounded by the intrusion and frustration of the judicial process. Beneath the explosive
emotions of rage, hate, and revenge lay the more primary feelings of pain, fear and helplessness.
Unresolved, these emotions can cause survivors to feel they are losing their minds. The isolation
survivors feel from those who will not or cannot deal with the impact of the loss, leave survivors
alone with their grief or discourage them from grieving at all. An integral part of this weekend will
be an examination of love, tenderness and affection, relaxation techniques and the encouragement
to move forward, uncover and experience within a safe environment of others who truly
understand. The retreat has been designed to influence the reconstruction of a new life -- a life that
has a renewed sense of purpose, though forever changed by murder.
The weekend begins with dinner on Friday night. Those attending will all meet at the cabin in
Pine at 5:00 p.m. with introductions to the group. This cabin was built by the Fornoffs (Roger and
Carol) specifically for retreats; their daughter, Christy Ann, was killed in Tempe in 1984 while
collecting money for her newspaper delivery route. Our chapter has hosted 18 retreats at the
Fornoff’s cabin in the beautiful and peaceful pines surrounding it.
The retreat cost is $150 and includes all meals while at the cabin, home-cooked and served
family style as if you were at home. Roger is a very good cook and he loves doing so. Space is
limited to 19, so reserve your spot now. Scholarships are available so do not let money be a factor
in your decision to participate. However, a $25 deposit is required if you apply for a scholarship
and will be refunded to you after your participation that weekend.
Many of those who have attended the weekend retreats will tell you, though it is hard emotional
work, it is very beneficial and rewarding. Husbands and wives, as well as siblings, should attend
together and learn that while we each grieve differently and had our own relationship with our
loved ones, we all share the pain and the trauma of losing a loved one to murder.
Please sign me up for the grief retreat in Pine
Name:_________________________________________________________________________
Address:___________________________________City:__________State: _____Zip________
Phone: Home:____________ Cell:_____________ E-mail: ___________________________
Check enclosed ______ Requesting Scholarship _____ Need to Carpool _____Can Give Ride_______
CREDIT CARD INFO:# __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ TYPE________ EXP DATE _________
3 number code on back __ __ __
Any questions, please call Beckie @ (602) 254-8818 or E-mail [email protected]
*Mail to POMC, Valley of the Sun Chapter, 19620 North 38th Avenue, Glendale AZ 85308-2215
*Map, info on what to bring and other information will be mailed after sign up.
Please join Parents Of Murdered Children, Valley of the Sun Chapter
"For the Families and Friends of those who have died by violence"
DATE: Saturday, September 28, 2013
WHERE: Enchanted Island Park, 1202 West Encanto Boulevard, Phoenix AZ
TIME: 5:00 p.m.
* RSVP attendance to [email protected] or call 602-254-8818 (leave message)
*This year's event will be free of charge thanks to the generosity of the Chandler Police
Department RICO funds. Special Guest Speaker will be John Gillis of the Maricopa
County Attorney's Office Victim Services Division. John has a distinguished career in
Law Enforcement and Criminal Justice and Interim Chief of Police Dave Neuman of the
Chandler Police Department.
We will also have an honor guard and bird release as well as a teddy bear raffle.
Members may bring teddy bears dressed to represent a hobby or something their
loved one liked so we can raffle them off to participating attendees. We will have a
catered picnic dinner immediately following our event. There will also be a Moon
Bounce for the children and volleyball, horseshoes which are available at the park.
You will also get wristbands that allow you free rides in the amusement park after the
event ends.
***Please RSVP for the event so we have the catering count and for chair rental.
Bring your teddy bears prior to the event to a meeting or call for drop off.
Cheryl O'Malley
Age 35
August 31, 1996
(CASE UNSOLVED)
FOR THOSE WITH UNSOLVED CASES
We would like to dedicate this page to each of our members with unsolved/unresolved cases in
hope that one day you will achieve justice in knowing who and or having them face their day in
court. We would also like to update our database with information on whose cases are
unsolved so please contact us by email or regular mail us with your name, your loved one's
name, age and murder date. email [email protected] or drop us a note to POMC, 19620
North 38th Avenue, Glendale AZ 85308-2215.
"It has been said, 'time heals all wounds.' I do not agree. The wounds
remain. In time, the mind, protecting sanity, covers them with scar tissue
and the pain lessons. But it is never gone."(Rose Kennedy)
“Hope” is the thing with feathers . . .
That perches in the soul . . .
And sings the tune without words . . .
And never stops at all . . . (Emily Dickinson)
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Memorial Wall Order Form
Please add my loved one’s name to the “Valley of
the Sun Memorial Wall in their Memories.” Each
Nameplate is $10. Our wall is displayed at many
special events across the valley during the year.
NAME__________________________________
Age:___________ Murder date: _____________
Picture Board
___Check here if sending picture for the picture
board & Holiday Memorial (no cost).
Picture Buttons
___Please make #____picture buttons of my loved
one. (Enclose photo) Each button is 3”, and costs
$5.
** Send a Self Addressed Stamped Envelope if
you want your photo returned. You may also
e-mail photo to [email protected]
*Make all checks out to POMC ….
*Mail to 19620 North 38th Avenue
Glendale AZ 85308-2215
THANKS FOR CARING
To The Sojourner Center for donating our
Speaker meeting room; to Antioch Church of
Christ in God & Mountain View Lutheran
Churches for the Support Group meeting rooms;
to The Department of Public Safety VOCA for
the grant for our newsletter & everyone who has
donated gifts of their time, talents and energy to
our chapter activities. With your help we are
able to continue the outreach that is needed by
our community.
THE VALLEY OF THE SUN
BOARD OF DIRECTORS (2013)
Beckie Miller, Chapter-Leader ............. (623) 582-2406
Sue Osolin, Co-Leader ........................ (602) 938-4593
Don Miller, Treasurer .......................... (623) 582-2406
Mari Bailey, Co-Leader………………….(602)405-7401
Kathy Hernandez- Secretary ............... (623) 707-6825
Tim Osolin ........................................... (602) 938-4593
Mark LeGault……………………………..(480)242-0038
Sandy LeGault…………………………....(480)242-0038
Angie Saucedo.......................................(480)209-8465
Amanda Harris.......................................(623)866-3189
Claudia Marco........................................(480)634-1424
“The Journey” Memorial Order Form (newsletter)
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Month you wish memorial to appear in:__________________
Loved One’s Name__________________________________
Date of Birth ____________ Age _____
Date of Death_______________
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A quarter page will hold either a picture OR a brief message;
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*Return this form with your material for The Journey by the
10th of the month preceding the issue you wish it to appear in.
*A donation for the memorial page can be made by sending a
check made out to POMC with the memorial information in care
of:
Newsletter Editor, Valley of the Sun POMC
19619 North 38th Avenue
Glendale AZ 85308-2215
CONTACT NUMBERS
ON LINE SIBLING SUPPORT: Amanda Harris is our
chapter's Sibling Coordinator and has on line support
for siblings. Her contact info is 623-866-3189 or
www.unitingsiblings.com
POMC (after hrs V/M) ..................... ..(602) 254-8818
Chapter E-mail……………………. [email protected]
CRISIS LINE/MOBILE CRISIS TEAM
Empact Crisis Line .......................... …..(480) 784-1500
OTHER HELP LINES
Teen Lifeline ................................... …..(602) 248-8336
GrandCare (Grandparents help line)…..(602) 274-5022
Crime Victims Legal Assistance Project... (480) 965-5640
Maricopa County Attorney Victim Services...602-506-8522
Crime Victim Compensation (602) 506-4955
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PARENTS OF MURDERED CHILDREN, INC.
VALLEY OF THE SUN CHAPTER
19620 North 38th Avenue
Glendale AZ 85308-2215
(602) 254-8818
Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc., is a self-help organization dedicated to the aftermath of
murder. The success of its mission depends upon the participation of the families and friends of
those lost to murder.
POMC number (602) 254-8818
WHY WE ARE HERE:
MISSION STATEMENT: “POMC makes the difference through ongoing emotional support,
education, prevention, advocacy, and awareness.”
VISION STATEMENT: “To provide support and assistance to all survivors of homicide victims while
working to create a world free of murder.”
This project is supported by Grant No. 2012-VA-GX-0022 from the US Department of Justice - Office for Victims of Crime.
The opinions, findings, and conclusions or recommendations expressed in this publication/program/exhibition are those of
the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the US DOJ or the Arizona Department of Public Safety.