Jewish Scene Magazine January/February 2011
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Jewish Scene Magazine January/February 2011
® January/February 2011 Sea Side Simcha Helping Save the Planet One Napkin at a Time From Dreams to Reality… Teaming with a Professional Party Planner Hiring a Professional Photographer ß MAZEL TOVß ROCK LOOKINGßFORßAßTRULYßUNIQUEßVENUEß FORßYOURßBARBATßMITZVAHßEVENT #ALLßOURßEVENTßPROFESSIONALSßFORßMOREßINFORMATION MEMPHIS ßBEALEßST ßßHARDROCKCOM THEßOFFICIALßFOODßOFßROCK Don’t wait until Super Sunday to answer the call! You don’t have to wait until Sunday, February 6, 2011 to make your pledge and do your part to help the Memphis Jewish Community: This year, call us at 901Ͳ767Ͳ7100. This year, visit our website at www.memjfed.org. This year, find us on Facebook: Memphis Jewish Federation Super Sunday. This year, you choose the day and the way you make your commitment to Memphis Jewish Federation’s Annual Community Campaign. Super Sunday! Super You! Super Community! For more information, contact Molly Wexler at 901Ͳ767Ͳ7100. Banquet Halls of the Mid-South 901.314.9000 Giclee by Terry Woodard Xf!bsf!zpvs!pof.tupq!tqfdjbm!fwfout!ifbervbsufst www.BanquetHallsMidSouth.com Pvs!gbnjmz!pg!wfovft!jodmvef; Bqqmjoh!Nbops-!Cbsumfuu!Cborvfu!Ibmm-!Csjehf!bu!MblfmboeDbmmjpqf!Fwfou!Dfoufs!Epxoupxo!boe!Dpmmjfswjmmf!Cborvfu!Ibmm Offering the best catering in town. Offe!b!Ibmm@!Dbmm/// Gsbodft-!Uif!Cborvfu!Ibmm!Mbez 901.690.3671 Contents 6 SIMCHA CELEBRATIONS Sea Side Simcha 19 BESHERT: True Stories of Connection The Train Ride 8 SIMCHA CELEBRATIONS A Whirlwind Wedding 20 ON THE SIDELINES Rhodes College Prepares for Track and Field 10 12 SIMCHA CELEBRATIONS Assembling Your Stationery Wardrobe 21 COLLEGE SCENE The Big Step SIMCHA CELEBRATIONS Choosing a Professional Photographer ARTS & CULTURE Holy Rollers: movie review 13 SIMCHA CELEBRATIONS Helping Save the Planet One Napkin at a Time 22 23 14 SIMCHA CELEBRATIONS From Dreams to Reality…Teaming with a Professional Party Planner 15 SIMCHA CELEBRATIONS After the Engagement - A Time Line 24 FEATURE Beth Israel Congregation: Past, Present and Future 16 SIMCHA CELEBRATIONS Camp Side Simcha 25 FEATURE Temple B’nai Israel Celebrates 120 Years 17 L’CHAYIM Planning Libations For Your Simcha 18 DOLLARS & SENSE First Milestones Mark Need for Financial Advice Publisher/Editor Susan C. Nieman Art Director Dustin Green Art Assistant Laura Ehrhardt David Miller Rebecca Miller Arts & Entertainment Editor FEATURE Memorial Garden is a Place for Celebration and Consolation BE SCENE 26 - 27 Baron Hirsch, Beth Sholom, Beth Israel, Jackson, MS; BSSS, Hadassah, Memphis Jewish Home, MHA/FYOS, Plough Towers, Temple Israel, IRIS Orchestra On The Cover Photo: Norman Gilbert Photography ~ photonorm.com Jennifer Lefkowitz Editorial Contributors Lawson Arney Rabbi Uri Barnea Gary Burhop Norman Gilbert Cara Greenstein Sheril Greenstein Mark Hayden Jennifer Lefkowitz Judith Wolf Mandell Dixie Ryall Harry Samuels Account Executives Bob Drake Larry Nieman Chief Financial Officer Don Heitner Editorial Assistants Jewish Scene Thanks our January/February Sponsors for their Support SHORNICK FAMILY FOUNDATION www.MemphisFriendsofIsrael.org Volume 4 Number 4 January/February 2011 Shevat/Adar 5771 Sponsors help offset the growing cost of mailing Jewish Scene Magazine not covered by advertising dollars. Jewish Scene is dedicated to creating awareness among the Jewish community; and promoting and supporting the religious, educational, social and fundraising efforts of Jewish agencies and organizations. 6 Bettye Berlin Emily Bernhardt Alice Drake Rae Jean Lichterman 26 Jewish Scene magazine must give permission for any material contained herein to be copied or reproduced in any manner. Manuscripts and photographs submitted for publication are welcome by Jewish Scene, but no responsibility can be taken for them while in transit or in the office of the publication. Editorial content does not necessarily reflect the publisher’s opinion, nor can the publisher be held responsible for errors. The publication of any advertisement in this issue does not constitute an endorsement of the advertiser’s product or services by this publication. Jewish Scene is published by Jewish Living of the South, Inc. Subscription rates for the U.S.: single issues $5, annual $18. Canada and foreign: single issues $10, annual $36. 16 January/February 2011 I www.jewishscenemagazine.com Send name and address with check to: Jewish Scene 1703 Tamhaven Court Cordova, TN, 38016 Phone: 901.624.4896 Fax: 901.624.3389 Email: [email protected] www.jewishscenemagazine.com EDITORIAL From the Publisher/Editor Inn at Hunt Phelan Dear Readers, Happy 2011 to you all. I love planning events. In fact, I think if I ever change careers, it will be as an event planner. As we begin the New Year, I am already kneedeep helping my son and future daughter-inlaw with their September wedding plans. Lucky for me, and more importantly for them, during the past 3 years, I have made many valuable event-planning connections while preparing our annual Simcha Scene. Fabulous Parties, Luxurious Surroundings The perfect venue for your bar/bat mitzvah. Over the years I have often turned to these event professionals to help provide articles. More recently I have turned to them for help. Last year it was our daughter, Anna, who came home in February and told us she was getting married – in 38 days. Find out how we managed that April wedding on page 8. Even though David’s wedding is more closely following the established timeline, we are still turning to these colleagues, who are even more valuable than ever. I hope you find the information that they have provided for this issue as helpful as we have. Thank you so much for your continued support and interest in Jewish Scene Magazine. Whether through advertising, and/or even as important, through your annual donation, those dollars help offset the cost of printing designing, mailing and upkeep of www.jewishscenemagazine.com. Please return the enclosed card, tell our advertisers that you saw their ads in Jewish Scene and keep sending me your article ideas. Inn at Hunt PHelan 533 Beale Street 901-525-8225 www.huntphelan.com [email protected] I look forward to bringing you 6 great issues in 2011. I hope the year brings you and your loved ones happiness, peace and success. Shalom, Susan C. Nieman - Publisher/Editor Advertise with Jewish Scene in 2011. When you sign a contract for at least a half-page ad, for at least 4 issues by February 1, you’ll receive a 5th ad at half price. This offer is limited to the first 10 advertisers who respond to this special offer. Send donation checks to: Jewish Scene Magazine 1703 Tamhaven Court, Cordova, TN 38016 Jewish Scene I January/February 2011 SIMCHA CELEBRATIONS Sue greets guests during happy hour on the deck of Henderson Park Inn. Sea Side Simcha By Susan C. Nieman • Photos: Livingston Photography ~ www.ashleylivingstonphoto.com Sue and Rich Cohen envisioned a 50th wedding anniversary weekend filled with something to keep all of their 55 guests busy. “From the moment our guests arrived on Friday afternoon, to the finale’ at our Destin home on Monday, there were an assortment of planned and spontaneous activities to choose from,” said Sue. “It was the most beautiful weekend any of us will ever remember.” Renting all 36 rooms at Destin’s Henderson Park Inn for the whole weekend (and its signature Beach Walk Restaurant on Saturday) proved to be an excellent choice for the Cohens. With the facility to themselves, it was an intimate and private affair with flair. The Cohens, who also have homes in Pennsylvania and Arizona, chose Florida because the timing was right for their May 28th anniversary date. Sue, a self-proclaimed control freak, with a head full of creativity and ideas, played a major role in planning the elaborate celebration. “I don’t really like surprises,” she said. But since she was not in town for much of the yearlong planning process, Sue surrounded herself with professionals with who she could trust to help pull it all together. January/February 2011 I www.jewishscenemagazine.com Casino Night: Sue and Sally created a fun nightclub vibe using black sofas and red, black and cardthemed linens. SIMCHA CELEBRATIONS In Arizona she worked with a designer to create the invitations and other printed materials. In Destin she met with Florals By the Sea owner, Sally LaCourse, whose ideas Sue first had to see to believe. “Being a warmcolor lover, Sally made suggestions for color combinations that I would have never dreamed of,” said Sue. “But when I saw the fabric samples, I immediately gained confidence in her choices.” “Sue went above and beyond to make sure that all her guests were comfortable and would have an amazing time,” said Sally. “I was honored to be a part of their special occasion. Sue is very detailed and knew exactly the feeling she wanted to create for their anniversary. She gave me a lot of free reign to design and add my own touches. It was also a great creative outlet for me as we were planning a different theme for each night.” From happy hour on the covered deck, to the dinner party on the beach, and a Sunday night casino party at a nearby event center, the two worked together on all of the details. “We relied more on decorative beach decor such as lanterns, candles, sea grass and chandeliers than flowers,” said Sue. The effect was intimate, elegant and beachy. Friday evening: Lanterns with pillar candles formed a pathway leading guests to a casual but elegant beachside dining area. Upon check-in, guests were greeted to the Inn’s signature bottle of wine and fruit accompanied by an itinerary of things to do throughout their stay. On Friday evening they gathered for happy hour under a tent decked for an Arabian sheik and a beachside dinner complete with steel drum music. Early-morning risers could enjoy a continental breakfast and take in a yoga class at 9. Others could wait for brunch at 10. In addition to the Henderson’s bicycles, games, umbrellas, chairs and beach towels, the Cohens brought in baskets of beach toys and even rented a kayak. There was volleyball with granddaughter Alli, tennis with Rich at Sandestin and even private boat tours of Destin Harbor. On Saturday evening guests could dine at Beach Walk at their leisure. “We brought in Chef Tim Creehan, who prepared a special menu selection,” said Sue. “Our guests were encouraged to make a reservation and order just like as they would at a restaurant.” “The finishing touch was the outside deck, which was transformed into a totally different lounge area from the night before,” said Sally. “We used the same rich colors as the inside dining area and added an amazing dessert bar with after-dinner drinks, all provided by Chef Creehan. We added lanterns, pillows, cushions and candles and just subtle touches of fresh flowers. Each place setting included a rattan charger plate with a large white calm shell on the napkins for the guests to take as a memento. Rattan trays in the center of each table held lanterns, seashell spheres and fresh hydrangea arrangements. Rich and Sue Cohen “It was exciting to introduce our Florida and Arizona friends to our longtime East-Coast friends,” said Sue. “But it was even more amazing to share our family and let our kids see us in another element.” “Sue and Rich saved the best for the last,” said Sally. “The final evening was a show stopper.” Sunday evening featured a Casino Night complete with gaming tables and machines. “To create a nightclub vibe we used black sofas, hanging crystal chandeliers and red rose arrangements,” said Sally. “We added to the fun with linens in red and black and some with a card theme. Outside we placed a fire pit in the pool’s fountain. The karaoke was a hit.” The ultimate surprise was at the conclusion of the casino night when Sue and Rich were presented with a scrapbook of quotes from family members. “Our daughter-in-law, Jill, had secretly collected quotes and photos from our family and friends,” explained Sue. “Every photo of our 50 years together with family and friends included me and Rich. Each of our children and five grandchildren came up to read their quote and talk about our times together. “It was a beautiful ending to a fabulous weekend at a perfect location,” she said. To see more photos of Sue and Rich Cohen’s anniversary celebration, please visit www.jewishscenemagazine.com. Jewish Scene I January/February 2011 A Whirlwind Wedding SIMCHA CELEBRATIONS By Susan C. Nieman Photos: Norman Gilbert Photography Everyone knows that it takes about a year to plan a wedding. Well not always. What happens when your daughter comes home in February and announces she is getting married on April 3? You pull a lot of rabbits out of your hat and give her a wedding she can happily remember. When Anna met Jeremy in November, she knew he was being deployed from Fort Hood in Texas to Iraq sometime that summer. By the time February and Valentine’s Day rolled around they knew they wanted to spend every precious moment together. “The first thing the family tried to do was tell them they should wait until Jeremy returned to the States in a year,” said Larry Nieman, the weary dad. “After we realized she was going ahead with or without us, we jumped onboard and started making calls to everyone in the event planning business that we had worked with in our Simcha issues of Jewish Scene.” Things just seemed to fall into place smoothly. Luckily, Frances the Banquet Hall Lady had an available venue in Collierville that would hold the number of guests on Anna and Jeremy’s list. Frances was also able to offer a package that included everything but the kitchen sink. She was also flexible enough to let us pick and choose the services we needed and allow us to use other vendors who also were willing to bend over backwards for us. Ironically, Larry and I attended an open house at Mahaffey Tents the night we met Jeremy’s parents. We were surrounded by so many event-planning professionals and saw many great ideas to draw from. While we chatted, several people began offering their services. Lucky for us, most of them had the date available. Tommy Austein of Dingo Entertainment immediately got busy making a music list to fit Anna and Jeremy’s unique taste, while keeping in mind that the grandparents would be lingering around the dance floor early. Peggy Lichterman literally opened her home to us to choose from all of her linens, chair covers and sashes, centerpieces, and other décor that would help turn all of Anna’s wedding wishes into reality. Norman Gilbert, who often provides photographs for Jewish Scene features, also had the date available and came to our rescue by offering his expertise throughout the evening. Gayle Sams, A Garden Secret, coordinated the wedding flowers, and Elizabeth Jones, A Flower For Your Thoughts, was there until the end to make sure the arrangements were preserved for posterity. “We really felt privileged that so many Memphis vendors were willing to drop everything and get involved with our wedding celebration,” said Larry. “I am not really sure how we would have pulled it off without them.” January/February 2011 I www.jewishscenemagazine.com Collierville Banquet Hall AbunDANCE SIMCHA CELEBRATIONS Where the Girls Are 2 Playhouse on the Square Feb 19–27 Tickets start at just $10 balletmemphis.org 901.737.7322 C BLM_ABN_AD_JWSH.indd 1 Now two locations to make your dreams a reality! arahills I&II Carahills I “The Estate” 13880 Highway 196 Eads, Tennessee 38028 Packages from $5,500 include wedding and reception with catering, cakes, flowers, planner and director. We have a beautifully decorated indoor wedding site complete with tables, chairs, linens and centerpieces. Also, we have a one of a kind arbor under the trees for outdoor ceremonies. 11/29/10 11:12 AM The perfect sites for your wedding, reception, bar/bat mitzvah or other simcha celebration. Carahills II “The Manor” 1960 Highway 70 Gallaway, Tennessee 38036 Packages from $2,850 include time for the wedding and reception, facility rental, linens, chairs, centerpieces, planner and director. We have a beautiful outdoor arbor and enclosed pavillion perfect for spring and fall receptions. You bring in your own caterer and florist to complete your style. call 901.861.2133 or 901.483.2121 s www.carahills.com Jewish Scene I January/February 2011 SIMCHA CELEBRATIONS Fine Stationer Stationery & Gifts Assembling Your Wedding Stationery Wardrobe By Dixie Ryall One of the first exciting things you will be doing is inviting your friends to share your wedding day. Why not ask your bridesmaids and maid of honor in a creative way? You could send them a “Will you be my Bridesmaid?” card. Or, honor them with a bridesmaid’s luncheon. Send a luncheon invitation also inviting them to be a bridesmaid or include a special note for that friend who will serve as your maid of honor. Early in your planning, consider a “Save the Date” card. These can serve not only as a pre-notice for your wedding, but can also be customized to include accommodations for your out-of-town attendees. Save the Dates can either match your wedding ensemble or serve as a way for you to inject whimsy and personality. The cards should be sent out about 6 months prior to the wedding (8 months for a destination wedding). They are especially useful for weddings during holiday weekends or high travel times. Now it is time to consider the invitation. You will want to order 3-6 months before the wedding date. Many guests know what kind of wedding to expect from the invitation alone. It is best to begin your search for your wedding ensemble on your own. Many times brides become confused by friend’s opinions or what the mother of the bride or groom thinks is best. Leaf through magazines and look online. Venture into the stationery store and look through books. Most stores have large selections but bringing your clippings could save time. Ask the store personnel to keep notes on your likes and dislikes. Feel the papers. Ask about the difference in letterpress, engraved, 10 January/February 2011 I www.jewishscenemagazine.com thermography and flat printing. Perhaps you will be inspired by an invitation to choose the colors for your wedding – in paper first! Remember that many invitations are customizable, and you can add personal elements to reflect your style. Are you completely overwhelmed? It is not as complicated as it sounds. When you visit a stationery store, the personnel should be well versed in weddings and able to guide and advise you based on their experience. There is no additional charge for their expertise, and they will help you to avoid costly mistakes. Beyond the invitations and reply sets you might also consider maps, reception and accommodations cards. Do you plan to use a calligrapher? Book them early! Once the invitations are done and the wedding plans are set, there are a few more paper options to consider. Many couples include wedding programs, personalized cocktail napkins and favors for your guests. Most importantly, you need to consider thank you notes. Personalized notes are part of your stationery wardrobe. Make sure you have enough stationery with your maiden name to get you through the shower season and plenty with your married names for thank you notes after the wedding! Note: Congratulations! You are engaged to be married! Perhaps you are wearing a beautiful ring on your left hand, have set the date and locked in your venue! Now what? Here are a few things you might like to consider in the way of paper products as you plan for that special date. Remember that the choices you make set the mood for what is to come! The majority of this advice can easily be applied to Bat and Bar Mitzvahs! Dixie Ryall is the manager and wedding and bar/bat mitzvah stationery consultant at Ménage Fine Stationery & Gifts in Memphis. She may be reached at 901.683.6809 or [email protected]. Photo Courtesy Of ANNABELLA BRANDON PHOTOGRAPHY Turning ordinary places into extraordinary spaces. 5"#-&4t-*/&/4t$)"*34t%"/$&'-0034t-*()5*/(t45"(&4t"$)&"5*/(t#"34 -06/(&'63/*563&t5"#-&8"3&t%&$03t1*1&%3"1&t5&/54 XXX.BIBČFZ5FOUDPNtt%FMQ4USFFU.FNQIJT5/ SIMCHA CELEBRATIONS Is Asking ‘Uncle Joe’ To Photograph Your Wedding Worth The Savings? By Norman Gilbert The music has stopped, the food eaten, the flowers long gone, and your dress boxed – probably never to be worn again. Home from your honeymoon, you are anxious to see your beautiful and memorable wedding day captured for posterity. But was it? As a professional photographer with more than 15 years of wedding photography experience, I have seen a trend develop over the past few years that has soured the wedding photography market for both brides and working photographers. It will have huge repercussions to your wedding experience if you are not aware. So here is your dilemma. You have a very tight budget, and “Uncle Joe” (a name I’ll affectionately call your friend or family member) has offered to photograph your wedding for free or for a very small fee. Your first thought is, great, I just saved all this money! It’s only after the wedding – when it is too late – that you realize, that while Uncle Joe’s intentions were well placed, he was just not equipped or experienced to capture your wedding. Photography is the one line in your wedding budget where you really get what you pay for. Weddings require a high level of technical proficiency. In fact, many professional photographers never photograph a wedding. They find it too difficult, stressful, and the risk of having something go wrong is too overwhelming. Just because I have a great set of tools, doesn’t mean I magically know how to fix a car or build a house. Equally so, just because Uncle Joe has a digital camera doesn’t mean he can photograph a wedding. Placing a camera on the ‘Portrait Setting’ cannot duplicate the kind of experience needed to make great images. At the wedding problems need to be fixed IMMEDIATELY! What will Uncle Joe do if his camera dies or just isn’t working right? Does he have a back up plan? What will he do if he realizes that he has bitten off more than he can chew after the day begins? How will his stress level affect his ability to take photos? How will it affect YOU? Will the day be about Uncle Joe trying to figure out his camera and the numerous delays created by him as he learns on the job, or will the day be about you and the wedding? The wedding experience is as important as your wedding images. You hire a professional photographer for his or her experience, creative vision, ability to capture iconic shots that will live on forever as a history of your wedding day, and to deliver your photos in a finished album or book. What happens when Uncle Joe may not be willing or able to build an album? Wholesale album suppliers do not sell to the general public, meaning you or Uncle Joe won’t be able to get access to the same products as a professional photographer. Years after your wedding I doubt you will remember or care how much money you saved, but your memories will be rekindled every time you look at your wedding photos. Do you want to remember that your wedding day was a sixto-eight-hour photo shoot so Uncle Joe could get all the photos he wanted or thought he needed? If you even think there is a possibility that you won’t get exactly what you want from your relative or friend, should you take the risk of using them? Yes, a professional photographer will be more expensive. But your wedding photos are the only items, except for your rings, that will remain after your wedding. You have one chance to shape your wedding photography experience, and it is decided months before the wedding. The question that should guide your decision is, “How much is it worth to me to hire a professional for one of the most important days in my life?” Choose wisely. 12 January/February 2011 I www.jewishscenemagazine.com 30 Questions To Ask Any Potential Wedding Photographer By Norman Gilbert 1. Is the deposit refundable or non-refundable? 2. Can you hold my wedding date and for how long? 3. When are the payments due? 4. What forms of payment do you accept? 5. What is included in the price? 6. May I see some current wedding images? 7. Do I choose the final images in my album? 8. May I have a copy of the contract to review? 9.How long after the wedding will I receive/see the proofs? 10.How long after the wedding will I receive the album? 11.Are you a member of the Better Business Bureau? 12.How long have you been photographing weddings? 13. Are you a photographer full time? 14. Did you attend school for photography? 15. Who will be photographing my wedding? 16. How many assistants do you bring with you? 17.What happens if you become unavailable because of illness? 18. Are the negatives/files kept in archival storage? 19.Will you sell or use the images/negatives from my wedding? 20.What is the percentage of color to black/white images shot? 21.What is the percentage of flash photography to available-light photography? 22. How many pictures do you normally shoot? 23.How long will you be at my wedding taking pictures? 24. Do you shoot more than one wedding a day? 25.Have you photographed at my wedding/ reception location before? 26.When do you shoot the group shots and how long will that take? 27. How many cameras do you shoot with? 28. How many weddings have you photographed? 29.What do you charge for extra prints and parent albums? 30.Are you familiar with the other companies involved in my wedding? Norman Gilbert Photography, LLC Memphis, Tennessee 38119 P•901.820.0301 ~ F•901.820.0339 (888) 27.photo ~ [email protected] www.photonorm.com SIMCHA CELEBRATIONS once you see our 8,000 square-foot romper room and the play money price, the rest is kids’ stuff. For children’s parties and events, we’re as flexible as a slinky and as reasonable as milk and cookies. Our 8,000 square feet are wide open, flooded with light, and divide up like building blocks to create your very own world for somebody’s very special day. There’s a word for this. Great. Helping Save the Planet One Napkin at a Time By Susan C. Nieman When First Class Linen owner Bert Rubinsky began looking at ways his linen rental company could Go Green, he was astounded by the statistics. TheGreatHallEvents.com 901.751.7661 Great times in Germ antown GGH1024 Jewish Scene Romper Room C print 1/4p “Research showed that each diner uses more than 2.5 paper napkins per meal, more than 160 billion in the U.S. each year,” said Bert. “That is equivalent to the annual destruction of 34 million trees. Waste paper comprises over 68% of community landfill space.” After learning that most diners prefer cloth napkins over paper, and most consumers are more likely to dine at a restaurant that is environmentally friendly, the company decided to look for a sound alternative to the traditional paper napkin. What Bert and his staff, Dan Wills and Kenny Perry, developed was EnviroNapkin™. This plush, absorbent microfiber product can be laundered more than 75 times and requires less energy and water to wash. “And they don’t require ironing,” said Bert. First Class Linen Salesman Marc Lazar By offering EnviroNapkin™ as an alternative to paper, First Class Linen hopes to save trees, reduce landfill space and help save its customers money. The response has been overwhelming. “In its first three weeks in the marketplace, more than 30,000 napkins were being cleaned and delivered to area restaurants, schools and casinos each week. “EnviroNapkin ™ is truly game-changing,” said Bert. “It is the most exciting product to hit our industry and our business in over three decades. We are extremely proud to have developed such an amazing item right here in Central Mississippi.” 901.969.0121 w 601.899.9206 Owned and Operated by the Rubinsky Family Jewish Scene I January/February 2011 13 From Dreams to Reality… Teaming with a Professional Party Planner By Sheril Greenstein A wedding is not just a marriage, it is a miracle for anyone to witness. When you add the anticipation of parents, lifelong friends, relatives and the hopes and dreams of the bride and groom, it is no wonder weddings are magical. Planning them is another story! Working with an experienced party planner, not only on the day itself, but in the weeks and months leading up to your Simcha, will help a bride and groom make decisions that will alleviate stressful situations usually associated with planning a wedding weekend. Livingston Photography ~ www.ashleylivingstonphoto.com SIMCHA CELEBRATIONS For every bride and groom it is important that their wedding reflect their personal tastes and lifestyle. A creative planner who is familiar with all of the latest trends can offer fresh ideas and suggestions that will transform a couple’s unique dreams and wishes into a celebration that tells their special story. Hiring a professional planner as soon as you set your date can save you time and money. He or she can offer ideas for venues and vendors best suited to your family, and will help you work within your budget. A planner will serve as a sounding board for what may or may not work for you, and may also be a key facilitator between the bride and her mother. Attention-to-detail and organization are essential to planning the perfect Simcha. From the wedding ceremony and reception, to the events surrounding the entire weekend, a wedding planner will do just that. Based on experience, these are the first steps I recommend for creating your magical day – after the engagement is announced to family and friends. Why a Professional Party Planner 1 Contact Do you work full time? Are you too busy? Are you organized? Do you have the time it takes to make your wedding dreams flow without a hitch? 2 Once you secure an officiant and confirm a date with him/her, contact a wedding A planner: the officiant as soon as possible for potential dates. It is not uncommon for couples to choose a date first and run into problems getting the rabbi or cantor they want. Clergy often book lifecycle events more than a year in advance. coordinator! She will be able to help you turn your dreams into reality without stress. 3 Make your list of guests to determine numbers. This will make the difference in determining your budget, best facility for wedding ceremony and reception, and other details that impact total costs. 4 Meet with your wedding coordinator to book vendors. A family celebrating a Simcha should not have to bother with last-minute glitches or problems. The bride, groom and family should be able to enjoy and savor every minute, relax, and simply enjoy the company of family and friends on your special day. Sheril Greenstein is an event coordinator specializing in weddings, bar/bat mitzvahs and parties. Contact her at 901.335.3959 or at [email protected]. 14 January/February 2011 I www.jewishscenemagazine.com • Has fresh creative ideas. •Can steer you to vendors best suited for you and your venue. • Knows what will work and what won’t. • Is an expert on details, floor plan, set-up. •Can organize all details on day of wedding including set-up and deliveries. •Handles all last minute problems, so you can enjoy, relax and be with your family and friends on your special day. SIMCHA CELEBRATIONS After The Engagement • Bask in your happiness; call friends and family; celebrate. • Inform your rabbi or officiant. His or her dates fill up quickly. •Think about what kind of wedding you’d like? Formal/informal, big/ small? What time of the year? • Make a tentative guest list. The list determines facility and budget. • Set a budget. • Hire a wedding planner. •Begin looking through bridal magazines. Pull out looks and styles that you like to show florist and planner. ##'%$# $# " &$$$"# ( HÊÕÊVi`ÌÀ`iÀÊLÀi>v>ÃÌ HÊÛi}Ê>>}iÀ½ÃÊ,iVi«ÌI HÊ"iÊV«iÌ>ÀÞÊÃÕÌiÊ«iÀÊ{äÊVVÕ«i`ÊÀà HÊÌÊÀÃÁÊ*ÌÃÊEÊiÃÁ HÊÕÃiÊ >ÌiÀ}ÊLÞÊÀ>ÊÀÃ>̽ÃÊÌ>>Ê,iÃÌ>ÕÀ>Ì • Reserve a facility • Finalize date with officiant • Reserve caterer • Reserve florist • Reserve photographer and videographer • Reserve ceremony musicians • Reserve reception entertainment – band, music • Reserve hotel room block for out-of-towners • Look into booking honeymoon ( ( %$$ #$$ &#%#$ "$ "# "#!" $## "!$ ! $#"#%$$ "#"# $ #)$ #!$$' • Send out save-the-date cards • Order invitations, thank-you notes • Order favors • Meet with all vendors • Finalize list to calligrapher LAYOUTINDD !- SScreened, d BBonded d d & IInsuredd • Schedule rehearsal • Finalize menus with caterer; go for tastings • Set service with officiant • Order specialty linens • Order imprintables such as cocktail napkins • Order imprinted kippahs and/or benchers Light Housekeeping & Laundry Transportation/Errands Respite & 24-Hour Care Homemaker Services Meal Preparation Personal Care State Licensed • Programs to printers • Publish wedding announcements • Obtain marriage license • Finalize guest list and numbers; call those who did not RSVP • Give caterer count • Make seating plan and place cards • Contact all vendors; pay balances • Relax, enjoy, let your planner do final details •Get balances and checks to planner to pay for the vendors who need to be paid the of the wedding day; you shouldn’t have to worry about anything! Cary & Wendy Rotter EACH OFFICE INDEPENDENTLY OWNED & OPERATED FREE IN-HOME CONSULTATION! 901-752-1515 • 662-393-1110 Jewish Scene I January/February 2011 15 SIMCHA CELEBRATIONS Camp Side By Susan C. Nieman Simcha Cheryl and Howard Katz could become professional kosher party planners for Henry S. Jacobs Camp in Utica, Mississippi. With the recent Bat Mitzvah of their daughter, Lily, this makes three successful weekend events they have planned there. “The camp has been wonderful, and J.C. (camp director Jonathan Cohen) has been easy to work with,” said Cheryl. “We have full use of the facilities except the areas that require staff, which means no wall climbing or lake activities.” Since the Katz family keeps kosher, finding a facility near their Madison, Miss., home would have otherwise been a challenge. “I move in to camp on Wednesday to kosher the kitchen,” explains Cheryl. “We cover things Chuck and Marci Goldstein (Heart and Soul Catering in Memphis) will not use and clean out the refrigerator, griddles and ovens according to kosher law.” With 300 hundreds guests, the camper and staff cabins were filled to capacity. “All of the room reservations went through me to ensure all of our out-of-town family and friends would have on-site accommodations,” said Cheryl. And since the entire Jackson, Miss., Beth Israel congregation was also invited, even the surrounding hotel rooms were quickly booked. “We had 110 guests stay at the camp for the entire weekend including two girls’ cabins with Lily’s camp friends who came from all over the South.” said Cheryl. “Some of the older girls served as chaperones.” The weekend began with Shabbat services in the camp’s synagogue followed by a Shabbat dinner for 120. On Saturday morning, joining family and out-of-town guests, 80 of Lily’s St. Andrew’s schoolmates arrived for a full day of festivities. After Saturday morning services and a Kiddush luncheon, Lily took advantage of the warm weather and hosted a huge pool party. “We did have to hire life guards,” said Cheryl, who managed to find enough chaperones to tame such a large group of teenagers. “Lots of chaperones,” said Cheryl. “And enough activities to keep them busy.” After a snack and a movie, everyone headed to their cabins to change for the main event – a Disney-themed costume party. “My friends had so much fun, they can’t wait until the next bar or bat mitzvah,” said Lily, who played a big role in planning her special weekend. “Choosing the invitation was the hardest part.” “Lily is very creative,” said Cheryl. “She spent hours on the Internet looking for the perfect invitation.” Like her brother Kovi, Lily wanted to surprise her parents and would not let them read her D’var Torah before her special day. Cheryl’s planning notebooks have served her well; so well that even other upcoming b’nai mitzvah parents have questioned her about having their Simcha celebrations at camp. Lily Katz 16 January/February 2011 I www.jewishscenemagazine.com “Everything at camp is casual and relaxed,” said Cheryl. “No rushing here and there. In fact, celebrating our Simchas at Jacobs Camp is like having a giant family reunion.” L’CHAYIM We now offer Wedding Packages! For every taste and every budget! Up to 150 guests! Norman Gilbert Photoraphy ~ photonorm.com Planning Libations for Your Simcha Celebration Memphis Wolfchase Galleria Gary Burhop, Owner Great Wines & Spirits How much do I need? I don’t want to run out, but I don’t want a lot left over either. This is a familiar question and an understandable sentiment. And the clear answer is…“It depends….” It depends on the type of event. 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Once the ‘what are we serving’ question is answered, we begin to apply ‘rules of thumb.’ Basically the equivalent of a case of distilled spirits will serve 100 people for a one-hour cocktail party, for hours two, three and four, you will likely need the equivalent of another a case in total. Drumwright & Company is a 25 year old company specializing in: • Catalogs • Magazines • Manuals • Books To add wine for dinner, figure 60 glasses per case and assume one and onehalf glasses per person if there is wine service. Economical layout, design and printing. Website design for magazine publishers and catalog companies. For a buffet, figure just one glass per person. Dividing the mix of vodka, gin, scotch, rum and bourbon is very subjective and can be influenced by the decision to have a ‘signature cocktail’ or not. The mix of red to white wine varies with the seasons and your menu. If beer is also served, unless the host knows differently, we suggest one case of 24 standard cans or bottles per 75 guests. Gary Burhop owns Great Wines & Spirits located at 6150 Poplar Avenue in Regalia, Memphis, Tenn., 38119 and invites your questions and patronage. Contact him at 901.682.1333 or garyburhop@ greatwinesmemphis.com. design print web We would like to hear about your project so please call Gerald at (901) 861-6146 or email [email protected]. We look forward to hearing from you. www.drumwrightco.com Jewish Scene I January/February 2011 17 D o l l a r s & S ense First Milestones Mark Need for Financial Advice Provided by Lawson Arney, Financial Advisor, Morgan Keegan If you’re just starting out, you might not give much thought to working with a financial professional. You may associate the process with retirement – a retirement that seems so far off that more immediate concerns take precedence. The fact is, though, a financial professional can prove to be a valuable resource to those just starting out. And, while there’s never a bad time to seek professional advice, early life-changing events make it especially important to take stock of your financial situation. Starting a career It may seem counterintuitive – when you’re starting out, it’s often more about future potential and possibilities than focusing on the present. But this is actually the perfect time to begin building a relationship with a financial professional. It’s also the perfect time to establish good financial habits, like building an adequate cash reserve, starting to save on a consistent basis, and establishing a good credit history. You may need help implementing a spending plan (aka “budget”) that will help you to meet current financial needs and still enable you to make progress toward your future goals. It’s not all about the future, though. A financial professional can help you get the most out of your paycheck by working with you to maximize the value of tax-advantaged benefits offered by your employer, including employer-provided health coverage or a qualified retirement plan. In addition, you may need help with issues as common as paying back student loans, or as complicated as understanding employer stock options. a significant new expenditure (child care). If nothing else, you need to account for the additional ongoing expenses that come with parenthood (e.g., baby formula, food, diapers, clothing). With children in the equation, having adequate health insurance, life insurance, and disability income insurance takes on new significance, and you may want to work with someone to evaluate your needs, obtain appropriate coverage, and make sure your beneficiary designations reflect your wishes. It’s also time to establish an appropriate estate plan – including a will, health-care proxy, and durable power of attorney – or to update an existing estate plan. A financial professional can help walk you through some of the issues involved, and can help you find an attorney if you don’t have one already. Need for advice grows over time If you’re like most people, your financial needs will grow more complex over time. As that happens, your need for financial advice will increase as well. By starting early, you’re able to build on a solid financial foundation. With each life milestone, a financial professional can help you develop a clear picture of your current financial situation, work with you to articulate and prioritize your financial goals and timelines, and recommend strategies and products that are appropriate for your objectives. Disclosure Information – Important – Please Review Getting married You know you need financial help when key words used to solemnize the occasion include “…for richer or poorer…” There’s the immediate financial aspects of a wedding (paying for everything), but – more importantly – there’s the long-term financial challenges that come when two individuals combine their finances. Like the ghosts of boyfriends and girlfriends past, you each bring your own financial history, attitudes, and habits (both good and bad) to the union. A financial professional can help you define your goals as a couple. You’ll want to come up with a joint spending plan to help you achieve these goals, and decide on the mechanics of day-to-day money management. For example, will you combine your bank accounts or keep them separate? In cases where you and your spouse aren’t on the same page, a third party can listen to all concerns, identify underlying issues, and help you find common ground. A professional can also work with you to make sure that you’re making the most efficient use of employer benefits, including health insurance and qualified retirement plans, that you have adequate life insurance coverage, and that the investments you choose are appropriate for your goals, time frames, and risk tolerance. Beginning a family The period of time following the birth of a child is both exciting and stressful. It’s time to completely reevaluate your financial situation, starting with your goals. For example, in addition to saving for your own retirement, it’s time to start thinking about saving for your child’s college education. Your existing spending plan is likely to be the victim of suddenly decreased income (if there’s to be a stay-at-home spouse) or 18 November/December 2010 I www.jewishscenemagazine.com This information is for illustrative and discussion purposes only. Morgan Keegan does not provide legal or tax advice. You need to contact your legal and tax advisors for additional information and advice before making any investment decisions. Morgan Keegan & Company, Inc. Member FINRA, SIPC. Securities and insurance products are not FDIC insured, not a deposit, not an obligation of or guaranteed by Regions Bank, its affiliates, or any government agency and may lose value. This advertisement was prepared for Lawson Arney using material prepared by Forefield, Inc. Copyright 2010. Lawson Arney is a graduate of the University of Texas at Austin and works as a financial advisor at Morgan Keegan with his uncle, Elkan Scheidt. Lawson and his team work with their clients to provide comprehensive custom solutions for their financial and investment needs. For all your financial needs. Morgan Keegan Morgan Keegan A Regions Company Morgan Keegan & Company, Inc. Member FINRA, SIPC Lawson S. Arney Financial Advisor • Associate Vice President 1100 Ridgeway Loop, Suite 600 Memphis, Tennessee 38120 901.818.7638 • 800.873.6871 Fax: 901.766.7709 Not FDIC Insured | May Lose Value | No Bank Guarantee Not a Deposit | Not Insured by Any Government Agency BESHERT BESHERT: True Stories of Connection : THE TRAIN RIDE In 1985, Brad Freiden was to be married. His father Bernard Freiden drove his family to New York to attend the wedding. They spent the weekend in Far Rockaway and planned to drive to the city Sunday morning for the wedding ceremony. Brad mentioned that he had never traveled by train and asked if he and his dad might take the Long Island Railroad while Mrs. Freiden and other members of the family drove their car. They were no sooner seated on the train when a man approached and asked directions to a city in New Jersey. Bernard explained that he, too, was a stranger but advised the gentleman that someone at the train station would be able to help him. Detecting an accent, Bernard asked his place of origin. He was told that he presently lived in Israel but formerly lived in Poland. He further explained that he had been in the printing business in Europe prior to the World War II, as had his father. Rolling up his sleeve, he showed Bernard the numbers tattooed on his arm, showing that he was a survivor of the Holocaust. “I was kept alive in Auschwitz only because I was helpful to the Nazis in printing counterfeit American twenty-dollar bills.” By Bernard Freiden When asked his purpose in traveling to the United States, the man said that he had lost most of his family in the Holocaust and was now attempting to make contact with some relatives who might have remained in America. Showing Bernard and his son a list he had compiled of possible relatives in this country, he acknowledged that he had not yet located any of them. He added that he was not too optimistic about his prospects of finding anyone but wanted to make one final effort to do so. Bernard wished him good luck in his quest and then introduced himself. The stranger said his name was Moishe Freidensohn. Bernard was shocked. He explained that when his father immigrated to the United States, his name also had been Freidensohn, subsequently shortened to Freiden. “I wonder if we are related,” posed Bernard. “Why don’t you check your list to see if it contains the name Yossel Freidensohn?” he suggested. “I don’t have to check,” came the answer, “I am sure it is here.” “How can you be so sure?” inquired Bernard. “Because he was my grandfather,” replied Moishe. “He was my grandfather, too,” Bernard replied. “We are first cousins!” Later, while visiting in Memphis, Moishe was introduced to some of the Holocaust survivors in the city. Among them was a Mr. Stefan Diament, operator of a printing business in Memphis. When they were introduced, Moishe made another surprising revelation. He explained, that years earlier, his father had been helped in Poland by Jacob, Stefan’s father. Both men had been in the printing business in Lodz before the war. Harry Samuels is a graduate of Washington University in St. Louis, Missouri, and has devoted many years to volunteerism in Memphis, Tennessee. He and his wife, Flora, have been married for 49 years and are the parents of Martin, William and the late David Samuels. 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Jewish Scene I January/February 2011 19 Rhodes College Prepares For Track and Field ON THE SIDELINES: by Mark Hayden Micah Wasserman had a few good reasons why he was attracted to Rhodes College: he was impressed by the college’s academic prestige, he was aware that the colleges’ liberal arts program led some of their students to learn abroad, and, most importantly, he knew that their track and cross country teams were really good. “I remember when I visited here last spring, the team had just won the conference championship in track,” said Wasserman. “As I was walking down the hall with Coach Shankman, everyone was congratulating him on his most recent championship. So the strength of the cross country and track programs definitely drew me here.” “We have a strong middle distance core on the men’s side, and I anticipate Micah will run 1:57 in the 800 meters and go sub 4 minutes in the 1500 meters,” said Shankman. “I’m hoping he’ll be a part of a strong group, maybe the strongest middle distance group that we’ve had in years.” Micah Wasserman In terms of introduction, that’s Coach Robert Shankman, who has guided the cross country track and field programs to a combined 27 conference championships since 1990. He’s certainly earned the right to be mentioned in the top echelon of best college coaches that you’ve never heard of. Perhaps Shankman is a relative unknown in Memphis, but not to this astute freshman from Nashville. “I knew he was an impressive coach with Amy Handelman a strong program,” said Wasserman. “He’s always had a history of strong teams. It’s certainly going to be exciting for me over the next few years just being a part of his program. “I’m very pleased with my decision,” he continued. “Both academics and athletics played a part in my decision.” Wasserman’s strength is as a middle distance runner. He’s been perfecting his skills since the seventh grade; it was back at home in Nashville where his coach first suggested that he run cross country, even if it was only to stay in shape for track. Track remains his best event to this day, but cross country is still fun, he says. “I just prefer the feel of a track rather than the miles and miles of a crosscountry field,” said Wasserman. Shankman acknowledges that his approach might be the best program for some runners. “They need that strong base, but in the spring their primary training consists of middle-distance-oriented training.” By Mark Hayden Along with the middle distance runners, Shankman anticipates an upgrade in another of his core groups, which includes freshman and Jackson, Mississippi, native Amy Handelman. “We made an effort to strengthen our throws, so we brought in a strong core group of female throwers in an area where we were extremely weak,” said Shankman. “We anticipate that Amy will make an impact and will score nicely at the conference track meet.” Amy, a 6-2 freshman who is expected to handle the discus, shot-put and the hammer throw competitions, is also on the women’s basketball team. Once she turns to the track program after the cage season ends next month she shouldn’t miss a beat, said assistant coach Izzy Alexander. “She should be in great shape after basketball season ends, so she should be on equal footing with most of the other throwers.” All of these scenarios point to another successful year and all are done without an important Division I staple: Rhodes, a Division III school, doesn’t offer athletic scholarships but does offer merit-based scholarships for academics. “Our key is to take students who take athletics seriously but that want balance in their lives, and those who realize that after four years it’s time to move on,” said Shankman. “We have an environment where Rhodes has great academic status.” In addition, success tends to breed more success, which places Rhodes in good stead. “Over the years I’ve been able to develop relationships with many of the schools’ coaches from some of the academic college prep schools in the southeast,” said Shankman. If running and sprinting skills could carry over from one generation to the next Wasserman might even have an edge. Both parents have run marathons – an achievement he envies but one that isn’t on his to-do list. “I can’t fathom running a marathon,” he said. “I can hardly get through 12 miles, let alone 24 miles.” And for right now Wasserman and Shankman are ok with the fact that the Lynx are known as champs in their small corner of the world. Maybe, one day that small corner will grow. Shankman and Wasserman’s clear goal for this season is simple: to repeat as conference champions. Mark Hayden has written about Memphis sports for a variety of magazines. For story ideas please contact Mark at [email protected]. 20 January/February 2011 I www.jewishscenemagazine.com CAMPUS SCENE TAG Tutoring & Organizing K - 12 Cara Greenstein with her AEPhi Sisters in Austin,Texas. The Big Step $%$)#!4)/.s)-02/6%-%.4s35##%33 One-on-One Tutoring In Your Own Home s!LLGRADESANDSUBJECTS s3CREENEDAND1UALIlED 4UTORS s0ERSONALIZEDLEARNINGPLANS s&LEXIBLESCHEDULING s4IMEMANAGEMENTAND ORGANIZATIONALSKILLBUILDING s4ERMPAPEROR4EST PREPARATIONASSISTANCE s!SSISTANCEWITHSPECIlC PROJECTSORASSIGNMENTS s4#!0!#4AND3!4 ASSISTANCE By Cara Greenstein Ten hours and 55 minutes – my road trip to the University of Texas in Austin was, without a doubt, quite the lingering beginning to a thrilling college journey. Never would I have guessed that I could manage to load my entire bedroom and closet into one car, leaving merely half of a seat for my anxious self in the back. My bittersweet ride with Mom and Dad resulted in hesitant, yet eager, emotions and concerns: Where do I begin? How do I bring my Judaism to Austin? How do I find my passion? I left my Temple Israel and St. Mary’s communities with a voluminous amount of knowledge, experience and memories to guide me into undertaking the new and fresh Austin. Coincidentally (or maybe not), my original dorm friendships were with the Texas and Oklahoma girls from Greene Family Camp, my NFTY travel companions to Israel the summer before our junior year of high school. How fitting that this connection could be instantly formed on the foundation of my Southern Jewish identity! Building on these acquaintances and my bid to Alpha Epsilon Phi, the Jewish sorority on campus, I further solidified the path to a smooth and fulfilling transition. Virtually overnight, I was linked to 195 unique Jewish girls, who introduced me to countless opportunities at the University of Texas – from Hillel and Greek life to volunteering and philanthropy. It’s remarkable that in only 30 days into college, my search for a “place” in Austin was seamless and comfortable – Jewishly, academically and relationally. I honestly cannot believe that it has been less than five months since that tedious road trip to Texas. So much has happened in such a brief period of time. My classes – ranging from Cultural Anthropology to the Psychology of Advertising – have been enlightening, my volunteering at Austin JCC gymnastics for kids with disabilities has been gratifying, my newfound leadership at Texas Hillel as a service leader and development intern has been stimulating, and my relationships with a 61-sister pledge class have been life-changing. Moving from my Memphis home of 18 years to an unknown environment was a big step. Yet, it has been comforting to know that the contentment I find here in Austin is due, in no small measure, to my Memphis upbringing. I cannot say that I have found a singular passion yet; but I’ve landed in the right place to discover one. Now that I’ve made the leap from high school to college, I’m energized to create a future that reflects the positive and nourishing environments of the starting and ending points of that 10-hour, 55-minute car ride. Cara Greenstein is a freshman at the University of Texas in Austin and the past Jewish Scene Magazine High School Correspondent. ...because You’re IT! Contact us today to arrange for a consultation 901- 755-4334 or [email protected] www.tagtutor.com The BUILDIN G Classic, Unrivaled Elegance. Book your DATE now. Call or e-mail 901.544.9103 [email protected] 1 4 9 M o N r o e Av e . | M e M p h I s , T N w w w. C A D r e B U I L D I N G . C o M Jewish Scene I January/February 2011 21 Arts & CULTURE DINGO EN T M N I A T E N T ER Jesse Eisenberg (Sam Gold) Courtesy of Bender/Helper Impact Holy Rollers: movie review Mobile DJ Services Up Lighting • Video P rojection • Logo Projections W e d d i n g s • Bar/Bat Mitzvahs • Corporate Events 9 01. 337.4114 • d i ngo djs.com It’s Happening at GPAC Marvin Hamlisch “One” singular sensation and an event not to be missed! Hamlisch’s career spans decades of award-winning stage and film composition, including the Broadway scores of They’re Playing Our Song and A Chorus Line and film scores for The Sting, The Way We Were and Sophie’s Choice. Join us for a special evening with the Emmy, Grammy, Oscar, Tony and Pulitzer Prize-winning Marvin Hamlisch. (plus handling fee) 3ERIES3PONSOR GERMANTOWN PERFORMING ARTS CENTRE CALL 901-751-7500 OR VISIT www.GPACweb.com 22 January/February 2011 I www.jewishscenemagazine.com Eisenberg is often cast in Jewish roles as in “The Social Network” only this time he is also sporting the black hat. Directed by Kevin Asch, the film is based on real-life events in the 1990s about a drug ring trafficking ecstasy pills to the New York club scene. Authorities report nearly one million ecstasy pills were imported into the country using Hasidic Jews as carriers.The central conflict of the film is whether Sam will return to his Jewish values and Hasidic community, or escape into a criminal circle with blaring techno. 4ICKETSss Milton Schaeffer “Holy Rollers” is the fast-paced, offkilter, indie film about Hasidic Jews used as international drug traffickers. Sam Gold (Jesse Eisenberg) becomes entangled in an underworld of drugs and violence, a world far removed from his Hasidic upbringing. Young and impressionable Sam is influenced by his fellow Hassid neighbor, Yosef, (Justin Bartha) who romanticizes the idea of traveling, delivering “medicine” in a suitcase, and a desirable profession of easy money. 3ATURDAY-ARCHsPM Scheidt Family Foundation By Jennifer Lefkowitz The Jewish notion of the soul, neshama, is on call. Sam is the product of a close, loving Hasidic family and works in Brooklyn assisting his father in the family textile business. Though Eisenberg delivers a stellar performance, his character’s drastic transition into the drug smuggling world is often hard to believe. Starring opposite Eisenberg in a predominately Jewish cast are Jackie Soloman (Danny Abeckaser) and Rachel Apfel (Ari Graynor). The dark film takes a ride into a world beyond evil tongue, lashon hora. However, Sam’s righteous intentions are the pulse of the 89minute film. *** R First Independent Pictures Jennifer Lefkowitz is a native of Memphis, TN and graduate of Academy of Art University, Motion Pictures and Television, Screenwriting in San Francisco, CA. FEATURE MEMORIAL GARDEN IS A PLACE FOR CELEBRATION AND CONSOLATION By Judith Wolf Mandell Inspired by the memory of Mara Beth Millman, 22, killed by a drunk driver in 2007, a new Memorial Garden at Congregation Micah in Brentwood, Tenn., is a place for joy and sorrow, life and death. Situated outside Micah’s woods-flanked cemetery and across a meadow from the sanctuary, the garden is intended as a place for play and celebration, and for contemplation and consolation. The garden also serves as a sacred space for mourners to make the transition between synagogue and cemetery, the worlds of life and death. Harvard-trained landscape architect designer Sari Barton, collaborating with Mara’s parents, Rebecca and Marshall Millman, designed the garden to meld with Micah’s existing landscape and to reflect Mara’s vibrant spirit. Among the 22 trees, one for each of Mara’s years, are her favorites: a stand of weeping willows and a halo of flowering pink cherry trees. Witch hazel shrubs will bloom brightly in February, Mara’s birth month. “Mara’s death was The Unthinkable,” says Rebecca Millman. “In the days and weeks following, when putting one foot in front of another seemed impossible, we decided to create a living memorial to her: a garden near her final resting place. It would start small, mature through the years, and become more beautiful as time passed, as Mara did and would have. I had no idea how the garden would come to be, but I knew it would unfold according to a plan I didn’t then know,” she adds. Two years ago, Congregation Micah co-rabbi Laurie Rice introduced Rebecca to a friend, Sari Barton, who holds a Master of Landscape Architecture from Harvard University Graduate School of Design. Sari, a young mother, had come to Nashville after Katrina. Coincidentally, Rebecca and Mara had gone to New Orleans to help rebuild shortly before Mara’s death. The women formed a friendship that, Rebecca says, has become as important to her as the creation of the garden. When congregants’ and friends’ donations and the Millmans’ own funds fell short of the projected cost of the garden, a contribution from a foundation fell into place to cover the balance. In addition to meaningful trees and shrubs, other design elements add symbolic interest. Flowing bands of four varieties and heights of ornamental grasses are intended to evoke a body of water: changing, moving. A different color or texture of these kinetic plants will be revealed each season. A “bridge” crossing a dry riverbed of stones, parts the sea of grasses. The bridge is comprised of 10 large pieces of stone. (The Hebrew alphabet’s 10th letter, “yod,” often represents the word G-d.) As in the Jewish custom, the stones can be picked up to leave as “calling cards” from visitors to gravesites. The riverbed can be replenished with stones brought from Israel or other meaningful places. Seven flowering cherry trees – symbolizing the days of creation – embrace a circle of four stone benches with a small stone ring embedded Mara Beth Millman in the middle. Four breaks in the outer circle’s curve align with the compass, indicating which direction is east, toward Jerusalem. Already the gathering space has been the venue for Congregation Micah events: a Sukkot (Feast of Harvest) campfire and a joyous Havdallah service (marking the end of the Sabbath). “We envision weddings and other celebrations in this lovely site,” says Rabbi Rice. At Micah, an egalitarian congregation near Nashville, nothing is named for anyone, no matter how poignant the cause or munificent the donor. So the beautiful new space is not called Mara’s Garden. But as Rebecca Millman looks out the window of the congregation’s new pre-school, Micah Children’s Academy, where she now teaches, she can see the Memorial Garden inspired by her daughter’s death, and life. Judith Wolf Mandell is a freelance writer in Nashville. Jewish Scene I January/February 2011 23 FEATURE 9th ANNUAL JACKSON JEWISH FILM FESTIVAL Beth Israel Congregation Celebrates Past, Present and Future Temple Beth Israel is gearing up for a year’s worth of events commemorating its 150 years of service to Jackson, Mississippi. “How often do you have the opportunity to celebrate such a monumental milestone?” said event chairperson Peter Sharp of the January 22 anniversary. “This congregation is one of the oldest in the South,” explained Dr. Stuart Rockoff, of the Institute of Southern Jewish Life. “Yet only in recent decades has it become the largest and most vibrant Jewish congregation in the state. So, while we are celebrating the last 150 years, we can also look to the future with hope and optimism.” Dr. Rockoff will delve into the congregation’s deep Southern roots during Friday evening’s Shabbat services on January 21. Then, from Saturday, January 22 – 25, the community will enjoy several Israeli-produced and Jewish-themed films during its 9th annual Jackson Jewish Film Festival. (See side bar.) Eli Evans will be the featured speaker on Friday, Feb. 25, following the annual Tikkun Olam Shabbat services and dinner. Evans will discuss the role of Southern Jews as they have worked to improve their communities. On Saturday, Feb. 26, at 11 a.m., at Beth Israel, Eli Evans, Professor Ted Ownby, director of the Center for the Study of Southern Culture at the University of Mississippi, and Malcolm White, director of the Mississippi Arts Commission will hold a panel discussion about the state of the South, past, present, and future. On May 22 – 25, the congregation joins Jackson in its citywide Freedom Riders Event with panel discussions of Freedom Riders, local Jewish community members and African Americans. The congregation invites past congregants, rabbis and youth groups to join them at the Grand 24 Celebration Homecoming Reunion Weekend on Sept. 15 – 18. Planned are an abundance of activities including a cemetery service honoring Beth Israel families, Friday luncheon speaker about Jewish mysticism, Friday evening services liturgy from historical prayer books, Jacobs Camp Shabbat services, Shabbat dinner, an art/photography exhibit featuring the Bagels and Bits Exhibit at the Mississippi Museum of Art, and a Sunday golf tournament. The culmination and grand finale is the Saturday evening Beth Israel Ballyhoo. “We are anticipating more than 200 people at the dinner and silent auction,” said Peter. “Entertainment will include Jewish music and local choirs and features Joshua Nelson, the prince of kosher gospel.” Beth Israel has also launched a campaign to improve the appearance of the campus by installing new gardens and creating a tribute to those who perished during the Holocaust. The Holocaust Memorial, made possible in part with funds provided by the Gus Waterman Herrman Holocaust Fund, will be situated within a lush garden setting and will include a sculpture and benches commissioned by the synagogue. The Holocaust Garden will be unveiled and dedicated during Yom Hashoah Remembrance Day on May 2. “Throughout its history, the Beth Israel congregation has made significant contributions to the greater Jackson community,” said Peter. “We look forward to celebrating this sesquicentennial year milestone with all Mississippians and providing a series of special events throughout the year.” For more information about sponsorship opportunities and tickets to Ballyhoo, please contact the synagogue at 601.956.6215 or www.bethisraelms.org. January/February 2011 I www.jewishscenemagazine.com AJAMI (2010) [Israel 2009, Color, 120 minutes, Arabic/Hebrew w/English Subtitles, Directors: Yaron Shani and Scandar Copti; Winner of the 2009 Israeli Academy Award for Best picture and nominated for an Oscar for Best Foreign Film.] Sat., Jan. 22, 7pm - Millsaps College Academic Complex Recital Hall, 1701 North State St. A suspenseful crime drama set on the mean streets of Jaffa’s Ajami neighborhood — a melting pot of cultures and conflicting views among Jews, Muslims and Christians. WHERE I STAND … THE HANK GREENSPUN STORY (2008, English) Sun., Jan. 23, 2pm - Millsaps College Academic Complex Recital Hall, 1701 North State St. Academy Award Winner Anthony Hopkins relates the previously untold story of a fearless American hero, Hank Greenspun, whose exploits are the stuff of legends. After-film discussion with director. THE SECRETS (2008) [Israel 2007, Color, 127 minutes, Hebrew w/English Subtitles] Mon., Jan. 24 - Dinner 6:30pm / Movie 7:15pm - THE HISTORIC FAIRVIEW INN, 734 Fairview St. Dinner options and cost at bethisraelms.org, RSVP joann@ bethisraelms.org. Dinner is not required. Naomi, the brilliant and pious daughter of an ultra orthodox rabbi finds herself at a crossroads of life choices when her mother dies and she is expected to immediately marry her father’s prodigy. FOR MY FATHER (2010) [Israel 2008, Color, 100 minutes, Hebrew/English Subtitles, Director: Dror Zahavi] Tues., Jan. 25, 7pm - Millsaps College Academic Complex Recital Hall, 1701 North State St. Terek, a Palestinian suicide bomber, travels to Tel Aviv to redeem his Father’s honor. When the explosive vest fails to detonate, he is forced to spend the weekend in Tel Aviv awaiting its repair. FEATURE Temple B’nai Israel Celebrates 120 Years By Rabbi Dr. Uri Barnea Maury and Shirley Gurwitch, Marvin Shemper, Jerry & Linda Shemper, Rabbi Uri Barnea, Dr.Stuart Rockoff, Milton Waldoff, Phil Stotland Hattiesburg’s relatively small but stable Jewish community had a lot to celebrate in 2010. The first Jews arrived soon after pioneer lumberman and civil engineer William H. Hardy founded it in 1882. According to one account, Maurice Dreyfus (d. 1937) was the first Jew to settle there in 1890 to operate a sawmill. Other Jewish immigrants soon arrived that same year. Conducting religious services at the Dreyfus home, this small nucleus, formed 120 years ago, was the beginning of B’nai Israel Congregation. In 1900 the congregation moved to the top floor of the Odd Fellows Building. In 1920 it purchased an old army barracks and built its first permanent structure at Hardy and West Pine Streets. The current synagogue, located at the corner of Mamie Street and 12th Avenue South, was built in 1947. Jewish settlers soon became successful retailers and business and community leaders. One of the earliest, Sam Shemper, established in 1905 Sam Shemper & Company, a scrap iron, raw material and hide business. The company was still managed by Jerry, Marvin and Sam Shemper until it was recently sold. Frank Rubenstein (d. 1953) arrived in 1906 at the age of 22. He opened The Hub and also a store in Sumrall, Miss., managed by his brother-in-law. In 1919, the Hattiesburg American newspaper called Rubenstein “one of the leading merchants of the city” and reported that he was planning on expanding his store by buying a larger building in downtown Hattiesburg for $31,000. Upon purchasing the building, he transformed the four existing businesses into one store, creating one of the largest department stores in the town. Jews owned The Globe, The Leader Family Outfitters, L. Rubenstein & Co., Adler Dry Goods and S & H Katz. By 1919, these stores announced that they were closing for two days of Rosh Hashanah (Jewish New Year), showing they were traditional in observance, but reopened on Saturday, reflecting the compromises that even observant Jews made to thrive as retail merchants. A major figure was Louis Buchalter (d.1986), who opened Louis Tailoring Co. in 1915. For 15 years, Buchalter took great care and pride in his suits, tailoring without the aid of a sewing machine. Even after he purchased a sewing machine, it was used only for alterations. As demand for Buchalter’s work grew, he began buying ready-made suits, limiting his handsewn suits for special occasions. In 1982, after 68 years on East Pine Street, Buchalter closed the store due to his declining health. In 1908, 15 Jewish men founded a local chapter of B’nai B’rith. In 1915, the Jewish community organized Congregation B’nai Israel (The Children of Israel) as the city’s first and only Jewish congregation. In 1939, the women founded a chapter of Hadassah. B’nai Israel’s cemetery commemorates members who served our country, five in World War I, four in World War II, and one in the Vietnam War. Hattiesburg’s Jews have also been prominent in the community. Marvin Reuben (1923-1994) made his mark through his media work and commitment to social justice. During his 33 years at WDAMTV, he became general manager and executive vice president. He was well known for his editorials and best known for his opposition to the Ku Klux Klan. In response, the Ku Klux Klan made efforts to silence him; they threw acid on his wife’s (Betty) car, shot the radio tower and burned three crosses in front of the station. In 1992, he received the Hub Award, and the mayor proclaimed “Marvin Reuben Day.” Betty has been a major sponsor of the continuing education division of University of Southern Miss. and of other civic projects. Congregation president Neil Solomon looks at table of past pictures Herbert Ginsberg (1924-2006), a local lawyer and law partner of Paul Johnson – governor of Mississippi in the 1960s, served as a U.S. Magistrate during the 1960s. His wife, Lou, spent many years as regional advisor for Southern Federation of Temple Youth and worked at Henry S. Jacobs Camp for 24 summers. Maury Gurwitch of Smart Shoes has been treasurer of B’nai Israel for more than 15 years. His wife, Shirley has been one of the most active members of Sisterhood. Milton Waldoff of Waldoff’s and Milton’s Ltd., has served in numerous civic organizations and congregational roles such as president of Hattiesburg Area Chamber of Commerce (now Area Development Partnership), chairman of Lamar & Forrest Counties American National Cross, Boy Scouts of America, United Way of Southeast Mississippi, and others. Jerry Shemper has served on the Hattiesburg City Council and Board of Hattiesburg Area Habitat for Humanity. His wife, Linda has been active in the Forrest County Democratic Committee and is currently the Sisterhood president. In 1937, 215 Jews lived in Hattiesburg, in 1984, 180. By 2010, 95 adults and children remain. Today, only one retailer remains – Sack’s Outdoor Store, owned by David Sackler. His wife, Teresa, has been active in Sisterhood and is editor of the congregation’s newsletter. In the past 25 years, a growing number of Temple members have moved to town from other states and are engaged in professional work such as medicine, law and academe. Originally founded as an Orthodox congregation, B’nai Israel changed its affiliation to the Reform movement in the 1930s, and soon after engaged Rabbi Arthur Brodey as its first rabbi. Since 1942, the congregation engaged eight student rabbis and 12 full-time rabbis, including its current rabbi, Dr. Uri Barnea. Jewish Scene I January/February 2011 25 SCENE Beth Sholom Grand Mensches Day promises to be a wonderful annual event. Lower grade students together with their grandparents led a morning tefillah and Kabbalat Shabbat service. After the service, they worked together on various Mitzvah projects such as assembling activity boxes for patients at Le Bonheur, creating Chanukah cards for Israeli troops, making lunches for the homeless and making challah for Plough Towers residents. The school’s choir, Makelah, performed. Thanksgiving Family Lunch Lifelong Jewish Learning Fall Series explored the faith traditions of our neighbors. Dr. Mark Muesse addressed Buddhism and Dr. John Kaltner, shown here, discussed Islam. Evelyn Goler and Murray Alperin fulfilled kitchen duties preparing for Beth Sholom’s Old Enough to Know Better’s “Dinner with Dean” Martin Variety Show. Beth Israel Baron Hirsch Baron Hirsch Congregation 400 S. Yates Road Memphis, Tennessee 38120 (901) 683-SHUL www.baronhirsch.org Jackson, MS Kesher Konnections Tanach Class 26 January/February 2011 I www.jewishscenemagazine.com (Back)Henry Thomas (visitor), Erik Hearon, Robbie Barron, Dave Kaminsky, George Glass (Middle) Allen Weiss, Ellis Hart, Ted Orkin, Bob Dellar (Front) Lou Shornick, Peggie Omalara, Aaron Trubman, Donald Sawyer SCENE Judaica Roadshow Susan Adler Thorp looks on as Jonathan Greenstein appraises a menorah Yakov Muchnik’s Musical Hour, a monthly event enjoyed by residents and JCC seniors. Meira Braverman, Jered Weinstein, Miles Parker and Batya Bosin prepare Thanksgiving toiletry bags for the homeless. Mitzvah Day Hope House Kindergarteners learn about Native Americans. As part of Mitzvah Day, kids help spruce up at Hope House. Michal Almalem and students from BSSS deliver challa and treats. IRIS Orchestra Donor Dinner Spirit of Havdalah Rabbi Adam Grossman leads Spirit of Havdalah. Rose Harris, winner of a raffle at 30th Anniversary celebration, with Penny Bloomfield and Kathy Enders. Legendary cellist, Yo-Yo Ma performed for IRIS Orchestra supporters in the East Memphis home of Anne and Mike Keeney. Hadassah’s Mad Hatter Tea Honoring Multi-Generation Life Members & Keepers of the Gate. 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