PCNJ Newsletter-2012-03 - Pride Center of New Jersey
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PCNJ Newsletter-2012-03 - Pride Center of New Jersey
Spring 2012 The Pride Center of New Jersey 85 Raritan Ave. Suite 100 Highland Park, NJ 08904-2430 www.pridecenter.org A 501(c)3 Tax-Exempt Not-for-profit Corporation Newsletter Staff: Robert Millosh Editor-In-Chief Dave Lamphier Asst. Editor Daphne Kanellopoulos Asst. Editor In This Issue: Cover: From the President Op/Ed: Politics of Same-Sex Marriage Republican Round-up to 2012 Election Marriage Passes in NJ Gov. Fails Public Groups, Meetings, Social Events Whitney Houston Dead at 47 PCNJ to Host Male Erotic Art Exhibit Social Networking Actor Comes Out Marriage in Riverdale Rutgers Hate Crime Trial: Ravi Guilty! Why Me? 2012 Valentine’s Gala Photos Meet The Volunteers What Pride Means To Me Back page: Pride Center Information & Membership Vol. 20 , No. 2 Published Quarterly From the President…. Dear Friends, Member and Supporters of the Pride Center of New Jersey, First, a heartfelt thanks to all of you who have responded so far to our annual membership drive, either by renewing your membership or by joining for the first time. It’s a way of taking prideful ownership in the Pride Center, affirming that you value what we do here and that you believe in the importance of the services and programs we offer. The Board, our group leaders, and our dedicated team of volunteers appreciate the support and validation that your membership contribution expresses. For those of you who haven’t gotten to it yet, it’s not too late, and it’s easy to do, right from our web site, or the next time you are at the Pride Center, or by filling out the form on the back of this newsletter and mailing it in with your check. I can tell you that each membership, new or renewal, that arrives at the Center is like a booster shot to those doing the work. Thank you! Next, I am issuing a challenge to you all! In addition to membership, attending meetings and participating in the Center's activities, consider getting involved on a deeper level. You have the opportunity to help shape, enhance and enliven our events by participating with others on the committees that plan them, or even head up a committee and take a leadership position. Have an idea for a group or event that you don’t see on the calendar? Let us know and we will work with you on making it happen. See an event on the calendar that you’ve attended and think you’d like to work on to make it better, perhaps more inclusive? Let us know! This March sees the start up of two new groups at the Pride Center. The first, Come As You Are, at the initiative of Pride Center member, Melinda Rivera, will be on the 2nd and 4th Friday evening of each month. By her description, “a social group for GLBT community and straight allies where we can transcend cliques and stereotypes to form new connections and form friendships,” Come As You Are strikes new ground at PCNJ for inclusiveness. Check the calendar and come exactly as you are! And thank you, Melinda, for the initiative. The second is a new men’s group called, Living Soulfully, ”a community of men who love men to nurture individual and collective conscious spiritual growth. You are invited to share an evening of connection! We nourish the mind, body and heart with opportunities to meet people, heart-felt sharing and fun in a safe, supportive environment.” The first meeting will be Friday evening, March 30. Further into the spring, April features, along with our regular ongoing programs, an event-filled Saturday, April 21. In the afternoon, the Men’s Guild will present an exhibit at the Pride Center of male erotic art, with the artists present to discuss their work. All are welcome. Later that evening we will have our Spring Club Fest , promising to be the best ever, featuring a volley ball game between the Living Out Women and Men Living Out groups. There’s more info about both events in this issue and on the web site, which you are encouraged to visit frequently. Beyond that, we are already gearing up for June Pride events and our annual LGBT Summer Picnic. I could go on, but read the newsletter and check the web site! It’s all there. Looking forward to seeing your smiling, proud face at the Pride Center of New Jersey! In Pride and Joy, David Rogoff I welcome your comments. Send them to [email protected] The Pride Center of NJ Membership Becoming a member of the Pride Center is one of the best ways to help ensure that the LGBTIQ community of New Jersey has a “home” for meetings and services, as well as a tremendous source for LGBTIQ information. The Pride Center of New Jersey is a 501(c)3 nonprofit organization, which means that your membership contribution or donation is tax-deductible. Memberships have great benefits like getting this newsletter right to your door, and valuable discounts on PCNJ events! –2– Op/Ed... The Politics of Same-Sex Marriage By Dave Lamphier A great day for New Jersey happened this February for the gay community when the New Jersey Assembly voted to extend civil rights equality and recognize gay marriage 42 to 33. Unfortunately just as he promised Governor Chris Christie promptly vetoed the bill. I still believe New Jersey's day will come when we will have equal rights for gay people to marry, it's inevitable, but sadly it wont be today. Gov. Christie could have stood up for us by signing the bill into law, but choose not to , citing the ''will of the voter'' and traditional marriage being between a man and a woman. No, instead he chose to delay our rights to marry the one we love further for his own ignorance and political ends. I can understand his argument that the will of the people should also include a vote a more courageous act on his part if he would be to sign the bill because WE THE PEOPLE put the present government into power what good is a legislature voted on by the people when it's governor fails to listen. I am kind of insulted that the matter of gay marriage equality or any gay civil rights issues are done on a state by state basis. If you think about it ,was a woman's right to vote or religious freedom or racial equality voted on by the whims of individual states?(no doubt Tennessee would be a far worse place for women and African Americans if that was the case, it still is for us) No, it was done federally with amendments, as should gay civil rights be .But state by state case as it is now he might consider that 52 to 42 percent of New Jerseyans are in favor of recognizing gay marriage. Now, as for the traditional Abrahamic/Vedic religious view of a marriage being between a man and a woman, uh HELLO, separation of church and state, remember that? And Religion itself is facing a crossroads in it's evolution on the subject, but that aside, we can not make laws OR veto them purely from the values of our own individual faiths. Despite the fact that Protestants and Catholics form the majority of believers in the USA, America is NOT a ''Christian'' country, we are a pluralistic society and our laws should reflect the freedom of ALL it's citizens to choose their paths in life free of Uncle Sam's imposing of his own religious or partisan rules on them (unless Rick Santorum get's his wish, God preserve us from that!).Gay marriage is not a liberal/conservative issue, it's a civil rights issue and God help us if we let religious ideals alone decide what civil rights are (cough TALIBAN). I wish you'd reconsider Mr. Governor, rise beyond the thought of political advancement or the idea of imposing your beliefs to do what is right for ALL the people you serve .To New Jersey's Senate and Assembly I thank you for doing what's right and for trying to make New Jersey a better place to live and standing by the principles that built this country and made it the great country it is. Center Staff [email protected] Rates for the Pride Center Newsletter (hardcopy): Our quarterly newsletter is mailed and distributed to the LGBTI. Deadline for ads Nov. 21th, 2011: Pride Edition. Ad Rates are: Business Card: $30. 1/4 Page: $50. 1/2 Page: $75. FULL Page: $100.. MAIL CHECK WITH COPY OR VISIT WEB FOR PAY PALStaff: Editor-In-Chief—Robert Millosh; Assistant Editors—Dave Lamphier; Daphne Kanellopoulos –3– David Rogoff Carlton Hurdle, Jr. Kate Whitefield Peter Dumpert Al LeGoff Leigh Pafford Joel Cohen Esq. Skip Quinn Mitch Rubin Tom Nicola Glenn Patterson Ricardo Murano Harold Goldenberg Justin Schultz Carly McClean Chris Fleming Gary Pfeffer Ray Johnson Ellen Gilio Robert Millosh Dave Lamphier Chris Demers _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ President Vice President 2nd Vice President Treasurer Asst. Treasurer Secretary Trustee Trustee Trustee Trustee Trustee Trustee Trustee Trustee Trustee Trustee Group Development E-News Bulletins Youth Administrator Newsletter Editor Trustee Webmaster Republican Round-up To 2012 Election…. 2012 will be a presidential election year, and leading up to the election is the Republican primaries and caucuses throughout the country. To help you sort through some of it here are some facts about the process. First there are 2,286 delegates up for grabs with a candidate needed 1,144 to win the Republican nomination and enter the November Presidential Election against incumbent President Barack Obama. The candidates are Mitt Romney, former governor of Massachusetts; Rick Santorum, former Pennsylvania Senator; Newt Gingrich, former speaker of the house; and Ron Paul, Representative from Texas. Romney is the front runner and presumptive nominee. All these men have spoken out against same-sex marriage and gay rights during their careers. The Pride Center of New Jersey, Inc. Serving New Jersey’s LGBTIQ Community A 501(c)3 Tax-Exempt Not-for-Profit Corporation The mission of The Pride Center of New Jersey is to provide comprehensive programming which fosters the health and well-being of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersexed, and questioning (LGBTIQ) community, and to increase public acceptance and champion social change for the LGBTIQ community through education and outreach. The Pride Center envisions a world where members of the LGBTIQ community are empowered as individuals, as citizens and as members of the larger community, enjoying non-prejudicial treatment under the law and in every aspect of their lives. We will encourage the creation of a society that celebrates the inherent worth, dignity, and diverse characteristics of every individual. We will be a leader in New Jersey for the collaboration of LGBTIQ and allied groups, the media, and policy makers; a resource and service center for all persons and organizations who share our vision; and a place of safety and education. The Pride Center News is a free quarterly publication. Advertising rates: A business card ad is $30 per issue. Ad rates are determined by how many “business card spaces” (3.5”x2”) an ad takes up on one letter-size page and is multiplied by $30. A full page ad is $300. –4– Marriage Passes in NJ and Gov. Fails the Public by R. A. Melos If you are part of the LBGT community or a supporter of the LGBT community in New Jersey you are aware of the long struggle for equal rights in the Garden State. In 2006 New Jersey law makers enacted the Civil Union Act, which was supposed to offer “many” of the rights of marriage upon couples (not only same-sex couples) who chose not to opt for the full out “marriage” available to one man one woman couples. Some of the legal rights not covered under civil unions are those such as workplace benefits, insurance benefits, hospital visitation rights, all of which are held in place by the legal rights afforded under the guise of “marriage”. For some the issue is simply the word itself. Many people are opposed to same-sex couples using the word “marriage” to define their union, yet marriage is the most accurate term used to describe a contractual union, and in legal issues it is used to describe many types of unions or coming together of the minds. The most common definition of marriage taken from the American Heritage Dictionary is: a legal contract between people that creates a kinship. It acknowledges interpersonal relationships, usually intimate and sexual in nature. With this in mind it must also be noted that marriage is interpreted differently by different cultures, and because of these different interpretations “marriage” is constantly being redefined. It is also important to note several states in the U.S. do have same-sex marriage on the books, including Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, New York, and Vermont, plus Washington, D.C. and Oregon's Coquille and Washington state's Suquamish Indian tribes. The state of Washington is scheduled to begin granting samesex marriage licenses on June 7, 2012, California is currently in legal limbo with the appeal of proposition 8 and Maryland recently passed same-sex marriage. There are currently 30 states that have in some form a constitutional ban on same-sex marriages. The recent events in New Jersey have brought to the forefront of much of the LGBT community the obstacles still needed to overcome. Governor Chris Christie (R) vetoed the bill within six hours of it reaching his desk, after it passed the assembly by a vote of 42 to 33. In order to override the governor’s veto of the bill 15 more votes in favor are needed; 3 in the assembly and 12 in the Senate, a two-thirds majority. The legislature has until the end of 2013 to get the votes they need. Governor Christie and opponents of equal rights for same-sex couples through marriage will be facing harsh criticism from proponent groups such as Marriage Equality and Freedom to Marry who will fight tooth and nail to obtain equal rights for same-sex couples in the Garden State. Free HIV Testing The Pride Center hosts the University of Medicine & Dentistry of New Jersey- Robert Wood Johnson Medical School’s HIV Counseling and Testing program on the 2nd Monday of each month from 6:30pm – 8pm. They will be providing free and confidential rapid HIV testing at the Pride Center. Any person 13 years old and over is welcome. Results will be given in 15 minutes!! Room 2 –5– Out In Print I Used To Call Her Muffin, But Now She’s Just Stale Bread To Me There was a time when our love was new, When we swore to each other we would always be true, But our hearts turned cold and bitter, like old coffee in a cup, And we didn’t make the effort to try and warm things up. I used to call her Muffin, but now she’s just stale bread to me. It all fell apart in the kitchen, and the bedroom couldn’t patch it up. We were everything to each other except lovers and friends. It wasn’t meant to be. I used to call her Muffin, but now she’s just stale bread to me. As relationships go, ours went. I knew it was over the day she told me to “get bent.” What once was a loving tone, Now chilled me straight to the bone. I tried, I swear, but I just didn’t care. I used to call her Muffin, but now she’s just stale bread to me. I woke up and smelled the burning toast, It was no longer her I loved the most. I didn’t have it in me to go the distance, What seemed like eternity was over in an instant. I used to call her Muffin, but now she’s just stale bread to me. So my advice, my friends, for those self-absorbed like me, Is to avoid the Muffins of the world, and go with the bagels, Or the donuts, Or even the French Toast. Because Muffins, be they blueberry, corn or bran, Won’t fulfill your emotional fiber needs, If you’re more attracted to the cream in your coffee. -- By R. A. Melos Submit short fiction and poetry, or photographs for Out In Print to: [email protected] subject line Out In Print The Girl I Kissed Peaches and cream, Strawberry lips. Soft touch. Sharp nails. Open heart. I love her. — Roberta Lemos –6– Marsha N. Shapiro, LCSW, BCD, LLC Licensed Clinical Social Worker Board Certified Diplomate Francine A. Gargano individual * couple * family * group therapy community education * staff training 20 Shawnee Drive, Suite B Watchung, New Jersey 07069 Attorney at Law Phone:908-753-2079 Offices in North Brunswick and Toms River (732) 422-9400 Annual Membership Drive, a good time to renew your PCNJ membership. See form in Newsletter, or register on line at www.pridecenter.org –7– FAX: 908-755-3586 GROUP MEETINGS & SOCIAL EVENTS Check the calendar page at PrideCenter.org for up-to-date schedules of all meetings or call 732-846-2232 Gay Men’s Coming Out Support Group GROUP MEETINGS Arts Adventures: Provides opportunities for PCNJ members and friends to participate with others in attending a variety of cultural events (i.e. theater, museums, galleries, concerts, opera and dance). The date, time and place of upcoming events are sent by e-mail. Contact [email protected] to learn more. A moderated discussion group for issues related to coming out as gay men. E-mail [email protected] for more information. Every Wednesday, 7:30 p.m. Gay Men’s Guild Established to make a positive difference in the lives of gay men, by providing a nurturing environment of understanding and respect for gay men of New Jersey. The Guild is dedicated and committed to developing and maintaining a gay men’s community. For more information [email protected] Bisexual Social Support Group: The purpose of this group is a discussion group that discusses different aspects of the bi community. Such as, bisexuals in the work place, family, and to be there in a place that is considered safe to discuss these issues. Also, coming out stories can be shared amongst the group.. The allies are friends of bisexuals who show there support for the group. For info email [email protected] Gay Men’s Living Out Support Group Meets every Wednesday Night at 7:30 p.m. A Support Discussion group for gay men Living Out of the Closet. Afterwards men go to a diner to socialize. Gay Men’s Social Group Booked for Supper Social, educational, rap, potlucks, for everyone. E-mail [email protected] for more information. Second & fourth Tuesday, 8:30 p.m. Each month the group will pick a novel to read for the next month's discussion. Booked for Lunch is changing to Booked for Supper, and will be meeting the 2nd Wednesday of each month from 6 to 7 PM at the Pride Center in Room 2, beginning April 11. Contact Walter at [email protected] GLSEN Central New Jersey The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network strives to assure that each member of every school community is valued and respected regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression. The training committee meets 3rd Thursday at 7:00 PM Come As You Are: a social group for GLBT community and straight allies where we can transcend cliques and stereotypes to form new connections and form friendships. 2nd and 4th Fridays. 7:30 p.m. Come Out and Play (COP) A social networking group for 20- and 30-somethings, offering a variety of social events, helpful workshops and volunteering opportunities. COP meets at the Center the first and third Tuesday, 7:00-9:30pm. Other events throughout the month, visit http://www.pridecenter.org/cop/ for more information. Gay Dad’s Coming Out Support Group Monthly meeting focusing on parent/child issues for gay dads info. First Wednesday night of the month 7:30-9:00 p.m.. Contact Joel at [email protected] Gay Educators Group First Thursday Each Month. 7:30-9:30pm This will be a safe place for gay folks working in education to meet other gay folks in education. This will be a social group where members can meet new people and talk. We will plan another event outside of the Pride Center. Drop-ins and new members are always welcomed to the first meeting each month at the Pride Center. For more info contact us at [email protected] –8– LGBT Activist Forum: The purpose of this forum will be to discuss, educate and inform ourselves respecting issues that affect the happiness, safety and civil rights of LGBT people in our immediate world and the world at large. The group will set its own agenda for topics to be discussed and will plan occasional related educational events for the Center community through guest speakers, panel presentations and films. 8:00-9:30 PM, monthly, 3rd Monday. Contact [email protected] for information. Living Soulfully is a community of men who love men to nurture individual and collective conscious spiritual growth. You are invited to share an evening of connection! We nourish the mind, body and heart with opportunities to meet people, heart-felt sharing and fun in a safe, supportive environment. For info, contact: Elias Scultori, ACC, MSM [email protected] 732.419.2566 GROUP MEETINGS & SOCIAL EVENTS Check the calendar page at PrideCenter.org for up-to-date schedules of all meetings or call 732-846-2232 Straight Spouse Support Group E-Mail straight- Living Out Women A social group that offers women 21+ the opportunity to be a part of discussions, meet-ups, trips, and lend each other help, support, and guidance. The idea is to create a place where we can meet new friends in a relaxed environment. A portion of the first few meetings will be devoted to identifying discussion topics and/or beginning to make plans for events. Meets 1st & 3rd Mondays of Every Month Time 8:00 – 9:30 PM Location Room 3, Contact [email protected] to learn more. [email protected] for more information and visit the web site at www.pridecenter.org and E-News for further details as they emerge. This group will provide discussion and support to straight spouses who's partners have come out, their children, gay spouses and people uncertain of their orientation before marriage. Support Group for Parents of GLBTIQ Youth/Young Adults Join together the 3rd Friday of the month at 7:30 PM for a time to get together and lend support, share triumphs, stories and laughs about your GLBTIQ children. Help support each other in knowing that you all share a commonality, and that each of your children are different, unique and most importantly, a part of you! [email protected] Metropolitan Community Church of Christ the Liberator (MCC CTL): Metropolitan Community Church of Christ the Liberator (MCC CTL) worships every Sunday at 10:45 AM; there is a fellowship meal after service on the second Sunday of the month, as well as other periodic social and educational events. Come and learn and grow! For further information, please call 732.823.2193 or consult the website at www.mccctl.com. Torah Queeries Torah study through a queer lens, using as a jumping point for discussion, the book: Torah Queeries, Weekly Commentaries on the Hebrew Bible (available through Amazon.com). Its chapters contain liberating and healing messages, inspired by and drawn from Biblical texts, on the interface of our Jewish and LGBT identities. For inquiries or to register, contact David Rogoff at [email protected]. will be meeting on the third Sunday of each month at the Pride Center, from 4:30-6 PM New Jersey Stonewall Democrats. They support Pro Equality Democrats and Holding Democrats Accountable. This group is open to all interested adults. E Mail [email protected] and [email protected] for more details and meeting times. Overeaters’ Anonymous TrueSelves A program of recovery for compulsive overeaters using the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions. The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop eating compulsively. There will be a GLBT special focus. Monday 7:30 p.m. A Transgender Support group focusing on issues and understanding yourself and your community. All Transgender queer spectrum related sexualities are welcome. Third Sunday of every month, 4:00-6:00 p.m., contact [email protected] for info. The After School HangOUT: Support and Social Group for LGBTIQ youth 17 and younger and their straight allies! Come hang out with us at a save place to talk, meet new people, and have fun! It's an extension of our current Youth Drop-In that happens the Second and Forth Saturdays of the month! When: Meeting every Friday afternoon at 3:306:30pm Tuesday Night Men’s Social: Social, educational, rap, potlucks, for everyone. Meets second & fourth Tuesdays @ 8:00 p.m. Email [email protected] for info. Under the Rainbow Both a discussion group and a social group for young GLBT people ages 18-23. The group meets the fourth Saturday of each month 4:30 to 7:30. There are discussions about anything from coming out to relationships. It's a safe place to make new friends. Please contact for more details. [email protected] The Pride Center Players Third Tuesday Each Month. 7-10pm The Pride Center Players is a new community theater production company being formed by Darren Nye, which will focus on LGBTIQ topics. Darren is looking for other leaders to join the Board of Trustees, as well as actors and a production crew. actors interested in auditioning, should visit www.thepridecenterplayers.org for more information or write to [email protected]. GROUP MEETINGS CONTINUED ON PAGE 11 –9– – 10 – SOCIAL EVENTS GROUP MEETINGS CONT. FROM PAGE 9 LGBT Games Night United People Poz (U.P.P) LGBT Karaoke All are welcome to come and sing your favorite songs on our new karaoke machine donated by the Men’s Guild. We have a good collections of tunes and you can bring and sing your own. First Friday of every month from 7:30 to 10:00 PM Women’s Coming Out Support Group Monthly games night on the 3rd Saturday of every month at 7:00 p.m. Opportunity for people to meet, play board games and socialize. Potluck desserts and snacks are welcome. LGBT Movie Social 2nd Saturday of every month at 7:00 p.m. Gay feature shown on state of the art DVD projector. Popcorn, drinks, refreshments included. Out of the Box! Share your original music, poetry, or stories with a warm, friendly, and very diverse audience. Everyone is welcome — listeners and sharers alike. Third Friday of every month, 8:00 p.m. at THE CAVE—19-21 South 2nd Avenue, Highland Park, NJ. For information: [email protected] | pandorascooter.com/ news.html Women’s Social Night The first Saturday of every month 7:00 p.m. to 10:00 p.m. Come join us for social events, games, discussions, and fun. A forum for HIV+ gay men and their supporters. We offer a safe space to meet, find support, make friends and develop a camaraderie. Unity, solidarity and Community are the main focus, as we grow together and foster relationship within the HIV/AIDS population and beyond. U.P.P. will be holding different social events and advocacy events in and around the area. We meet at the Pride Center of New Jersey every 2nd Friday of the month at 7:30 PM Contact: [email protected] This group provides a supportive environment for women who are at any stage of the coming out process. Women of all ages who consider themselves gay, lesbian, bisexual, or questioning are welcome. Ages 18 and over. Call PCNJ for more info Writers’ Group Writers and would-be-writers meet to read and discuss works in progress in a supportive atmosphere, and more! Any genre is welcome. Every Thursday at 7:30 p.m. For more info, [email protected] Yoga for Men: No yoga experience or level of flexibility required. All levels welcome. Bring a yoga mat and a hand towel. Led by Steven A. Russell (DYRT), he seeks to enable others to find a body of vibrant health, a mind free from restlessness, and a soul that radiantly sings from the core of existence. He combines his experience as a yogi and a musician, working with breath, vibration, concentration, and movement, to present uplifting and relaxing yoga classes. Steven has been practicing yoga for over ten years. He is a certified teacher of Dharma Yoga, having studied with Sri Dharma Mittra in NYC. All are welcome to attend his classes, from the beginner to the experienced. Meets 2nd and 4th Tuesdays, 7:30PM-9:00PM. Email [email protected] for more information. Young Men's Social Network 1st and 3rd Monday Each Month at 8:00-9:30pm A Social/ support group for men 18-40. Meets every 1st and 3rd Monday at 8:00 pm. We talk about sex, love, sexuality, family life, pop culture, relationships and other related topics. Afterwards we socialize at a restaurant/diner in the area. For more information e-mail [email protected] Youth Drop-In Drop-in day for LGBTIQQ youth and their allies for youth 17 and under. Second, & Fourth Saturday, 1:00 -4:00 p.m.. – 11 – Whitney Houston dead at 47 Actress, singer, entertainer Whitney Houston died on February 11th. Houston held a Guinness Book of Records title for the most awarded female act of all time, in 2009.Her career spanned three decades and is perhaps best known for her hit rendition of the Dolly Parton song, I Will Always Love You from the film The Bodyguard, in which she made her acting debut. She also received acclaim for her rendition of the Star Spangled Banner. Houston had a turbulent marriage to singer Bobby Brown which ended in divorce in 2006, and a history with alcohol and drug abuse. She is survived by her daughter Bobbi Kristina Brown. – 12 – PCNJ To Host Male Erotic Art Exhibit Male Erotic Art Exhibit/Sale (This Exhibit is rated NC-17) “Why should I be ashamed to draw what nature was not ashamed to create?” (Anonymous) With this quote in mind, the Men’s Guild supported by PCNJ is sponsoring its first Male Erotic Art Exhibit/Sale and all are welcome at PCNJ. With the help of the Leslie/Lohman Museum of Gay and Lesbian Art (http://www.leslielohman.org/) and local artists we were able to choose from seventeen male erotic artists. Due to limited space, the selection committee had a difficult time making the final cut but was able to do so selecting ten artists to exhibit. We are confident that you won’t be disappointed. They are from New York and New Jersey and they can’t wait to “show you their stuff”. So come and meet the artists; maybe you will fall in love with one of their creations and take him home with you. There will be a range of prices so bring cash, checkbook and credit card. Place April 21, 2012 from 1:00PM to 5:00PM on your calendar and if you go to www.pridecenter.org you will see that we have it on ours. It’s only a $5 donation at the door and if you wish to draw from a live model, you can try your hand at it from 3:00PM to 4:00PM. In addition to all that, we will provide light refreshments and live jazz for your enjoyment. By Tai Lin NJ Lic. No. PC01910 732-545-2844 David Rogoff MS,LPC Psychotherapy Anxiety — Grief & Loss — Depression Trauma Recovery — Health Crisis 24 North Third Avenue, Suite 202 Highland Park, NJ 08904 – 13 – Online Social Networking, with The Pride Center of NJ http://twitter.com/pridecenternj Get Status updates from the center directly to your phone! Watch Videos of past events from the Pride Center, or submit one of your own for approval at [email protected] http://www.youtube.com/user/ thepridecenterofnj Join the Social Network with options and create your own profile! http://pridecenter.ning.com Become a fan and a member on our group page! http://www.facebook.com/group.php? gid=45759208919 http://www.myspace.com/njpridecenter Friend up with us and leave a comment! www.pridecenter.org Join our networks and connect with other members today! [email protected] Actor Comes Out So here we stand 34 year old actor Matt Bomer, star of the USA Network hit series White Collar came out in February of this year at the Steven Chase Humanitarian Awards, thanking his partner Simon Hall and their children . Bomer previously refused to talk about his sexuality telling reporters he was a “happy and fulfilled person.” – 14 – Marriage in Riverdale The Archie Comic book featuring the same-sex marriage of character Kevin Keller was released on March 2nd and sold out. A big congratulations to Archie Comics for creating the character and giving him the life many of us are still denied. Hopefully life will imitate art and we will all be able to enjoy the freedoms the characters of Riverdale now enjoy. Rutgers Hate Crime Trial: Ravi Guilty! by R. A. Melos The trial of Dharun Ravi, the man accused of webcamming a sexual encounter between his roommate, Tyler Clementi, and another man in his Rutgers dorm room resulting in the suicide of Clementi began on February 23rd. Ravi faced multiple counts of bias intimidation as a hate crime, invasion of privacy and hindering apprehension, and could get as high as 10 years in prison, and face deportation. He was not directly charged in the death of Clementi. The events took place on September 19th 2010, when Clementi, a freshman at Rutgers, invited an anonymous man to the dorm room he was sharing with Ravi. Ravi allegedly had his computer web cam set up and running and Dharun Ravi, file photo broadcast a portion of the encounter between Clementi and the other man. Allegedly Ravi twitter a plan to broadcast a second planned encounter between Clementi and the anonymous man, but Clementi got word of it and pulled the plug on Ravi’s computer. At the opening of the trial Middlesex County First Assistant Prosecutor Julia McClure detailed the order of events leading up to the 19 year-old Clementi taking his life by leaping from the George Washington Bridge on September 22nd, 2010. According to McClure, Ravi set up the web cam with the intent of invading the privacy of his roommate, allegedly as a practical joke, and discovered what he already suspected, Clementi was a homosexual. After the suicide, Ravi attempted to cover his involvement in the events by deleting Twitter posts and then asking fellow student Molly Wei to give false information to police thus hampering the investigation. Wei was also charged in the case but took a plea deal which reduced charges against her. She testified against Ravi during his trial. Clementi’s anonymous lover, known in court records as “MB” also testified during the trial, saying he and Clementi only met three times before Clementi took his life. He had no idea Clementi was planning on suicide and was not aware of Clementi’s last name until the suicide and subsequent police investigation made national news. Ravi was found guilty on 15 counts including multiple counts of invasion of privacy. The trial lasted 13 days with more than 30 witnesses and 100 pieces of evidence. This was the first trial of its nature in the Garden State and the crime itself encouraged NJ legislators to pass a strong anti-bullying and hate crime law in 2011. Ravi will be sentenced on May 21st of 2012. – 15 – ad – 16 – Why Me? By Christopher Fleming I have spoken with many of my Pride Center family about why they chose not to march in the New Jersey and New York pride parades 2011. I received many different responses. All of which made perfect sense. Their response included: “I’ve been there, done that”, “I had my time at the parades long ago”; “I love to watch the parade, and if I'm in it I cannot see it”, I can’t get there very easily”; “It's too long for me”, “It’s too hot for me”, “I was busy that weekend”. These responses sounded perfectly reasonable to me. The thing I noticed about all of the above responses were that they there were all spoken from the "I", from the “me”. I submit that the representation of the Pride Center of New Jersey in both the New Jersey and New York parades are not about the “I”, but rather about the “Us”, the Center. Volunteering to march, as a representative of the Center, is a service, first and foremost. For me, it's a way I can give back to the Center (us) which has given me so much. I can sometimes forget that these parades represent the two most powerful opportunities available for public exposure of The Pride Center and of gay people in general. In our current social climate "putting a face on gay" is more important than ever. Thousands of people, gay and straight, line the parade route every year. This is our opportunity to show the world who we are. To show that we are united, that we are proud and that we are strong. Last Year I counted nine PCNJ members participating in the NJ Pride Parade in Asbury Park. While my participation in the parade was one of the most transformational experiences of my life, I can't help but wonder what impression was given of our organization. Are we really just a group of nine men and women calling ourselves the Pride Center of New Jersey? Did we use that opportunity to show those thousands of people who we really are, what we really do? Did the spectators get a sense of the tremendous work our volunteers do all year long? Did they get a sense of what PCNJ means to us? I admit that my participation in the parade last year (my first) was all about me! I was told what an amazing personal experience it could be, and I wanted to experience that. And it was indeed amazing. I was thinking in the “I”. I was not thinking about the crowd, about the parents of that gay kid, struggling with their acceptance. About that gay teenager wondering where they fit in, if they fit in. Our visibility as gay people is more critical now than ever. Children are killing themselves because they have nowhere to turn. People are staying in the closet because they don't think there's a world where they'll be accepted. For me that world of acceptance started at the Pride Center. I feel a burning desire to see the Center continued to grow and thrive. The Pride Center needs you. If you feel that the Pride Center has helped you, please consider giving back to the Pride Center in a way that only you can. All the money in the world cannot buy for the Pride Center what you can give it, its human face. Your Face. Save the dates: NEW JERSEY - SUNDAY, JUNE 3RD NEW YORK CITY - SUNDAY, JUNE 24TH – 17 – Men's Potluck Dinner Hosts Needed The Men's Guild at The Pride Center is in need of couples and pairs of friends to hosts a Men's Potluck Dinner at The Pride Center in Highland Park each month. Volunteers are greatly needed. Invite your friends and don't have the mess at home. We back you up and help you. Hosts set up, clean up (everyone helps), supply and are reimbursed for beverages and 5 dollar store table cloths. You are free to have themes, parties, videos etc. Please respond to me here. Thanks! [email protected] Nicole Hawkins Financial Services Professional Licensed Agent Life Insurance, Mortgage Protection, Annuities, 529 Plans, Long Term Care Insurance, Mutual Funds and Investments New York Life Insurance Company 399 Thornall Street, 7th Floor Edison, NJ 08837 Bus: 732-744-3917 Cell: 732-330-1298 [email protected] – 18 – 2012 Valentine’s Gala – 19 – – 20 – Meet The Volunteers In their own words…. Phone ringing. Me: Hello. Bob: Hey, what's up? It's Bob Millosh, how are you? I am calling to interview you for the Center’s newsletter; do you have a few minutes to chat with me? Me: Hi, What About Bob. I'm doing well thanks and yourself? Yeah I have some time, shoot. Bob: So, let's start with the basics. State your name and tell me a little about yourself. Anastacia Beaverhousen Me: My name is... wait is this a secure line? How do I know that it's really you What About Bob? Has the eagle landed? Is the key in the cupcake? Bob: Yes, it's really me. Who else would be calling and asking you about volunteering at The Pride Center? Seriously. Me: You never know who wants to get a hold of all this information. Next thing you know you'll be asking me for my birthdate, my mother’s maiden name, my social security number and the last time I had a bowel movement. And before you know it I'm drugged and kid napped and sold to an underground prostitution ring and then bought by to some old sweaty foreigner. And then after dealing with him for several months, I'll have to fight for my life and freedom. I will have been secretly training, with any free time away my master, to be an unstoppable ninja. But I will never be able to live out in daylight again. I will have to stay hidden in secrecy for fear of being found out and exposed. So just to play it safe, What About Bob, call me Anastacia Beaverhousen. Bob: Ok, Ricardo whatever you say, I mean Anastacia Beaverhousen. Me: Damn it What About Bob, you just blew my cover. Now what the hell is gonna happen. I'll have to try and sneak my kids and myself over the border tonight in that old El Camino I keep in the garage for situations like this. Shit What About Bob, we don't have much time, come on let's just get this over with so I can start my escape. Bob: Ugh. Sorry. So, why did you want to volunteer? What do you like most about it, Anastacia Beaverhousen? Me: I felt a calling to do better for mankind and... HAHAHAHAHAHAHA. Seriously, that's the questions you're gonna be asking me? C'mon you just put mine and my family's lives at risk for that? You can do better than that. Bob: What would you like me to ask you then? Me: I don't know. Something fun and interesting. Bob: How about you just start rambling and I'll try to keep up with the typing. Does that sound good to you Anastacia Beaverhousen? Is it a deal? Me: Yeah, ok. It's a deal. I think I have a few minutes before the feds come busting down my door. Ok, so let's start from the beginning. It was a cold and stormy night... United Way Does your workplace participate in a United Way campaign? You can donate a portion of your paycheck to PCNJ through the United Way of the Tri-State Area! On your United Way contribution enrollment form, simply indicate the PCNJ Tri -State code #026485. – 21 – What Pride Means to Me By Emily Harkins As I write this, it is almost mid March. In April, the NOH8 Campaign returns to New Jersey for two photoshoots, and then June is our LGBT Pride festival. I am really excited to be taking part in both, and even better, I am proud to also participate in the NY Pride festival at the end of June. Although it's only March, I am already thinking...and this is a good question for all of us to ask ourselves: What does pride mean to me? I think one's sense of pride varies between the generations. You have the generation that grew up fighting back with the Stonewall Riots, the generation that lived under the fear, prejudice and anger of the AIDS epidemic of the 1980s, and now there's the younger generation that is living in an environment where being openly gay is seen as more accepted, where it's getting more ok to live out loud. For me, pride is a new sense of coming to terms with who I am, a young lesbian learning to stand on my two feet with my head held high. I have faced the painful hardships of bullying because of who I am but somehow have managed to come through it all a stronger person. I'm lucky to be surrounded by friends who are pretty much my second family. I hope that all the young adults out there, who are uncomfortable in their own skin, have someone there to help them. If you look at the current political environment, showing our pride is more important than ever. All the current presidential candidates are opposed to marriage equality. Only 1 out of the 4 candidates is against reinstating DADT. All 4 candidates support the Defense of Marriage Act, even though President Obama has ruled it as "unconstitutional". As for us here in New Jersey, we have our fight for marriage equality. We recently came so close only to have our governor veto away our right to marry. As hard as that was, it's gonna happen here. Despite the ugly press reports from conservative candidates, and conservative groups getting bored and protesting whatever they want, I think things are always changing for the good. Some schools are allowing Gay.Straight.Alliances, there are more LGBT characters on TV and in film, more LGBT celebrities are coming out and being honest about who they are. There is also the hope campaign of the It Gets Better project and the success of the NOH8 Campaign. Also the movement of marriage equality is slowly growing from state to state. To put things in perspective a bit, here in the US, we are lucky. In other countries, the situations for LGBT citizens is more dire, risking death and arrests. It's sad to think that even in 2012, being gay is frowned upon in some places. June is LGBT Pride month, a full month where we can celebrate who we are. This is where we can celebrate our history and inspire the generation coming of age. This is when we can show that we are proud of who we are, that we can emerge from obstacles stronger as a community. So, for June, get out there, show your colors! Let's live out loud and celebrate. – 22 – Phone Numbers PRIDE CENTER of NJ................732-846-2232 Dignity/Metro ..............................973-509-0118 Dignity/New Brunswick .................732-968-9263 Gay Activists Alliance in Morris Co...973-285-1595 Garden State Equality …………….…….973-473-5428 Havurah......................................732-650-1010 Hyacinth AIDS Foundation.............800-433-0254 Jersey Pride, Inc ..........................732-21 GAYNJ Lambda Families of NJ ..................973-763-8511 LEAGUE—AT&T……………………………….973-644-7904 Lesbian Domestic Abuse Helpline….800-224-0211 Lesbians & Gay Men of New Brunswick…………..……………………………732-247-0515 Long Yang Club ...........................732-247-0515 Metropolitan Community Church/CTL……………………………………..732-846-8227 NAMES Project–Central NJ.............732-249-3933 NAMES Project–Northern NJ...........201-265-0600 NJ Buddies ...............................201-489-2900 NJCRI...................................... 973-483-3444 NJEA Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual Caucus……………………………………………609-448-5215 NJLGC /PLF................................732-828-6772 NJWAN......................................732-846-4462 Ocean Co. Senior Gay & Lesbian Support Group………………………………800-621-0096 Outbike.................................... 973-748-9368 P-FLAG North Jersey...................973-267-8414 Princeton LGB Alliance ...............609-258-4522 Rutgers G/L/B Hotline.................908-932-7886 The OASIS................................973-430-9909 The Trevor Helpline …………………… 866-4U.TREVOR Women Helping Women..............732-549-6000 – 23 – Location: 85 Raritan Avenue, Suite 100, Highland Park, NJ 08904-2430 (732)846-2232 http://www.pridecenter.org The Pride Center of New Jersey is a nonprofit 501(c)3 organization, which means that your donations are tax deductible. Whatever you can afford to donate, your support and generosity are greatly appreciated. Making an annual contribution in one of the following levels will qualify you as a Member of the Pride Center of New Jersey. Use the form below or go to our site at www.pridecenter.org where you can join/donate via PayPal. General Membership $36.00 Student/Senior $15.00 Family Membership Silver Membership Gold Membership Platinum Membership $60.00 $100.00 $250.00 $500.00 Benefactor $1000.00 Leadership Circle $2500.00 President’s Circle $5000.00 All memberships are calendar year memberships. Entitles members to discounts on major fundraising events. General membership benefits reserved for students, senior citizens and those of limited financial ability. General membership benefits for one household. General membership benefits and discounts at select special events. General membership benefits and discounts at select special events. General membership benefits, discounts at select special events, and name engraved on Platinum donor plaque. General membership benefits, discounts at select special events, and name engraved on Benefactor donor plaque. Free Admission to select special events, name engraved on Leadership Circle Plaque, President’s Leadership Council. Free Admission to select special events, name engraved on President’s Circle Plaque, President’s Leadership Council, Assign donation to specific program. All Members receive a PCNJ Membership Card and quarterly Pride Center News. All Memberships are Single Memberships except the Family Membership. Name: City: Phone: Check Credit Card: Visa Signature: Membership Levels: Membership makes YOUR Pride Center possible. Be part of it! Address: State: Zip: E-mail: Cash Add to E-Newsletter Mail List Mastercard Amex Credit Card Number: Exp. Date: $15 (Student/Senior) $36(General) $60(Family) $100(Silver) $250(Gold) $500(Platinum) $1000(Benefactor) $2500 (Leadership Circle) $5000 (President’s Circle) Donation to Building Fund Other Donation Please do not send membership acknowledgement or Newsletter. Contact me to volunteer time or services! Mail to Pride Center of New Jersey, Inc., 85 Raritan Avenue, Suite 100, Highland Park, NJ 08904-2430
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