Badisa bied by uitstek vir elkeen die geleentheid om diensbaar te

Junie 2015
June 2015
Badisa bied by uitstek vir elkeen die geleentheid om diensbaar te
wees, nie net op Mandela-dag nie, maar die hele jaar deur. Die
boodskap van Mandela-dag is dat elke individu die vermoë en die
verantwoordelikheid het om die wêreld ten goede te verander.
Badisa gee elke jaar aan vrywilligers by die onderskeie programme
erkenning. Tydens die organisasie se Algemene Jaarvergadering op
1 September 2015 sal daar weer spesiale toekennings vir uitstaande
vrywilligersprojekte gemaak word.
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Internasionale dag teen Substansafhanklikheid:
‘n Oproep tot Gemeenskapsbetrokkenheid
26 Junie
is deur die Verenigde Nasies
gekies as Internasionale Dag teen
Substansafhanklikheid
en
Onwettige
Handel. Hierdie dag spreek tot die VN se
verbintenis om die doelwit van ’n
internasionale samelewing, wat vry van substansafhanklikheid is, daar te stel.
In Suid-Afrika dien die Nasionale Ontwikkelingsplan as die riglyn vir die voorkoming en
vermindering
van
alkohol en
middelafhanklikheid.
Die naakte waarheid:
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Navorsing dui daarop dat die maatskaplike koste van substansverwante trauma
en ongelukke in
Suid-Afrika
by
verre dié van ander lande oorskry, en
dat dronkenskap ’n beduidende
rol
speel in padongelukke.
Die verhouding tussen alkohol en onwettige middels, misdaad en geweld is
beide direk en kompleks.
Volgens die Suid-Afrikaanse Epidemiologienetwerk van
Dwelmgebruik
(SACENDU), toon Suid-Afrika wêreldwyd
die hoogste persentasie van Fetale Alkoholsindroom
(FAS)
en
ook
dat
alkoholafkanklikheid toegeneem het.
Tik (of Metamfetamine) het vernaam in
die Wes-Kaap as die grootste probleem
toegeneem, met
vrouens as die
mees afhanklike geslag.
Die
aantal
werkloses
wat
vir
binnepasiëntbehandeling
toegelaat
word is twee keer hoër as dié van hul
werkende eweknieë.
Hoe benader Badisa rehabilitasie?
Badisa is ’n maatskaplike dienste organisasie wat onder andere ook dienste lewer aan
individue met ‘n substansafhanklikheid. Hul
benadering word sterk gereguleer deur hul
waardes en toewyding tot diensbaarheid,
geregtigheid, rentmeesterskap en uitnemendheid.
Ramot Behandelingsentrum vir Substansafhanklikheid, in Parow geleë,
bedien tans ongeveer 400 pasiënte per jaar
en bestaan al die afgelope 51 jaar. Slegs
100 van hul 400-bedkapasiteit word deur
die Departement van Maatskaplike Ontwikkeling befonds, wat beteken dat die balans
van die pasiënte privaat befonds moet
word. Tydens ’n gesprek met Enya van Zyl,
een van die
maatskaplike werkers by
die Sentrum, benadruk sy dat die donasie
van vars kos een
van hul grootste
uitdagings bly,
synde pasiënte
op
die
herstelpad ’n toename in eetlus
openbaar
na
afloop van hul
fisiese ontgifting.
Toevlug, nog ’n
Behandelingsentrum van Badisa
in Worcester, bedien jeugdiges.
Volgens Toevlug se Bestuurder, Theresa
Rossouw, is die volgende faktore kommerwekkend wanneer daar met jeugdiges
gewerk word:
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’n Tekort aan ouerlike rolmodelle;
Terugkeer na tuistes waar daar selfs nie aan
hul mees basiese behoeftes voorsien word
nie (kos, skuiling of aanvaarding);
Hoë vlakke van aggressie en die onvermoë
om op ’n aanvaarbare wyse konflik te
hanteer;
Opvoedkundige agterstande as gevolg van
die substansafhanklikheid;
Swak lees- en skryfvaardighede;
Nie bevoeg om na die skoolstelsel terug te
keer, maar tog te jonk om te gaan werk;
Die onvermoë om hul vrye tyd konstruktief te
benut;
Blootstelling aan bendes vanaf ’n vroeë ouderdom, waar hierdie bendeleiers ook hul
rolmodelle word; en
’n Tekort aan morele waardes.
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Volgens Ronel van Zyl, Direkteur: Maatskaplike Dienste by Badisa is die ouderdomsgroep van kinders tussen 9 en 11 wat al hoe meer afhanklikheid toon, veral kommerwekkend. Sy beklemtoon dat professionele hulp ingeroep moet word vir behandeling
en dat die publiek moet seker maak dat die sentrum ingevolge die wet geregistreer is
by die Departement van Maatskaplike Ontwikkeling.
Waarom betrokke raak?
Individue met ‘n substansafhanklikheid bestaan nie in isolasie nie, en behalwe vir die
hulp wat aan hierdie individue gebied word, het dit ook ’n positiewe impak op hul families, kinders, vriende en kollegas. Om in hierdie individue te belê het dus ’n direkte effek
op all sfere van ons samelewing.
How you can help a child that is exposed to
substance dependent parents
Drug Awareness Week 24 – 28 June is there to
remind us of the struggle so many still face with substance dependency – and the effects this has on
family and society as a whole. You may know someone – particularly a child – who may be suffering because someone in their family is dependent on substances. This week is the perfect time to take a step
and find a way to help.
Whether you come into contact with a child in this
situation as a teacher, a friend, or a family relation,
the key is to spot the signs that so often signal the
trauma the child is experiencing. Once you know
the signs, learn the approach, and then plan the
actions you can take to make a difference in that
child’s life.
It’s a one-on-one technique. You don’t need to be
trained, you just need to learn the basic cautions
and procedure. As you help one child at a time, you
help to heal that young person’s distress, and they in
turn can affect others. It’s a ripple effect – and the
intervention of one can ultimately bring about
change for many.
These behaviours may vary from
child to child, but there are some
specific reactions that can be
tracked
Often a child will work extra hard to make up for the
lack of parent, striving to be the model of perfection
– but in a way that is beyond normal or necessary –
desperately seeking approval and affirmation.
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In contrast to the above, rebellious behaviour, becoming troublesome, or even breaking the law very often hides feelings of fear,
hurt, rejection and loneliness.
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Sometimes a child may appear detached, a
dreamer, but they may not be as
content as they appear; this quiet reticence
may hide feelings of anger and inadequacy
shown in occasional irrational flashes of emotion.
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Then there’s the clown. Always making jokes
Signs that a child is under stress
and being the jolly life of the party, almost to
the point of irritation to others. Hyperactive
caused by substance dependency
but fragile and easily hurt, often hiding feelat home
ings of fear and low self-esteem.
Every day, thousands of children experience physi•
A child may display difficulty in having fun,
cal, verbal and emotional abuse from parents who
resulting in a low grade and continual deare dependent on alcohol and/or drugs, resulting in
pression – or difficulty with emotional relation
confusion and intense anxiety. In order to survive in a
ships – or the clear effects of chronic anxiety.
home where healthy parental love is absent, they
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Compulsively lying about anything and
develop individual methods of survival early in life.
everything – surrounding themselves with an
almost fantasy alternative to their lives.
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How to talk to a child about the
problem
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Children are often reluctant to share long-held family secrets, even if they are seeking support. In this
difficult situation, how do you connect with them?
Here are some pointers:
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Time the conversation to take place when there
will be no distractions.
Talk openly about change, substance dependency, treatment, separation, divorce and repeat
the conversation as often as the child needs in
order to feel comfortable with the discussion.
Be as direct as possible, but always end on a
positive note.
Ensure you are informed, and be honest when
answering the child’s questions.
Validate the child’s experience but remind them
that their parent’s substance dependency is not
their fault.
Put things into perspective and tell them they
are not alone; they are normal kids trying to
cope in an unhealthy, stressful situation.
Encourage them to talk about their feelings without criticism or judgment.
Let them know there are resources available to
help them process their emotions.
Techniques to affect a positive
influence
The earlier you can intervene, the better. The longer
a child suffers in silence, the greater the damage he
or she will experience.
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Remember that the environment is very
important. Healing can only take place if the
child feels secure in a safe atmosphere.
Remember to have patience. It will take a
while to gain the trust of children from troubled families. Defence is all they know. They
have learned their entire lives that they must
protect their family’s secrets.
Remember to see things from their perspective. Children exposed to substance abuse
have learned to survive by suppressing their
emotions, so it’s difficult for them to
acknowledge those emotions, let alone discuss them. Let them know that they can say
anything, discuss anything in confidence and
without fear of rejection.
Remember to prepare yourself for any topic,
and never show any signs of shock or recrimi
nation.
Badisa is a social services organisation that focuses on making a real difference, one person at a
time. With our ‘drop in the ocean’ principle, we
have made a difference to thousands of lives.
Join us on our journey. Find that one person you can
help, that one child who may just need a good listener, an understanding heart – and who might, on
your kind gesture, give back a sense of hope,
change and happiness beyond your expectation.
Find out more about what we do at:
www.badisa.org.za or visit our rehabilitation centres
at www.ramot.co.za or www.toevlug.org
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Good news: A new life after rehabilitation
Coming out of an in-patient rehabilitation programme successfully is a great feeling. You have made a definite decision to
stop, kept with the programme, and
pushed yourself to limits you couldn’t imagine a few weeks before. You worked with
focus, intensity and determination. But you
did it! And now “normal life” should start
again. Right?
We’ll respond with a cautious, “yes”. Sobriety and lifestyle changes are what we
hope for. It’s the purpose of the treatment
programme after all. But recovery is far
more than just attaining sobriety after treatment at a rehab centre. It is also vital to
stay focused and persevere with specific
goals identified during the treatment programme.
It is more than just saying ‘no’ to one’s substance of choice – it is a carefully designed preparation to prevent relapse into old user habits.
Relapse prevention has the goal of identifying and preventing high-risk situations and understanding
warning signs. There are a number of factors which may affect the momentum of recovery – and therefore it is crucial to stay with a comprehensive post-inpatient plan which accounts for interpersonal interactions, emotional triggers and the development of healthy coping mechanisms.
Keeping the goals of rehab alive once you have to face things on your own can be daunting, and therefore you need to understand the pitfalls along the way.
The aftercare plan / Working a programme
The aftercare plan is not something to be considered only after leaving rehabilitation but should be wellprepared beforehand. Facing a new life with a clear mind is difficult because while you may have
changed, there are always memories that may come to haunt you. Therefore, while still in the programme, discussing ways to maintain your eventual recovery with counsellors, therapists, family and peers
is vital. A plan will help you to cope with the inevitable withdrawal symptoms and cravings which may
plague you for some time after leaving rehabilitation. A plan will help you cope with possible cravings as
well as triggers which you may have to deal with.
The influence of others
The thing is, you can’t get your life entirely back together again on your own. You need to make sure you
maintain connections with the right people. Key involvement may include:
“It is more than just saying ‘no’ to
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one’s substance of choice – it is a
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carefully designed preparation to
prevent relapse into old user habits. “
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Keeping up regular follow-up appointments.
Joining a transitional safe house where you can
slowly integrate back into everyday life without the
strains of family and with a support background.
 Maintaining a connection with the in-patient rehabilitation centre through outpatient care.
Reviewing your ultimate return home as perhaps not your best option; the environment may simply
create a replay of the factors that sent you into rehab in the first place.
Being careful of returning too quickly to a stressful routine.
Keeping a regular connection with a sober sponsor to keep you alert and aware of clues that
may indicate a relapse – and who will help you break this pattern.
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Key points in your plan
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In any life changing situation where both physical
and mental adjustments must be maintained, you
need to concentrate on the positive effects of
starting over. You need to set goals and pursue
them. And there are several points you need to
keep in mind:
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Keeping busy and active is a way of deflecting
negative thoughts – don’t give yourself time to
dwell on the past – keep focused and involved.
Keep a weekly diary and fill it with appointments, visits, study, work targets, and enjoyable
things like walking on the beach or catching a
movie.
Surround yourself with sober friends. The company you keep will be vital to ensure you don’t
fall under old negative influences. Say goodbye
to people who have damaged you in the past
or who seek to push you back into old ways.
Keep positive connections and engage with
them as often as possible.
You have new choices now. Life is open to you.
Take time to investigate your interests and how
to pursue them. Take up a hobby, learn a craft,
consider distance learning to improve your
knowledge.
Join a support group where you can interact
with others who understand your situation and
where you’re wanting to go. Share ideas, plan
a future with people who are equally determined to build a better life.
Take it slow, give yourself time to repair damage both to yourself and to others you may
have hurt along the way. Learn to change old
habits and develop an entirely new regime of
daily tasks.
Keep an eye on physical fitness – join an exercise class or jog every day. Take up meditation.
Go on a good diet or just focus on eating more
healthily.
And don’t forget to use the vital effect of your
valuable experience to help others in similar
difficulties whenever and wherever you can.
Recovering is a life-changing process. But it
doesn’t end when you leave the programme. At
Ramot we are very aware of this and have a welldeveloped aftercare programme that affords continued support and guidance to help you stay on
the road to recovery.
Ramot follows a holistic approach in the treatment
of people living with drug, alcohol, prescription
medication and other forms of dependencies. Our
unique approach ensures that our patients leave
the rehabilitation centre with a realistic plan and
the confidence to live their lives to their fullest potential.
Find out more about us at: www.ramot.co.za
Goeie nuus vanuit Toevlug:
“Baie dankie aan Toevlug. Julle het definitief ’n
groot verskil in my en ’n paar vriende se lewens
kom maak en ek is nou al 3 jaar skoon. Danksy God
en Toevlug het ek uit die huis uitgetrek waarin ek
gesmokkel het en my vrou het saam met my
gekom.”
“Op 8 Junie, sal ek my 26ste soberheidsverjaarsdag
vier: Aan God alle eer en aan Toevlug Sentrum:
Baie dankie dat julle daar was om my op die regte
pad te sit (Junie 1989). As jy nou nog twyfel dat
"Toevlug" nie kan help nie, dink weer. Probeer en
vertrou dat die personeel by Toevlug jou kan help
en ondersteun. Dit het vir my gewerk, dit kan ook
vir jou of ’n geliefde werk.”
“I'd like to give a big shout out to Toevlug for
saving my life. I walked into Toevlug after 21 years
of active addiction, a broken individual, and left
a new man with a plan for life. I want to thank
everybody for the roles they played in helping me
put back the pieces of a miserable existence.
Once the pieces were back in place, the picture
of a bright future showed.”
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You are now a different person to the one who
went into rehabilitation. Prove this to your family
and friends, be prepared to redevelop relationships on a different footing. Give family a new
set of expectations of you that they can rely on.
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Skitterman: deur Rian Cloete
Dit het onmiddellik my oog gevang toe ons by die
Sonder huiwering trek hy weg: Neem my in beskerming Heer... Here, u is my lewe. Die woorde val
soos groot klippe in my hart. Tjoemp, tjoemp.
Opera vir ’n dors siel. Hy sit dikwels alleen op die
sangbank by die Instituut en sing. Só lief is hy vir
musiek.
hek inry van die Instituut vir Blindes te Worcester.
Ek het dadelik penorent gesit, want ek was nog in
stille verwondering oor die talle statige geboue wat
ek gesien het toe ons dié Bolandse dorp inry. Pragtig, indrukwekkend - monumente van lief en leed.
By die Instituut, sou ek later ontdek, is daar óók monumente - lewende monumente van liefde. Die lewe Ek wens ek het die geld gehad... Hy bly stil en ek vra
nie verder uit nie. Wikus het my hart hard geraak. Sy
straal uit hulle soos die brandkraan wat Wikus dié
toewyding aan die brandkrane, daar is heelwat op
oggend blinkvryf.
die iInstituut se grond, sy versorging van die laventel,
die roosmaryn en die lemmetjieboom.
Hy't ’n blou oorpak aangehad terwyl hy die koHy is gelukkig hier en kan net met lof van die bestuur
perkop van die brandkraan sorgvuldig blink vryf.
praat. Wikus, die Skitterman.
Byna teer. Ek' t eendag net besluit om die kraan te
tackle, vertel Wikus my later. Rian, jy moet weet die
kraan was pikswart aangepak, dit vat sweet om dit
so blink te kry. Ek't lief geraak daarvoor, dit het so ’n
skoon metaalreuk. Dit stimuleer my en maak my
kalm.
Wikus doen dit al die afgelope nege jaar lank. Hy' s
een van die swaksiende inwoners van die Instituut vir
Blindes en is ook multigestremd.
Ek kan nie kla nie, dis “genuine” my tuiste dié, vertel
hy oor die Instituut . Ek sal nêrens buite
kan aanpas nie.
Hy skitter soos sy brandkrane, vir Jesus.
Jy vat eers die fyn skuurpapier en dan die Brasso. Dis
vinnig met Brasso, maar dis nou baie duur. Dis
hoekom ek nou daai wollerige goed in die matrasse
gebruik.
Hy kry dit hier by die matrasafdeling waar hy ook
gewerk het. Hulle het eers bietjie met my gesukkel,
maar ek kan dit nou in my werkstyd doen.
Hy is lief vir sy werk. Só maak die Here ons ook skoon
van Satan se dinge. Eerlike en onomwonde
woorde.
Wikus wou eers matrasse maak, maar het 18 jaar
gelede in sy vrye tyd Huis Eben se vensters begin
skoonmaak. Nou doen hy dit met die brandkrane.
Hy is tevrede terwyl hy met my praat. Tevrede en
kalm, kalm soos die blink kraan hom maak. Die laventels wat hy aanplant het dieselfde kalmerende
effek. Ek't so lus om 'n takkie te breek en kamer toe
te neem.
Ek moedig hom aan.
Wikus sing ook in die manskoor en daar is so baie
liedere waarvan hy hou. Psalm 16, verwerkings van
Awie van Wyk... Hy hou nie eintlik van wêreldsliedjies
nie. Sal hy asseblief ’n lied vir my sing?
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Onderhoud met Rian Cloete
Jy was ‘n nuusman, dink jy die werk wat Badisa
doen is nuuswaardig?
Rian Cloete, het vir ‘n wyle ‘n paadjie gestap met
Badisa en sy omgee-insig gedeel rondom wat hy
waarneem op sy reise. Hy het in 'n wêreld grootgeword met twee interessante kante, Namakwaland.
Enersyds is daar die pragtige lenteblomme in Augustus en September en andersyds die wye bruin en
ylbegroeide vlaktes waar interessante plantwonders
skuil.
“O ja, absoluut. By Badisa is daar soveel goeie nuus
stories om te vertel en ek hoop ek sal eendag kan.
Mense offer hulle liefde onvoorwaardelik en dit is 'n
wel verdiende getuigskrif”.
Wat is jou visie vir Badisa vir die toekoms?
“Dat die organisasie deur sy werk God se hart aan
elke mens sal openbaar.”
Hoe sien jy die sakekern se betrokkenheid by Badisa
en het hulle ‘n rol te speel?
“Ek wil die sakewêreld eerstens bedank vir hulle onbaatsugtige skenkings en vra kom ons doen selfs
méér. Daar is derduisende ander wat deur die kundigheid en omgee van Badisa bereik kan word.
Het jy ‘n mentor?
“Die wêreld leer my baie....”
Mei is Kinderbeskermingsmaand, hoekom is hierdie
in jou opinie ‘n belangrike vraagstuk nou in SuidAfrika?
Maar die bekoorlike halfmens is die koning van die
vetplante, en loer na jou met die oë van gister en
plaas terselfdertyd hoop in jou vir môre. Steinkopf is
sy grootworddorp waar hy saans na 'n manjifieke
hemelruim kon staar en in verwondering
spoet niks kon tel.
“Ons kinders word verbrysel en saam daarmee word
die toekoms verdonker. Ons kinders IS die toekoms.”
Gedurende die afgelope 3 maande het jy baie
mense ontmoet en baie dinge eerstehands ervaar,
wat is die oomblikke wat jou altyd sal bybly?
“Daar is só baie, maar Wikus van die Instituut vir
Blindes op Worcester sal altyd by my skitter. Ek het 'n
kort storietjie oor hom geskryf wat hopelik eendag in
Hy het onderwys in die Kaap studeer, skoolgehou,
gedoseer, begin nuus uitsaai op SABC 2 en toe koers julle nuusbrief te lees sal wees.”
gekry Namibië toe. En so die geboorte van 'n nuwe
Wat is jou gunstelinge?
volk beleef.
Drankie:
Het jy ‘n gesin, vertel ons meer van hulle?
Dis nie in die Kaap beskikbaar nie: yskoue water
“My vrou, Wilma is 'n Namibiër wat ek 'n week na
uit 'n puts.
ons troue een Desember Johannesburg toe geneem
het. Daar het ek toe tien jaar vir die SABC gewerk in Kos:
radio en televisie. My drie kinders, Kara, Liam en
Vis en.... heerlike kerrie afval.
Josua is in Gauteng gebore. Nou studeer Kara medies in die Kaap en is die twee seuns by Paul Roos
Vakansiebestemming:
Gimnasium op Stellenbosch: Liam in matriek en Jos
Plekke wat my meevoer. Soos Namakwaland in
in graad 9. My kinders is plat-op-die-aarde mense
en ons kan God nie genoeg dankie sê vir hulle nie.” blom, en Namibië as die bruingeelgras oor
rooi sandduine gallop.
Wanneer en hoe het jy te hore gekom van Badisa?
Tydverdryf:
“Ek het Badisa meer as 'n jaar gelede deur Christi
Lees, outobiografië en verhale wat vertel van ontmoFranken, een van die Badisa Champions leer ken.”
etings met God.
Volgens Rian
Wat was jou betrokkenheid tot dusver?
het sy betrokkenheid by Badisa van hom 'n beter
“Ek het 'n baie beter mens geword in my kontak met mens gemaak. Dit kan vir jou ook baie beteken. Besoek een van ons programme en raak bevan die programme en hulle mense. Die inwoners
trokke. www.badisa.org.za
van Alta du Toit nasorgsentrum en die Instituut vir
Blindes op Worcester het my weer God se hand laat
sien.“
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