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AWE
How the soul-stirring wonder sparked by a
shooting star or a majestic peak can transform
your health and happiness
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T’S
I’m not a superhero fan, but I am a Ben
Affleck fan. Does he have any movies
coming up where he isn’t playing
Batman?
—Eva B., Coral Gables, Fla.
A: You’re in luck. First up
is the crime thriller
The Accountant,
opening Oct. 14, in
which Affleck stars
as a financial consultant for some of the
world’s most dangerous
criminal organizations. Following that on
Jan. 13 will be Live by Night, the fourth
feature-length film the Academy Award
winner has directed. Affleck, 44, plays a
Prohibition-era bootlegger who becomes
a notorious gangster. He won’t reprise
his Batman role until Justice League is
released late next year.
The main character in ads for American Housewife
looks familiar. Where have I seen her before?
—Stacy R., St. Paul, Minn.
A: That’s Florida-born actress Katy Mixon, 35, who
played Victoria, the sister of
Melissa McCarthy’s character,
on Mike & Molly before landing
the starring role of Katie, “the
second-fattest housewife in
Westport,” in the new ABC
comedy premiering Oct. 11.
In the new role, Mixon is
trying to raise her flawed
family in a town filled with
“perfect” mommies and
kids. “Katie’s an authentic woman living in an
inauthentic world, trying to be who she is,”
she says.
Email your questions for Walter Scott to [email protected]
SARAH JESSICA PARKER’S ‘DIVORCE’
The Emmy-winning Sex and the City actress, 51, returns to
HBO on Oct. 9 in Divorce, which follows the lives of a
long-married couple as they grapple with their deteriorating
marriage. Here are five facts you may not
know about the native of Nelsonville, Ohio.
1. Her big break came at 14 when she
took over the title role in Annie (1979–
1980) on Broadway.
2. Andie MacDowell beat her out for the
role of Carrie in Four Weddings
and a Funeral.
3. She’s the only one of the four Sex and the
City stars who never did a nude scene on
the show. It was in her contract.
4. Esther Elwell, her tenth
great-grandmother, survived
the Salem witch trials despite
her arrest for committing “sundry
acts of witchcraft.”
5. Her favorite book is To Kill a Mockingbird.
WALTER SCOTT ASKS...
ED HARRIS
The Oscar-nominated actor, 65, makes
a rare foray into television as the
villainous no-named “Man in Black”
in the HBO adaptation of the 1973
sci-fi thriller Westworld, airing Sunday
nights. The chilling new series, set
in a futuristic Wild West–themed
amusement park, explores the meaning of life through the interactions of
humans and artificial beings.
Can you describe your character? In the
first two episodes, it seems like he’s the
baddest guy around, but you learn a lot
more about him as the episodes go on in
terms of what he does in the real world, his
family and what he’s doing in Westworld.
How does the series compare to the
Westworld movie? [The movie was] a lot
more campy. This is darker and stranger.
What were some of your favorite Westerns growing up? I was born in 1950, so
there were tons of Westerns on TV by the
time I was 6, 7, 8 years old. In terms of
television, Maverick and Have Gun—Will
Travel. But filmically, classics like High
Noon and The Man Who Shot Liberty
Valance—that’s one of my favorite films.
Do you stay low-key and non-Hollywood
by choice? Big-time, yes. I’ve been in the
same house for 31 years, up the coast,
and have a little bit of land. There’s always
something to do, something to work on
when I’m home. I enjoy it. It clears my
head. It’s physical. You focus on one thing
at a time.
Will his daughter, Lily (with actress/wife
Amy Madigan), follow in his acting footsteps?
Go to Parade.com/harris to find out.
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more.
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Music journalists Brad Tolinski and Alan di
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of the Electric Guitar (Doubleday) dives deep
into the instrument’s history, greatest hits and
artists. Available Oct. 25. $27
Paul Du Noyer’s Conversations With McCartney
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The hike, in a narrow box canyon, wasn’t going so well.
stone walls hid any view, even from the 6-foot-7 Bare. After a second
Army deployment, in Iraq, he was suffering from post-traumatic stress
disorder (PTSD): drinking too much, suicidal and struggling to find his
way forward. What am I doing with my life? What does it mean to be at
home, a veteran, anyway?
The trail led to a ladder. “We climbed up, still shouting at one another,” recalls Bare. “Then we looked up and wham! ”
The towering slabs of Druid Arch rose up, a sunset-hued Stonehenge in the middle of Utah’s Canyonlands National Park. The
men’s jaws dropped. They laughed. They hugged. What were we
even arguing about? Bare recalls thinking.
They’d been awestruck—altered in an instant by an electrifying
emotion that scientists have only recently begun to study. You
didn’t see Awe as a character in Pixar’s hit film Inside Out. But
new studies show that it’s a dramatic feeling with the power to
inspire, heal, change our thinking and bring people together.
WHAT IS AWE, ANYWAY?
AWESTRUCK
FEELING AWE MAY BE
THE SECRET TO HEALTH
AND HAPPINESS.
BY PAULA SPENCER SCOTT
“Awe is the feeling of being in the presence of
something vast or beyond human scale, that
transcends our current understanding of
things,” says psychologist Dacher Keltner,
who heads the University of California,
Berkeley’s Social Interaction Lab. A pioneer in the study of emotions, he helped
Facebook create those new “like” button
emojis and consulted on Inside Out.
In 2013, Keltner’s lab kicked off
Project Awe, a three-year research
project funded by the John Templeton
Foundation that has spawned more
research on the topic than in the
previous three decades.
You might recognize awe as
that spine-tingling feeling you
get gazing at the Milky Way. The
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Stacy Bare and his brother were arguing, for one thing. High sand-
dumbstruck wonder you feel as your newborn’s hand curls around
your pinkie. Niagara Falls! Cirque du Soleil! Fireworks! The Sistine
Chapel! The national anthem sung by someone who knows how!
“People often talk about awe as seeing the Grand Canyon or
meeting Nelson Mandela,” Keltner says. “But our studies show it
also can be much more accessible—a friend is so generous you’re
astounded, or you see a cool pattern of shadows and leaves.”
For years, only the “big six” emotions (happiness, sadness, fear,
anger, disgust, surprise) got much scientific attention. “Awe was
thought of as the Gucci of the emotion world—cool if you have
it, but a luxury item,” says Arizona State University psychologist
Michelle Shiota. “But it’s now thought to be a basic part of being
human that we all need.”
Here’s what these “wizards of awe” are discovering:
Awe binds us together. It’s a likely reason human beings are
wired to feel awe, Keltner says: to get us to act in more collaborative ways, ensuring our survival. Facing a great vista—or a starry
sky or a cathedral—we realize we’re a small part of something
much larger. Our thinking shifts from me to we.
Astronauts feel this in the extreme. They often
report an intense, “far out” state of oneness
with humanity when looking back at Earth,
called the “overview effect,” says David Bryce
HOW MUCH
Yaden, a researcher at the University of PennAWE IS
sylvania. Our pale blue dot “looks small against
INSPIRED BY
the vastness of space and yet represents all that
THE NATURAL
we hold meaningful,” he says. Call it a wow of
WORLD
astronomical proportions.
Awe helps us see things in new ways. Unlike,
say, fear or excitement, which trip our “fight-or-flight” response,
awe puts on the brakes and keeps us still and attentive, says Shiota.
This “stop-and-think” phenomenon makes us more receptive to
details and new information. No wonder Albert Einstein described
feelings of awe as “the source of all true art and science.”
Awe makes us nicer—and happier. “Awe causes a kind of Be
Here Now that seems to dissolve the self,” says social psychologist Paul Piff of the University of California, Irvine. It makes us
act more generously, ethically and fairly.
75%
In one experiment, subjects spent a full minute looking at
either an impressive stand of North America’s tallest eucalyptus trees or a plain building. Not surprisingly, the tree-gazers
reported higher awe. When a tester “accidentally” dropped pens
in front of the subjects, the awestruck ones helped pick up way
more than the others.
Awe alters our bodies. Awe is the positive emotion that most
strongly predicts reduced levels of cytokines, a marker of inflammation that’s linked to depression, according to research from
University of Toronto’s Jennifer Stellar. That
suggests a possible role in health and healing,
and may help explain the raft of recent studies
that have linked exposure to nature with lower
AVERAGE
blood pressure, stronger immune systems and
NUMBER
more. Researchers even wonder whether a lack
OF TIMES A
of nature and other opportunities for feelWEEK PEOPLE ing awe might add to the stresses and health
FEEL AWE
damage that come from living in urban blight
or poverty.
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THE HEALING POTENTIAL OF AWE
Though this is still pretty new science, it’s already being applied to
the real world. At Newcomers High School in Long Island City,
N.Y., Julie Mann takes her students on “Awe Walks” to connect
with nature or art. When they write about these experiences and
share them in the classroom, she says, kids who never talk in class
or pay attention come to life. “It helps them feel less marginalized, with a sense that life is still good,” she says.
Kids and grown-ups alike have fewer chances these days to
find such transformative moments. We’re increasingly stressed,
indoors, plugged into devices and less tightly connected to
neighbors and friends. Could more awe be just what the doctor
ordered?
Bare thinks so. He credits backpacking and rock-climbing trips
with nothing less than saving his life. “I literally climbed out of
depression,” he says.
In 2010, not long after that Druid Arch hike with his
brother, Bare and fellow vet Nick Watson co-founded Veterans Expeditions to get other returning soldiers (from all eras)
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outdoors. Like him, they reported relief from PTSD.
Fascinated, Bare sensed that there may be something therapeutic in
nature beyond exercise and relaxation—something like the psychological and social shifts that awe brings. Now the director of Sierra
Club Outdoors, the arm of the environmental group that organizes
wilderness trips for groups, he’s partnered with UC Berkeley to form
the Great Outdoors Lab
to document nature’s impact on the mind, body
and relationships.
Early studies have
taken veterans and
underserved adolescents
white-water rafting.
Subjects showed measured improvements in
psychological well-being,
social functioning and
life outlook. “Veterans’
stress dropped by 30
percent. It’s a compelling
pattern,” says researcher
Craig Anderson.
—Stacy Bare at Druid Arch (above)
In fact, Bare has a
“
We climbed up,
still shouting at one
another. Then we
looked up and wham!
“
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WAYS TO FIND AWE
IN EVERYDAY LIFE
We can’t all experience the ultimate awe of viewing the Earth
from space, but we can do the following:
prediction: “In a few years, you’ll go to the doctor and, as part of
treatment for trauma, you’ll get a prescription to get some hiking
boots or go on a rafting trip.”
Meanwhile, he has a new source of transcendence every bit as
wham! as Canyonlands’ red-gold spires: his baby daughter, Wilder.
Awesome name, right?
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COURTESY STACY BARE
1. Drop the devices and gaze at the clouds or stars.
2. Visit a local, state or national park.
3. Take an Awe Walk in your neighborhood, noticing things as if
for the first time.
4. Describe to a friend or write about a time you once felt awe.
5. Visit a museum or planetarium.
6. Get up early to watch the sunrise.
7. Play amazing music. (Beethoven’s Fifth comes up often.
Shiota suggests Alison Krauss’ “Down to the River to Pray”
and Carlos Santana’s live “Europa.”)
Ask Marilyn
By Marilyn vos Savant
Do any other female animals
experience menopause?
—J. Brown, Fairfax, Va.
At last, something we have in
common with killer whales! The
only animals we know that live
significantly past the age when
their reproductive capacity stops
are orcas (killer whales) and pilot
whales. (Both “whales” are actually large dolphins.) Fertility does
decline with age in other female
animals, such as chimpanzees,
but they don’t typically live long
afterward. Not that anyone
knows whether the dolphins
undergo any physiological symptoms. (“Is it warm in here, or is
it just me?”) It’s not easy to tell
if a large, seagoing creature is
annoyed!
Send questions to
marilyn @ parade.com
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Table
Community
SOUP
FOR THE BODY & SOUL
“Eating soup is a way to hit the body’s reset button,” says
Rebecca Katz, author of the new cookbook Clean Soups:
Simple, Nourishing Recipes for Health and Vitality and
The Cancer-Fighting Kitchen. In honor of Breast Cancer
Awareness Month, brew this flavorful soup featuring
two ingredients that are particularly good for breast
health: cauliflower and turmeric. —Alison Ashton
Coconut Cauliflower Soup
With Ginger and Turmeric
EVA KOLENKO
Preheat oven to 425°F. Combine 2½–3 lb cauliflower, cut into 1½-inch
florets; 2 Tbsp extra-virgin olive oil; ¼ tsp ground turmeric; ½ tsp salt
and ¼ tsp pepper in a large bowl; toss to coat. Transfer to a parchmentlined rimmed baking sheet; spread in an even layer. Bake 20–25 minutes
or until golden and tender.
Meanwhile, heat 1 Tbsp olive oil in a large saucepan over medium heat.
Add 1 chopped yellow onion, a pinch of salt and ¼ tsp ground turmeric;
sauté 3 minutes. Add 2 minced garlic cloves, 2 peeled and chopped
carrots, 2 chopped celery stalks and ½ tsp salt; sauté 10 minutes. Stir
in 2 tsp Thai red chili paste. Pour in ½ cup of low-sodium vegetable
broth, scraping pan to loosen any browned bits; cook until liquid is
reduced by half. Pour 1 cup vegetable broth into a blender, add 2 tsp
grated ginger and one-third of sautéed vegetables and cauliflower;
blend until smooth, adding more broth as needed. Transfer to pan over
low heat; repeat process two more times. Stir in 1 (13.5-oz) can coconut
milk, ¼ tsp salt and zest and juice of 1 lime. Serve garnished with
1 Tbsp finely chopped cilantro. Serves 6.
Visit Parade.com/broth for Katz's immunity-boosting Magic Mineral Broth.
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