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MAP (not to scale) 101 North - Compassionate Friends of Marin
JULY-AUGUST 2014 ISSUE This issue of the TCF Marin Newsletter is sponsored by Bruce and Louise Hubal in loving memory of their son, Matthew David Hubal, 07/01/1971 to 03/24/1994. MEETING SITE Lucas Valley Community Church and Conference Room 2000 Las Gallinas Avenue (at Lucas Valley Road) San Rafael, CA Meetings are the 3rd Tuesday of each month at 7:30 pm. If this is your first meeting, please come at 7:00 pm). July 15, 2014 August 19, 2014 September 16, 2014 Directions – Exit 101 at Lucas Valley Road and go WEST. Turn RIGHT onto Las Gallinas, and then make an immediate RIGHT on to Ellen, then a RIGHT into the parking lot. The Conference Room is located in the first building next to the parking lot. MAP (not to scale) PARK Las Gallinas Please call the TCF Hotline (415/457-3123) prior to your first meeting, so the facilitator knows to welcome you. 101 North Lucas Vly. Rd. Exit less than 1/2 mi. TCF Marin is happy to announce we will once again schedule Saturday walks together. The walks will be on the 4th Saturday of each month and begin at 10 a.m., with locations designated in the newsletter. Here is the schedule for the next three months: Saturday, July 26, 2014 at 10 a.m. A walk in the Corte Madera Marsh. This 2 mile walk is completely flat and partially on a gravel roadbed. From 101 South, take the Lucky Drive exit and turn right. The shopping center will be on your left. From 101 North, take Doherty Drive exit, then left at the light and left again to go under the freeway, then left to shopping center on right. Park in back of Cost Plus. Saturday, August 23, 2014 at 10 a.m. A walk in Samuel Taylor State Park. This 2+mile out and back walk is completely flat on a forest fire road. This walk will start at the Leo Cronin Fish Viewing area just south of the park on Sir Francis Drake Blvd. We will cross the road and walk towards the park. Park in the Leo Cronin Fish Viewin parking lot. There is limited free parking, so car pool if you can. Saturday, September 27, 2014 at 10 a.m. A walk along the San Rafael shoreline. This is an out and back walk beginning at Pickleweed Park in San Rafael. We will walk the approx. mile to the Target parking area, then back. Those who want a longer walk will have the option to continue east along the water on the Jean and John Starkweather Shoreline Trail. From 101, take the Bellam Blvd. exit onto Bellam Blvd.heading north, then left on Kerner to end at Canal St. Park at Pickleweed Park in the Albert J. Boro Community Center parking lot or along the road. Please let us know if you plan to walk with us by e-mailing Genesse Gentry at [email protected] or call the TCF phone line: 415.457.3123 ____________________________________________ An important way to cope with grief is having an outlet, be it interpersonal, be it artistic, that will allow you to not have to contain your grief, but will give you an opportunity to express it, to externalize it to some degree. ~ R. Benyamin Cirlin, Grief counselor RESOURCES TCF Marin County, CA Chapter P.O. Box 150935 San Rafael, CA 94915 www.tcfmarin.org TCF Information Line Eileen Rusky (415) 457-3123 TCF Marin Email: [email protected] TCF Marin Co-Leaders: Liz Anderson [email protected] Richard Pedemonte [email protected] Northern CA Regional Coordinator: Nancy Juracka [email protected] Newsletter Editor and Webmaster: Heinz Scheuenstuhl [email protected] TCF National Office: P.O. Box 3696 Oak Brook, IL 60533-3696 Phone: (630) 990-0010 Toll Free: (877) 969-0010 Fax: (630) 990-0246 Email: nationaloffice@ compassionatefriends.org TCF National Website: www.compassionatefriends.org (offers supportive services and chat rooms) Additional Support Sites opentohope.com bereavedparents.com survivorsofsuicide.com griefspeaks.com healingafterloss.org childloss.com Other Grief Counseling Resources Hospice by the Bay offers individual and group grief counseling. Marin and SF (415) 526-5699 Sonoma (707) 931-7299 Email: [email protected] Website: www.hospicebythebay.org CHAPTER ANNOUNCEMENTS Marin TCF Meeting Calendar July 15, 2014 August 19, 2014 September 16, 2014 Coming to a TCF meeting for the first time ? We recognize all too well that it takes courage to come to the first meeting, whether you are a bereaved parent of one month or 5 years. You are welcome to bring a friend or relative for moral support if you wish. You will find that it is all right to cry or to laugh, to share how you feel or just listen. You are welcome to come late and leave early. We recommend that you attend 2-3 meetings before deciding if TCF is not for you. Each meeting is as varied as the attendees and the topic. You will meet parents in both early and late stages of the grief process. Longtime members are present at meetings to help new members process the tremendous losses in their lives, and to show that some time down the road of grief, they too will be able to function and grow and learn how to live with these losses. It is best if you contact TCF prior to your first meeting at (415) 457-3123 so we can meet with you at 7:00 p.m. before the meeting begins. _______________________________________________ 37th National TCF Conference in Chicago, IL The Compassionate Friends 37th National Conference will be held in Chicago, IL on July 11-13, 2014. “Miles of Compassion through The Winds of Hope” is the theme of this year’s event which promises more of last year’s great national conference experience. The 2014 conference will be held at the Hyatt Regency O’Hare right near the airport. We are keeping you updated with details on the national website as well as on our TCF/USA Facebook Page and elsewhere as they become available. Plan to come and be a part of this heartwarming experience. Registration is now open for this year’s Conference: www.compassionatefriends.org/Other_Pages/ConferenceRegistration.aspx _______________________________________________ TCF “Online Support Community” Offers Opportunity for Grief Sharing The Compassionate Friends national website offers “virtual chapters” through an Online Support Community (live chats). This program was established to encourage connecting and sharing among parents, grandparents, and siblings (over the age of 18) grieving the death of a child. The rooms supply support, encouragement, and friendship. The friendly atmosphere encourages conversation among friends; friends who understand the emotions you’re experiencing. There are general bereavement sessions as well as more specific sessions. The sessions last an hour and have trained moderators present. For more information, visit www.compassionatefriends.org and click “Online Support” listed under the Find Support menu. Remembrance by Radha Stern I recently attended “A Day of Remembrance” put together by the Alameda County District Attorney’s office. The main speaker focused on domestic violence. I had this “oh my” moment when it became clear that domestic violence was a factor when Christopher (my 21 year old son) lost his life. On March 21, 1996, Christopher was shot four times by his school roommate because he put dishes in the wrong cabinet. A small dispute that should have ended peacefully turned into a senseless murder because of rage. (Since then, I have cautioned many parents to check out and know their children’s roommates.) I always thought about Christopher’s death as the crime of murder, which it is. But it’s also domestic violence. The legal system had known it all along, but I just caught up…and was stunned that I had not been aware of this angle sooner. It makes sense; now I get it and am asking myself, “what took you so long?” Alameda County District Attorney Nancy O’Malley spoke significant words, along with Mayor Jean Quan, Superior Court Judge Tara Flanagan (awesome) and a very inspiring young woman survivor, Amily He. Amily will make a difference for many people. Alameda County has been tracking all the domestic violence deaths since 1996. 1996 is the year Christopher was murdered and was one of 20 deaths. In 2010 there were 3 deaths, 2011 another 4 deaths and 2012 there were 10. Since 1996 all the domestic violence numbers (deaths) have gone down. I am grateful to see this change, and I am sure many others are, too. It was very apparent to me at the event who was newly bereaved and who was practiced. I deliberately sat next to a freshly grieving woman who has lost her sister recently. She could barely speak through her tears. I had my hand on her shoulder, and I just kept thinking “I am going to pour my love into her and hope it helps a tiny bit.” There were photos on a table of everyone’s loved one and we pointed each other’s out and said their names. She knew she was safe with me and didn’t have to pretend. I found myself being so grateful for the years that have passed. Fresh raw traumatic grief is very hard to absorb. It won’t let you up for air and you cannot imagine ever being happy again. I don’t miss Christopher less. I am just calm and thankful for the life I am living now. I want to make it count; for him and for me. ____________________________________________________________________ Tears are the silent language of grief~ Voltaire Our Children Remembered - July 2014 Child Dates Bereaved John Christopher Alioto, Jr. 07/21/1960 01/27/2005 John & Georgia Alioto Eric Roger Anawalt07/18/1961 11/10/1979 Roger Anawalt Mark Vincent Antenucci08/25/1959 07/27/1997 Diano Antenucci Maraina Lee Arik 02/04/1973 07/22/2009 Rich & Linda Arik Garrett Artigiani 05/04/1970 07/30/2011 Joe & Anya Artigiani Frank Daniel Austin, Sr. 10/01/1959 07/28/2005 Rosalyn Mazzaferri Brian Jay Buckley 03/31/1985 07/13/1999 Merilee Rossi, Chris Valentino & Family Amy Esther Chamberlain 11/10/1972 07/04/2005 John and Susan Chamberlain DeWayne D. Dearstyne 07/29/1964 02/26/1983 Mary Ellen Dearstyne Dylan Simon Duncan Wright 07/13/1981 09/14/2013 Mara Duncan John P. Feeney03/17/1960 07/26/1995 Lois Feeney Peter Alexander Forstner 05/14/1981 07/01/2001 Kitty Forstner S. Mark Fruchey 07/24/1964 12/14/1996 Linda Sands René Garcia 07/05/1954 11/27/1976 Bertila, Carmen & Jose Armando Garcia Nancy Hill03/31/1946 07/25/2004 Mike Hill Janet Suzanne Hoch 06/29/1963 07/26/1981 Linda & Peter Hoch Matthew David Hubal 07/01/1971 03/24/1994 Bruce & Louise Hubal Anna Maria Kakis 07/15/1985 02/14/2005 Anthony and Lella Kakis Alicia Scott Lee 07/10/1992 03/20/2010 Jon & Cathie Lee Laura Catherine Maatz 07/13/1961 02/16/2010 Russell & Marcia Lizza Fernando Martinez 07/26/1975 09/13/1993 Don & Maria Pazour David Meraz07/17/1966 03/10/1992 Rosemary Febbo Alex Morris 07/04/1992 07/01/2012 Paula Morris & Cory Pohley Melody Rae Osheroff 07/12/1999 05/27/2009 Aaron Osheroff Luke Benjamin Pedemonte 01/06/1978 07/22/2006 Richard and Therese Pedemonte Christina Marie Piatti 11/11/1992 07/22/2006 Pat Fields, Dave & Laura LaLonde Joshua Adam Portnoy 07/16/1978 09/27/1997 Bob & Gunilla Portnoy Vinnie J. Simons 09/25/1982 07/11/2007 Lori Jones Wykeham Smith 07/25/1963 06/27/1974 Joan Brinkley Smith Eric Storace02/25/1957 07/25/1996 Ilene Storace Jenee Swanson07/30/1979 03/10/2001 Rich Swanson Eric Masato Takashige Boehm 07/09/1988 07/17/2002 Hanna Takashige & Frank Boehm Gregory Patrick Walsh10/14/1971 07/11/2001 Sandy Williams Spencer Wood06/15/1984 07/22/2006 Rich & Denise Wood A friend is one who knows you as you are . . . Understands where you’ve been . . . Accepts who you’ve become And still gently invites you to grow. ~ Author unknown Our Children Remembered - August 2014 Child Dates Bereaved Alana Teresa Alioto08/15/1967 11/14/1978 John & Georgia Alioto Levi Allen08/08/1980 03/25/2010 Melissa Allen Mark Vincent Antenucci08/25/1959 07/27/1997 Diano Antenucci Shane Arneson08/22/1987 06/24/2011 Carolyn Beasley Jack Bacheller 06/12/1960 08/23/1996 Bruce & Joe Bacheller Tobias M. Biedul 02/13/1970 08/31/2000 Charles Feeney & Holly Biedul Taylor Lynn Cohen 08/17/1993 03/22/2008 Michael & Gail Cohen Chloë Sabrina Dator 06/19/1988 08/12/2006 Dani Dator Dan Dell’Era 08/21/1955 03/20/1997 Aldo & Rosemary Dell’Era Adam Dietz 10/10/1982 08/01/1993 Julie & Larry Dietz James Peter Hanson 08/18/1958 12/06/1998 Ann Hanson Michael Chad Harris 05/30/1982 08/26/2009 Jerry & Trena Harris Jessica Kenward 08/03/1955Nancy Kenward-Hughes John T. Koss03/13/1968 08/15/2006 JoAnn Koss Michael J. Lockwood 08/25/1971 11/06/2003 Barbara Lockwood Albertoni Richard C. Mannheimer, Jr. 06/27/1961 08/22/2010 Richard Mannheimer, Sr. & Shirlee Newman Lori Margo Meislin 08/24/1959 06/25/1967 Barbara J. Meislin Joshua Millard08/29/1967 04/15/1990 Lynn Wissler Gina Marin Monaco 11/08/1982 08/23/1998 Joan Griffin Anthony Dino Nay 04/09/2007 08/31/2007 Bob & Diana Nay Lauren Nelson08/20/1982 09/29/2010 John & Vicki Nelson Rebecca E. Pabst 08/08/1968 11/09/1994 Alan & Virginia Pabst Timothy Parnow08/05/1957 02/22/2003 Caroll Parnow Jacob Thomas Phelps 02/23/1973 08/29/2004 Alan & Shoshana Phelps Kareem Rafeh 09/07/1982 08/25/2013 Hafez & Nada Rafeh Rodney Robinson-Billings 02/28/1961 08/25/1984 Judith Billings Wriston Anna Elizabeth Russell 01/25/1988 08/24/1988 Lorene Jackson Meghan Rae Teresi 08/27/1981 04/27/2009 James Teresi & Lynda Cardwell David Testo08/09/1963 03/01/1976 Jerome Testo & Frances Colyer Jesse R. Venegas08/26/1985 04/14/2011 Brent R. Venegas Phoebe Stewart Washer 08/23/1987 04/14/2008 Drew Washer & David Washer ___________________________________________________________________ He that conceals his grief finds no remedy for it~ Turkish Proverb The Loving Listener One day last month, seemingly out of nowhere, my dark and dreaded companion “grief” came roaring back into my life. Just as I thought I was “doing all right,” grief came once again to wrench, rip, and tear at the thin delicate membrane of scar tissue that had formed over the wound in my heart, that I had foolishly believed allowed me to be normal again. I was in unbearable agony. I thought, “Oh my God, I can’t believe I ever hurt this bad. How did I ever survive this agony?” I finally pulled myself together as best I could and reached out to one of our beautiful angels of mercy. I called our “Loving Listener.” “Hi, do you have a minute?” She chirped “Absolutely!” I went on to pour out my heart to her. She listened patiently. She offered no quick fixes or advice, trite phrases, or empty platitudes. She just spiritually embraced me and suffered along with me; quietly offering her love, compassion and understanding. When most of my pain and sorrow had finally emptied out, I realized it was coming up on the anniversary death date of my child. It would mark five years since the death of my beloved daughter Angela. This was the catalyst that had plunged me back into the abyss of grief. I could not bear the thought that my beautiful child had been dead for a half a decade. As soon as I realized what had caused this awful digression, I began to feel a little better. If your chapter has a Loving Listener, please give them a call. They will give you solace, comfort and companionship. We Need Not Walk Alone. Janet G. Reyes TCF Alamo Area Chapter, TX ___________________________________________________________ Every one can master a grief but he that has it ~ William Shakespeare _____________________________________________________________ Friends Asking Friends Virtual Walk Remember a Child, Support TCF in the “Friends Asking Friends” Virtual Walk Fundraiser TCF’s Friends Asking Friends® Fundraiser will be held again in 2014 and is designed to honor the memory of your child, sibling, or grandchild and also to support the work of The Compassionate Friends. By building a remembrance website and participating in the ninth “Friends Asking Friends®” virtual walk fundraiser, you can help to guarantee TCF will always be there, even if you are unable to attend the actual Walk in Chicago, IL on July 13, 2014. The annual Friends Asking Friends program has raised as much as $100,000, critical in the outreach programs of The Compassionate Friends, both on a national and local basis, as all TCF chapters are invited to participate. We ask for your help so that no one need walk this difficult grief journey alone! (Note: participation in the Friends Asking Friends® fundraiser does not register you for the Walk to Remember). Check the TCF national website for more information at www.compassionatefriends.org. Love Gifts In Loving Memory of Christian Mitchell Neltner Leach 2/12/74 - 9/2/02 Dearest Chris, You are ever in our hearts! Marcie and Don Leach In Loving Memory of Matthew David Hubal 7/1/1971 - 3/24/1994 Memories of your laughter, huge heart and love remain with us forever, dear son. Mom & Dad Louise & Bruce Hubal In Loving Memory of Renee Francesca Garcia 7/5/1954-11/27/1976 Good night, my sweet Francesca. Love, Mama Bertila Garcia In Loving Memory of Taylor Lynn Cohen 8/17/1993 - 3/22/2008 Miss and Love You with all our heart and Soul! Michael, Gail & Mason Cohen LOVE GIFT FORM Love Gifts are “messages” published in our newsletter that honor children who have died. We are grateful to parents, grandparents and others who, by their Love Gifts donations, allow us to offer resources such as the Annual Candle Lighting Event, the newsletter, books, brochures and pamphlets at no cost to assist bereaved families. They also allow us to provide information to professionals and others who impact the lives and feelings of the bereaved. The donation amount is your choice, and Love Gifts are tax-deductible as allowed by law. Deadlines for Love Gift information for Newsletters: Jan/Feb issue - Dec. 15 Mar/April issue - March 07 May/June issue - April 15 July/Aug issue - June 15 Sept/Oct issue - Aug. 15 Nov/Dec issue - Oct. 15 Child’s name _________________________________________ Donor’s name ____________________________ Child’s Birthdate & Anniversary Date ______________________________________Newsletter month________ Message_____________________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________________ Include your name, address and phone # if not on check in case of questions: ____________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________________ Mail the information above along with your donation (check) made payable to TCF/Marin to: TCF/Marin Newsletter Editor, P.O. Box 150935, San Rafael, CA 94915. Non-Profit Org. 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