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‘Bullied’ looks at reasons, solutions to societal epidemic
crafted an insightful and
thought-provoking primer
Correspondent
designed to help young
“Bullied: Why you feel people cope with this
bad inside and what to do growing problem.
Mayfield’s sensitivity
about it,” by Katherine
Mayfield; Maine Authors seeps into every page, as
Publishing; soft cover; 89 she guides readers through
an examination of why
pages; $10.95.
some people become bullies, and how it crushes a
person’s self-esteem. What
Like a lot of people,
every now and then, I read was particularly illuminating to me is how she
a book that really strikes
deftly shines a light on the
a chord in me, and that
sobering fact that people
resonates in a way that
often carry the childhood
stays with me long after
scars of being preyed upon
I’ve finished the last page.
“Bullied,” by Maine author by others with them into
adulthood; how rebuilding
Katherine Mayfield, is
one’s self-esteem after besuch a book. Although it
ing made to feel unworthy
is short in length, it is a
and hopeless is a daunting
book that speaks volumes
challenge.
with respect to addressing
There were several secwhat has become a raging
tions that found me caught
epidemic across all levels
in the grip of the gnawing
of our society: bullying.
feeling of “What would
For anyone who ever
I have done if this hapfound themselves at the
pened to me? How would I
mercy of a bully, or who
have found the courage to
is a parent that has lived
handle it at such a young
through the heartbreak of
and vulnerable age?” Well,
watching their child being
Mayfield not only delves
bullied, Mayfield’s latest
offering is definitely a book into the causes and effects
to have front and center on of such scenarios, but she
also leads victims down a
your shelves.
path of recovery to a place
The author, who was
where they can overcome
bullied and picked-on as a
child by her parents and by feelings that have tormented them, and finally
schoolmates, writes with
realize a happier and more
authority and sensitivity,
fulfilling life. She provides
for she knows her subject
a roadmap that shows the
matter all too well.
victims of bullying that
As such, she has
By PAUL COLLINS
The cover of “Bullied” by
Katherine Mayfield.
peace of mind is not out of
reach.
Asked if there was an
emotional safe-haven she
employed as a coping
mechanism to escape the
torment of being bullied
as a child, she says, “I’m
sorry to say there wasn’t,
though I wish there had
been. Because of that, I
ended up living through
a ‘false-self’ in my childhood – which meant being,
thinking and doing exactly
what my parents wanted
in order to feel safe. I was
the quintessential doormat.” She goes on to say, “I
think most people who are
in this position don’t even
realize they’re not living
an authentic life, because
the ‘facade’ is all they’ve
ever known.”
Mayfield contends that
in many instances, bullies prey upon others as a
means to make themselves
feel stronger; that the act
of tormenting others actually fills a need in them and
makes them somehow feel
better about who they are.
In response to how she
feels today, as an adult,
when she sees or hears
about others who find
themselves in the throes of
being bullied she offered,
“I wish I could stand right
beside that person, look
into their eyes, and say,
‘This has nothing to do with
you, or with who you are.
The bully (or abuser) is just
trying to feel more powerful and it doesn’t mean in
any way, shape or form that
there is anything wrong
with you.’”
It bears reiterating that
where this subject matter
is concerned, this author
writes, not only with sensitivity and brutal honesty,
but also with a firm grasp
of the human condition.
As a former actress who
appeared off-Broadway
and on the daytime drama,
“Guiding Light,” Mayfield
seems to have an actress’
uncanny understanding of
what’s inside of people, and
how to tap into it.
The information in this
book will give readers a
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great awareness of, and
sensitivity to, the bully
cycle.
More importantly,
perhaps it will serve as a
catalyst for both parents
and educators to gain the
knowledge and understanding needed to prevent it.
“Bullied” is a compelling
and insightful expose into
the damage bullying can do
to a child’s self-esteem, and
of some measures that can
be taken to stop it.
some learning experience for
students.
Engineering, earth sciences,
programming and technology
will be the focus.
The club will meet twice a
week to learn about the First
Lego League challenge, build
a robot, perfect the missions,
have lots of fun, work on
team building and train for a
tournament.
The team will also work
on public speaking and a
research presentation. The
grant will fund all of the
equipment and registration
fees.
Interested parents, coaches, mentors and children
should email the director at
cchronopoulos@pelhamweb.
com ASAP. Space is limited.
For announcements about
the club, visit pelhampublic
library.org/clubs/pelham
roboticsclub.
Paul Collins is a freelance writer
from Southborough, Massachusetts.
LIBRARY HAPPENINGS
NASHUA
Nashua Public Library, 2 Court
St., 589-4600, carol.eyman@
nashualibrary.org, www.nashua
library.org.
BACH’S LUNCH CONCERTS
The Bach’s Lunch Concert
Series, a Nashua Public Library tradition, are held from
noon-1 p.m. Wednesdays in
the library’s Music, Art and
Media Wing. Free. Concerts
are not appropriate for children younger than 5.
Concert schedule:
Aug. 14: New England
String Quartet.
The New England String
Quartet concert is sponsored
by the Zylonis Fund, whose
mission is to promote the
appreciation of Lithuanian
culture in the Nashua area.
The concert program will
include works by Lithuanian
composers.
Other members of the
group include violinist Joshua
Addison, violist Lilit Muradyan
and cellist Ming-Hui Lin. The
musicians have won international competitions in the
United States and abroad.
SUMMER CONCERTS ON THE
PLAZA
Six young, innovative bands
will make their Nashua Public
Library debuts this year at
Summer Concerts on the
Plaza at at 7 p.m. Thursdays
The theme of the series is
“Discoveries.”
Performances, part of Nashua’s SummerFun program, are
free. Held indoors in event of
inclement weather.
The final concert in the
Nashua Public Library’s Summer Concerts on the Plaza
series, on Aug. 15, will feature
the Wayne Pearcy Jazz Quintet. Trumpeter and composer
Wayne Pearcy is best known
in the jazz community for
placing second globally as a
soloist at the International
Trumpet Guild College Jazz
Competition in 2011.
Pearcy’s rich tone and
lyrical style have earned him
studies with some heavy
hitters in jazz, including
Tiger Okoshi, Darren Barrett,
and Wynton Marsalis. His
advocacy for assistive technology at Berklee College of
Music has helped the school
become a top destination for
visually impaired students
from around the world.
Pearcy’s combo aims to update the tradition of the jazz
quintet from the perspective
of a new generation. The
group was recently featured
at Berklee’s Trumpet Weekend and on Harvard Univer-
MOVIE RATINGS
Motion Picture Association of America rating definitions:
G GENERAL AUDIENCES
All Ages Admitted.
PG
PG-13
R
NC17
PARENTAL GUIDANCE
SUGGESTED
Some material may not be
suitable for children.
SPECIAL PARENTAL GUIDANCE
STRONGLY SUGGESTED FOR CHILDREN UNDER
13. Some material may be
inappropriate for young children.
RESTRICTED
Under 17 requires accompanying
parent or adult guardian.
NO ONE UNDER
17 ADMITTED
sity’s radio station, WHRB.
Joining Pearcy at the library
concert are Aaron Gratzmiller
on sax, Abraham Olivo on
piano, Tabari Lake on bass,
and Fabio Rojas on drum set.
ADULT SUMMER READING
PROGRAM
Through Aug. 11, each time
you read a book or attend
a “Groundbreaking Reads”
event, you can earn a raffle
ticket. To register, go to www.
nashualibrary.org/asr. Raffle
prizes have been donated by
the Friends of the Nashua
Public Library. They include
gift certificates to the Friends
book sale, Barnes and Noble,
and MT’s Local Kitchen; a pair
of $25 tickets to a private
“Beyond the Book” reception with the Nashua Reads
author, and an Apple iPad.
Everyone earns a prize after
reading five, 10 and 25 books.
“Groundbreaking Reads”
events include:
■ “Bringing the Undead to
Life in Fiction”: 7 p.m. Aug. 15.
Join members of Broad Universe, a group that celebrates
female authors, as they talk
about the popularity of the
undead in horror and fantasy
fiction. At the beginning of the
program, winners of the Adult
Summer Reading program
raffle will be announced.
HUDSON
George H. and Ella M. Rodgers
Memorial Library, 194 Derry Road,
886-6030, askus@rodgerslibrary.
org, www.rodgerslibrary.org.
Milford Twin Drive-In
Route 101A , Milford, N.H.
673-4090
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FREE FRIDAY FILM FESTIVAL
The library will host a Free
Friday Film Festival at 7 p.m.
every Friday from through
Aug. 23. Enjoy films on our
big screen in air-conditioned
comfort. Future films include:
on Aug. 16, two teenage boys
help a fugitive avoid bounty
hunters to reunite with his
true love, and on Aug. 23 an
all-star cast presents a story
of how individual actions
impact each other through
time in this adaptation of a
best-selling novel. Call 8164535 for film titles. Free.
PELHAM
Pelham Public Library, 24 Village
Green, 635-7581, www.pelhamweb.
com/library.
PELHAM LIBRARY AWARDED
NASA GRANT FOR ROBOTICS
CLUB
The Pelham Public Library
had another successful bid
for a Summer of Innovation
grant from NASA to fund its
Robotics Club. The award
was one of only 171 given by
NASA. The club will use First
Lego League and NASA Sol
curriculum to create an awe-
Amherst
Hollis
The Black Forest Café & Bakery Market Place Diner
Village Market Place
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We serve an a la carte breakfast and lunch
4 Ash St.
menu filled with fresh, seasonal dishes that
please the whole family. Our menu offers
an all-day selection of traditional omelets,
eggs benedict, decadent brioche French
toast and pancakes, plus a lunch menu of
salads, sandwiches and heartier dinners.
Kid’s menu available and reservations
accepted. Sundays 8am-2:30pm.
www.theblackforestcafe.com
(603) 672-0500
Bedford
The Bedford Village Inn
2 Olde Bedford Way
Every Sunday we put on our Sunday best.
For you, that might be Harris Tweed or
cashmere. For us, it's pineapple & grapefruit
parfait with our own house made granola.
While you might be spritzing on something
from Chanel or St. Laurent, we're mixing
Oliver Merrill farm eggs into a Frittata with
sweet Italian sausage, caramelized onion,
roast button mushroom and pecorino
Toscana. While you gather your coats from
a church pew or pull back your duvet cover,
we're lighting the fires in our dining rooms
and putting out our linens so you can enjoy
your Brioche French toast with blackberry
bourbon syrup in the warmth and elegance
we're known for all over New England.
And while the culinary team wakes up at
the break of dawn to make this happen,
you can take your sweet time as our three
course Sunday Brunch is served from
11:30-2. The Bedford Village Inn. Making
the everyday remarkable. Route one oh
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800-852-1166
Morning starters including the ultimate Farmer’s
Delight breakfast, meme’s crepes & 14 different
omelettes. Daily specials & breakfast served all
day. Try our delicious homemade harvest soups.
Mon-Sun: 6 am to 2pm. See our full menu on
our web site.
www.marketplacediner.com.
603-465-3209
Merrimack
The Common Man
304 Daniel Webster Hwy.
On Sunday, we welcome you to join us
starting at 11:30 am for brunch specials until
3 pm, or order from our full dinner menu
from11:30 am-9 pm. Our Bar ‘n grill offers
lighter fare and opens at 4 pm on Sundays.
www.thecman.com
603-429-DINE
Nashua
Country Tavern Restaurant
452 Amherst Street
Our Sunday breakfast buffet starts at just
12 bucks! It’s all you can eat featuring Eggs, Bacon, Sausage, Pastries, Quiche,
Salad, Home fries, French toast, Fresh Fruit,
Assorted desserts, coffee, & orange juice.
Looking for more to satisfy that appetite?
Order from our Add-On Menu at just $3.95.
Choose from a selection of omelets made
to order, Eggs Benedict, Sirloin Steak,
Baby Back Ribs, Chicken Marsala, Fresh
Haddock or Salmon, and more! Serving
from 10:00 AM till 2 PM every Sunday. Call
for holiday times and menus. Reservations
welcome. Ask about our private dining
rooms for your special event.
603-889-5871
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Killarney’s Cafe
at The Holiday Inn
9 Northeastern Blvd.
Featuring Waffle station and omelets made
to order, Cinnamon French Toast, Scrambled
Eggs, Crisp Bacon, Sausage and much
more. Hours are until 1 pm Sunday.
603-888-1551
Speaker’s Corner Restaurant
at the Crowne Plaza Nashua
2 Somerset Pkwy.
It’s brunch time, that wonderful meal that
comforts and cheers you when you’re too
relaxed for an eat-and-run breakfast, and
too at ease for a formal lunch. Add a glass
of champagne or a mimosa and a few good
friends, and we have all the pleasures that
you need. Relish the easy spirit this meal offers; a perfect way to spend your next Sunday. Join us for the tantalizing aromas of
omelets made-to-order, a bountiful array of
all your breakfast favorites, paired with a variety of brunch entrees and Chef’s signature
carving station. End your day with desserts
that are delectable. Private dining rooms are
also available for that special event. Every
Sunday, 9:00am to 1:00pm. Reservations
welcomed. Rated one of the top 20 best
places to enjoy Sunday Brunch in NH!
603-595-4155